Trust issues

[Ethanjed23 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Ethanjed23]

So I got out of a relationship that really scarred me,I don't want to get into it too much but let's just say it left me extremely insecure and actually led to me finding this place,I honestly doubt I could trust a woman in a relationship at this point,not because there isn't good women out there,just because at this point I'm pretty messed up and I don't think I'd know how to act with a girl that actually cared about me,I don't want to screw around,I don't want a fling,I want someone I can build something with,but I honestly just don't see it happening at this point😞

[closed251 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed251]

Just give yourself some time to recover.

Be selfish in a good way by focusing just on you and your wants. Go out with mates, go to the gym, start hobbies you always wanted to try but didn't have the time.

You'll know when your ready to get back out in the dating game. And I know it will be hard but do your best not to hate your ex. It will only damage you, just think it's her lost.

[Ethanjed23 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Ethanjed23]

You're right,I got involved with a girl soon after and she wanted things to be pretty serious,I just can't bring myself to feel anything for her or anyone at this point though

[OneHungNotSoLow Member Find all posts View Profile Close OneHungNotSoLow]

So I got out of a relationship that really scarred me,I don't want to get into it too much but let's just say it left me extremely insecure and actually led to me finding this place,I honestly doubt I could trust a woman in a relationship at this point,not because there isn't good women out there,just because at this point I'm pretty messed up and I don't think I'd know how to act with a girl that actually cared about me,I don't want to screw around,I don't want a fling,I want someone I can build something with,but I honestly just don't see it happening at this point

It will come around for you. You sound young...(as is less than 33)? Either way, there's time.

In the meantime, PE your winky wanker to E.P.I.C. proportions while using it for fvkking as much as humanly possible....even with a fat girl or two.

[Ethanjed23 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Ethanjed23]

I'm 19,and what other type of girl is there?lol

[MAG5 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close MAG5]

I'm 19,and what other type of girl is there?lol

You're so young, I wouldn't worry. Go out, have fun, be social, have a hobby, get really good at something you love, meet new people, focus on improving yourself and advancing in life. Over time you'll recover. Don't pressure yourself to find someone. I'm 25, good looking, great body (actually signed with a modeling agency) make decent money, and I didn't get my first girlfriend till I was 24. Before that, I slept with tons of women, went on casual dates and such, and im glad I didn't rush anything. Exposing myself to so many different woman, all types of personalities, looks, etc. really allowed to me realize what i really really want in a girl. After going through all those girls and with such a variety amongst them I knew very very well what kind of girls I get along with best and what kind would work best for me in a relationship. It allows you to narrow things down, finding the traits that mesh with you, the throwing away the lens that don't. Now I'm in a relationship and it's going amazingly. Her personality is just what I get along with best, one of the nicest girls you could meet, no drinking, no partying, no drugs, makes great money, works out 6 days a week, eats healthy, very close with her family, smart, athletic, simplest things make her so happy. Can't ask for much better.

[MAG5 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close MAG5]

But yes, quality women are incredibly hard to find. Plenty of women I'd fuck and casually hang with but to commit to...that's a different story. You'll find her. Just don't be TOO picky and shallow and realize not everyone's perfect, that includes you and I. Some compromises will have to be made.