my 2 cents

[chrisisbroke Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close chrisisbroke]

i have been on the site a little while now browsing through some of the forums, and some of the things that people say on here about women there relationship to sex with them and the all and all can sound kinda fucked up sometimes,

first of all i wanna say that pe is great becuase it makes us male bodied people closer and in more control of ourselves and our penis, where learning to think with the bigger head thats gonna help make the little one a little bigger, and not just that but also some of us r realizing hey we might have a sex addiction a porn addiction, a masterbation addiction, and hope fully we can start understanding that maybe some of us have a fucked up view towards women. and i say that because i have seen some post from guys saying things like, my girlfriends such a tightass she wont have sex with me, or we finally had sex after i got her to losen up, now i lve sex i love sex alot, but we as men male bodied people need to understand that its wrong to pressure people into sex, using manipulation to get sex( if you love me you would.....) or making people feel bad for not having the kinda sex that you want. now everyone deserves to have all the grat hot kinky sex they want, but maybe if the person your with isnt intrested in haveing sex or the kind of sex that you want then you need to learn to let that go and maybe take a break from sex, not pressure someone into sex, or maybe talk about seeing other people or having an open relationship if you desire to have the kind sex that you need and the person your with right now isnt intrested, and they could not be intrested for a number of reasons. one of the reasons might be because they have been a victim of assualt and they shut down because something triggers them, and you might not know that because they havent told anyone for fear of being called a liar a whore or something else mean. and knowing that we as men need to show women are true strength, the strength of understanding and patience and consent. for those are the true foundation of a strong relationship with the people we love. i can go on and on but maybe some of the men in here can incorperate those ideas into there lives and have the trust and honesty they need. here are some links that im talking about. that might help some of guys out.

p.s there are some people that do use sex as a tool for manipulation or hold of on sex to get what they want, you need to not be with people like that because they can damage your self esteam. if you know some one like that calling them out on it is probably an argument that you wont be able to win, but i cant speak for anyone. i hope that some of this info was some what insightful

[vulcan Retired ModeratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close vulcan]

Hi Chrisisbroke,

I think it is really great that you have such respectful attitudes to women.

I have noticed when I scanned back through Old threads, that a few people said things that were not acceptable.

I then noticed that some members get banned for this. I believe that the Moderators do a really great job judging the tone & content of this forum.

Sometimes people say things that can be misinterpreted, but I am happy in the knowledge that if someone really crosses the line - action is taken. If you see something offensive, flag it up.

Vulcan

[Batwoman Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Batwoman]

chris -- I removed the links in your post. It is OK to talk about outside websites but not to provide links. We try to keep the Gym forums here clear of links to commercial sites to keep the spamming down. I know that is not what you intended, but still -- no links please!

[chrisisbroke Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close chrisisbroke]

i think it would be good if people would get called out and work through something instead of just getting banned because if we dont except peoples mistakes and just segregate them from us they will just continue on making the wrwong decsions but if we can come together and help people understand why its wrong to do certian things they we can make a bigger difference. you attract bees with honey and flys with shit. you can check out some good info on the web some groups are men can stop rape, and make shift is a femenist magazine thats actually pretty cool, they try and make it realatible for everyone

[vulcan Retired ModeratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close vulcan]

Hi Chris, I do not know whether there was any form of consultation before the members that I saw was banned. I really imagine there was, because one of the members had been very popular. I was surprised when I saw the word - banned.

I think your idea around inclusion is good, and this makes me think (even more) that members were warned. I do not know.

Maybe one of the moderators will tell us, but the range of subjects that come up - it would be impossible to foresee sometimes.

Therefore - judgement comes into play.

[Batwoman Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Batwoman]

A total of 4 legitimate members have been banned here in the last 5 months. In each case there was a really, really good reason -- attacking other members verbally, being deliberately threatening, talking violence, or hacking the site. In no case that I know of was a legitimate member banned without considerable behind-the-scenes discussion first. There is a Moderator Forum where we talk about all sorts of things (changes to the forums, new articles, how to use the moderator tools, picking new moderators, and -- yes -- problems with particular members when they arise). Banning a legitimate member is never done casually. You may hear otherwise, but it simply isn't true.

You may see people banned here on a daily basis, but if you look closely they are all spammers or salesmen. Sometimes they masquerade as a real member but have signature lines linking to penis pill sites or escort services or leather sales or whatever. Sometimes they spam by PM, and you never see what they are doing. We are very vigilant about these sorts of things and usually catch them quickly. But do not be fooled -- these were never real members to begin with.

As for allowing discussion, I think we foster it well here. People are encouraged to speak their minds openly as long as they are respectful of others. It is only when folks start to lose their tempers and act disrespectfully that the Moderators step in. But it is actually the community as a whole that keeps this a nice place. Not only do the Moderators patrol the site, but many members also tell people to cool it when they start to get overly aggressive or objectionable. All we ask is for people to be respectful. In general, everyone is pretty good about that and is tolerant of diverse opinions. In fact, this is a pretty amazing place.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Spamers are a real problem and have become more devious as time has gone by.

[O.G. Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close O.G.]

It's a site about Penis enlargement, what do you guys expect.