GF losing patience with me because I'm not horny

[okayok Banned Find all posts View Profile Close okayok]

you should try a viagra haha

I already said I have some Cialis. It makes me hard but also numbs my dick. If I don't cum she'll get mad.

[Aethelwulf Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Aethelwulf]

Personally my EQ and libido is tied to my general mood. I'm prone to recurring depression and it comes on in cycles.. Much like bipolar disorder, but nowhere near prevalent or intense to be labelled as such, or even labelled at all. Regardless, even though I've been doing PE and seen marked improvement, when I'm in one of these 'low' periods my member and sex drive will still suffer. It's made me realise that half of my problem is actually psychosomatic. You can take all the supplements you like, but if the issue is in your head then it will take a different kind of recovery.

[apo Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close apo]

okayok,
in my opinion you could work in two ways:
1) Change Cialis with Levitra, so you can have sex even if you are anxious or depressed.
2) Fix your relationship and libido problems.

For Libido, someone already talked about blood analysis, but you can also try aphrodisiacs. Make your partner wear her best lingerie and her best perfume, and go in.

For relationship, talk to her, but don't be aggressive. She must understand your problems, and be by your side, even if you fail into the bed. Meantime you must win the instinct of running away from sex.
If she don't understand probably she's not the right one. This also applies if you aren't interested anymore on her. Do you make fantasties on your GF? Do you watch or make fantasies on other women? Do you watch porn?

[okayok Banned Find all posts View Profile Close okayok]

okayok,
in my opinion you could work in two ways:
1) Change Cialis with Levitra, so you can have sex even if you are anxious or depressed.
2) Fix your relationship and libido problems.

For Libido, someone already talked about blood analysis, but you can also try aphrodisiacs. Make your partner wear her best lingerie and her best perfume, and go in.

For relationship, talk to her, but don't be aggressive. She must understand your problems, and be by your side, even if you fail into the bed. Meantime you must win the instinct of running away from sex.
If she don't understand probably she's not the right one. This also applies if you aren't interested anymore on her. Do you make fantasties on your GF? Do you watch or make fantasies on other women? Do you watch porn?

I don't have ED. My testosterone is high. I just had a blood test done. My free testosterone is OFF THE CHARTS HIGH. I also take DIM, Zinc, Vit D. I squat over double body weight.

I watch porn to get hard for pumping. I might have gotten carried away and overdone it.

To be honest I guess I'm not that sexually attracted to my gf anymore. If you saw my other thread about her, I said I had a problem with her mentioning her bigger ex boyfriend's dick(s?). And asking me to go deeper. That killed my libido for her. Every time I imagine my dick going inside her I get the "feeling". I find myself craving other girls all day long. Also her vagina doesn't have that sweet/musky smell I love. It's like eating pasta without the sauce.

[iiimegamaniii Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close iiimegamaniii]

If you saw my other thread about her, I said I had a problem with her mentioning her bigger ex boyfriend's dick(s?). And asking me to go deeper. That killed my libido for her...

You pretty much identified the issue right there. If you want to continue and be in a relationship with her, then you need to tell her what she did. It seems she's wanting sex because she senses something amiss (because honestly, us guys aren't hard to figure out) and wants to make it better / feel closer to you.

Happens all of the time--communication issues. Still happens to me in a 20+ year marriage. She says or does something, I take it completely opposite, stew on it for a while, then things blow-up and she had no idea what was going on.

Talk. It's free and will stop you from playing mind games with yourself.

IMHO.

Good luck!

- Mega

[Norwaydude Senior Member Member of the Month Oct. 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close Norwaydude]

Maybe you two just arent compatible? If you dont spill your heart to her you wont get past this stuff it seems. At the moment i would like a gf that wanted sex all the time.. BUT i have also been in relationship where the girl wants sex just to get her personal confirmation that i want her. And that can be a turnoff for me. I would like just as much her to be genuinly horny and wanting me also. I dont want to fuck her just so that she can feel attractive. I think you should tell her blunt out: that you are a bit needy and needs a whole lot of reassuring to feel ready for sex. (Maybe choose some other words..) both of you should focus on building eachother up. Not tearing eachother down.

[Trapezius Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Trapezius]

Thinking back my own life. I would not try to fix for very long a new relationship that is not working. If the problem is in you, then it follows to next relationship. But this sounds like changing woman could solve the problem.