Separation

[Shamany Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Shamany]

It seems an old page in my life closed and a new page will open.

Got a separation viber message from my gf who said the following:

"I've been thinking about everything for last few days, and I finally made the decision. I think it's best for us to go separate ways. I know that you are also tired of trying, and I'm also very tired too. My energy is at low point and my intuition has been telling me to go different way for quite some time. That's why i mentioned breaking up few times before, but i never intended to hurt you. I think that both of us deserve to be happy. I'm sorry if i ever hurted you, it really never was my intention.

Again I'm sorry if i ever made you trouble, or waisted you time, or anything else. At least we both tried really hard for this to work, but the things that don't flow naturally are probably not meant to be. I really had only love for you, but i fell it's best for both of us."
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I have been abroad for 2 weeks now. When she said goodbye in airport, everything was fine despite we passed through misunderstandings before as I mentioned about it on this forum at past. But I felt before travelling that she didnt want me to travel on bad terms or when we were in disagreement. During my travel we talked once on viber video and messaged rarely then in past week she no longer initiated contact and stopped showing love emojis, so she changed. I pointed about that, she replied that she feels doing more than enough and everybody have ther perspective.

After this ridiculous, no caring reply, I didnt reply to her, that was from last friday. Until her separation message today which I saw without replying.

There is a vacation house rented for "us" before that she must pay its utilities 150 Cad, because owner asking and if I want to keep it for next month so she tells him, in her same message said that, and if I do not transfer that amount, she'll borrow money to pay. And said anyways she'll start taking out her stuff!

Honestly, was thinking to never reply to her seperation message because it is a clear disrespect her way of separation especially that she knows that am gonna be back by end of month, but she preferred to send me "her decision" by viber!!

A respectful person will wait until I come back to discuss or say it face to face especially after everything that was between us which seems now as if was a big lie!

At best case, thought of transfering her the money without replying to her message.

But more thinking leads me to not even send her any money, let her go borrow from any creep, no longer give a damn after her disrespectful way of dealing with me. At end, rented the house for us, so let her pay part of it, again specially after her disrespectful way.

For the note, last year at same day separated from my ex gf.

What a weird date and destiny! Anyways Life continues..

Most importantly, still with humility, am sure she'll never find a man like me and what I can offer for women in different aspects.

[Party Senior Member Member of the Month August 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Party]

Don’t let it get you down, go out with class, head high. My son is 27 and lost his 6th girlfriend. He’s ok with it. He knows as you should There’s a keeper out there for both of you. Somchin up, someday you’ll say she did you a favor. Treat her that way, send the money.

[closed251 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed251]

Don't get to hung up that she ended things over text. I sometimes think it's kinder. I would want my relationships to end this way to be honest.

People always say face to face but does that really help? Someone seeing you getting your heart broken or pride hurt.

Personally I would do what you think is right, something that at later date you can say to yourself and others, I was the bigger person.

[proactive Senior MemberMember of the Month ? 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close proactive]

From someone who has recently been majorly screwed over I agree with party and tara.

[Norwaydude Senior Member Member of the Month Oct. 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close Norwaydude]

Yup! Youre better off in the long run. Now Get out there and find some casual sex! Best of luck!

[Shamany Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Shamany]

Guys, your comments are appreciated.

Honestly, when read her message had neutral feelings and still..maybe because after my travel felt she changed, but the blame and sadness is in the way...

I look at it from my point of view that if I want to end a relationship, will never do it over a text message, and when my partner is in another country and coming back in a week.

That is total disrespect, that shows there was no real love and caring.

You never do that to a person you really loved and shared deep feeling & memories together.

The worst in her now worried about the house owner getting utilities money asap. Despite told her last week to tell him when am back at month end will pay him. But she said dont want him to wait!!

She again sent me texts today asking if wanna keep that house and send her money, to please answer her by day end!!

Look what she's bothered of and worried about!!

As my first thought was, will do, by sending her the money and not replying to any of her texts as am doing.

Tomorrow or the after will send her the money and text her copy of the transfer receipt only.

I was always the bigger person and higher head in the relationship, so the end will be the same.

[Shamany Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Shamany]

Nowadays, focusing on my business projects, not really in the mood for relationship and even casual sex, not gonna have sex with anyone just for sake of sex, specially after short time of separation. Only in case I feel something nice toward a woman.

More interested in spending more time in nature too to clear my mind, relax and deeply focus on my life future plans.

When the one will appear from nowhere, will be more ready mentally and physically than ever.

[TheZZMan Moderator Member of the Month Sept 2018PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZMan]

Unfortunately, this is a part of dating. It sucks when it doesn't work out and I know the heartbreak of rejection. I was handed an engagement ring back to me after a couple of months of being engaged. Came out of the blue, unexpected with the same vague message, only it was done in person. What you need is closure, to be able to look her in the eye and tell you she is over. It is what soothed my heart and let me move on. Sorry for your woes, but I am a strong believer that things happen for a reason, and that a better person is out there waiting for you. Just have to find her.

[TBE Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TBE]

This is what happens with women. Out of the blue their brain switch and they will fuck you over. You should have anticipated that i guess.

[Shamany Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Shamany]

Continue reading to discover how their minds switch all the time!

[Shamany Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Shamany]

So after not replying to her separation message on Monday and she sending more on tuesday asking answer for house if want to keep it and send her utilities money to give owner...and not replying to that message too.

On Wednesday morning, while in the bank transfering her the money, got dozen of messages from her asking why she didnt deserve a single msg from me, and that I turned to be a low disrespectful man, she is very dissapointed..thatvI never call or msg her again, dont wanna see me anymore..ending it with may I find peace in myself and happiness in my life..

After finishing the transfer process, pictured the transfer receipt to send her it on viber, discovered she blocked me, and also on whatsapp, so sent her a phone message to check her whatsapp and God forgive her.

She texted me on whatsapp saying she cant find my texts because she blocked me and that it doesnt matter anymore, no excuses...

At that moment despite always wanted to just send her photo of transfer receipt, ending it there but couldnt only do that after her accusations, wanted her to know her fault, why she didnt deserve a single text from me.

So sent her text of The low and disrespectful is who separate by a viber text. Then sent her photo of transfer receipt and blocked her.

Later in the day she sent me phone msg saying to check my whatsapp, but ofcourse couldnt see her texts because blocked her already, after unblocking her, she said that she sent texts about not wanting us to hurt each other anymore..then told her not a problem we can talk..she answered by we can talk without you hoping us back together..Ignored her text...replied by will call you at this hour, she said going to pack her things from house, dont know what time she'll finish so we talk..replied by when you're ready call me..

At that time I was watching Champions league game with friends met abroad, after some time she sent me text saying she can talk after 10 mins, that time game ended and went with my friend to a club to drink. After an hour sent her a text saying, We talk tomorrow.

Next day Thursday, didnt call her to talk. Yesterday Friday afternoon, sent her text asking if house keys with owner. After short time she replied with many texts starting with that she gave him my key and kept her key because she still have some things to pick up. She gave him the money. And that she's visiting her mother living in another city tonight(friday) and coming back 2nd May. Texted her after 4 hours, have a good time with your mother, she replied after few mins., Thanks

Not gonna text her anything, most probable she'll text me by 2nd may.

Main questions here, if she was really serious about separation, why didnt she take all her stuff yet, she had lot of time, and why she needed to tell me where she is going, to who, and when coming back?!

[Shamany Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Shamany]

Things went to the worse because of her bitchy behavior.

The story ended.

[Shamany Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Shamany]

After all this time..she sent me a letter by canadapost.

She wrote about missing me, her life changed from last time we met, and she's very hurted by what I did but she understands now that I was hurted and didn't mean it. She was under big pressure, she thought was having sex with women abroad because I rarely talked to her and ignored her. She was afraid am just keeping her as on standby.
She knows that things once ended badly, it's broken and can not be fixed. She regrets everything bad that happened and never wanted it to end that way with the first man in her life and that she truely loved me but bad things happened quickly and couldnt be stopped. She wishes me happiness and to find love and romance am looking for.........

After 2 days(ago), sent her parcel of things she bought me during our relationship like mug and shirt still new had not used, also pillow, love letters and cards...

Honestly, felt I must do that, to tell her in action that I do not believe anything of what she did, said and happened in our relation, don't want anything related to her, as if saying these are stuff you gave me, take it..and all stuff that I bought you keep them...because it came from honesty and love.

I felt better after doing so...

[Shamany Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Shamany]

During the past period, met many women and girls. I'm again myself, playful happy chilling relaxed with women without thinking of girlfriend being jealous. I'm freely flying like a bird..

There's one woman 1 year younger than me that interests me the most, we had passionate sex. From first time we met it was amazing..we spoke for 30 minutes with eyes locked together and lot of emotions seen through eyes talking..She's calm and smart, the type I like, she's also independent, there's nice energy working when together.

Although, dated 3 other women(one is still 20), didn't feel similar emotions and connection, they like me but am like normal..not going deeper..with who I dont really feel something special with..

Keeping communication with all, lets see how things go..

Most importantly now that I feel learnt a lot from the breakup, grew as a man on self confidence, esteem and relationship level as if returned being the real player was in my 20s..

Last woman dated yesterday told me she likes me because I look relaxed in my own skin, satisfied of myself.

Honestly, I feel that too