Our sex life is almost over

[closed251 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed251]

Trust me i haven't forgotten.

I just want you to have some perceptive on this. I care about you and don't want you pushing your wife into someone else's arms thinking it's for the best.

[Party Senior Member Member of the Month August 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Party]

Trust me i haven't forgotten.

I just want you to have some perceptive on this. I care about you and don't want you pushing your wife into someone else's arms thinking it's for the best.

oh my friend, I told her today after my failure how tired I was, I’m a beatin’ Man. I have fought so many battles and won must of them. But this cancer issue has me beat, I can’t fix her. A Daddy is supposed to fix anything, and I can’t. This past 9 months has sucked the life outta me. I’m so tired despite how well things have turned out so far. Im just tired. There are so many more battles to come on our store front and health insurance. The weight bares down so heavy I can’t breathe sometimes. I feel I’m losing myself, my mind. But somehow I’m expected to solve the problems, they look to me for answers and I’m spent. I’m lost and scared. Ugh.

[Nightforce Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Nightforce]

Sounds like some mental pressure creeping in. Are you unable to have ANY orgasms or just from sex?

I guess in the spectrum of things, we have Pre-E issues and then pendulum swings the other way to No-E issues.

I certainly hope you find your O Party!

-Nightforce

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

So this is a de issue . Yep been there . Anxiety was a maor part for me . Of course in my case i had also desensitized my dick with too much pressure during masturbation.

[Norwaydude Senior Member Member of the Month Oct. 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close Norwaydude]

Lay off porn, try to use a light grip when mastrubating (its god damn frustrating!) and dont make it your prime focus when sleeping with mrs. Make an agreement that for the time beeing. Your orgasm is not of any importance and that it will sort itself out in a while. Have her accept this and the pressure is off. Try to make some jokes about it instead. And please dont let it Get you to much down m8 you have other struggles to fight. And dont let this challenge (a lot of us have been through, me included), be the famous drop. Best of luck!!

[NBPEL Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close NBPEL]

So sad for you, but try to overcome it because I actually have nothing to advice you beside keep trying it, I tend to get young girl and still watch a lot of porn because I'm a sex field but really have no problem in my sex life.

[closed291 Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Member of the Month June 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed291]

There is many layers to this.

1) You could consider using the Aneros to learn how to orgasm. Another option is vibrating beads.

2) As far as her vagina looseness, she can invest in jade eggs or vagina weights to help tighten up this area.

3) You could find a Christian marriage or sex therapist who may be able to offer some insights too.

By the way, prostate orgasms are possible and amazing.

[KMWylie Senior MemberPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close KMWylie]

So, I was wondering when some of the older members here stopped having sex?

My lack of orgasm has put a divide between the Mrs and myself. She blames herself, I know it’s my PE mistakes over the years. She figures she’s so fat now I don’t find her attractive anymore, balony. She is definitely not as tight as she was but that cums with age. We’ve had sex for a couple hours four times in the last two weeks. Needless to say, I’m one frustrated puppy, I almost can’t remember what it feels like. The most frustrating part is getting close, like today. I’m almost there with her riding my after a half hour and she forgets my small size and I fall out. Game over, wasn’t gonna try again, Arrgh.

Sex has become a frustrating tension creation instead of a relief for it.

My my heart tells me, if you love her? Let her go. She’s only 55 and in her prime, no reason for her to suffer with guilt.

First, my heart goes out to you and MrsParty. I dated a guy with this same problem (and he was in his 20s). It was incredibly frustrating - for both of us. And, like your wife, I worried it was me - my attractiveness, something I was physically doing incorrectly, etc.. Despite assurances that this was a common problem for him, it didn't make me feel better.

I edited a great book, a few years ago, from one of our past members, Clive Peters - Exploring Sex, Love and Lust - Giving Clive a little PEGym love, because he's an awesome guy and I loved working with him! I even contributed a chapter or two, if anyone's interested. :-D Anyway, he has some great info in this sexual compendium about sex as we age. One suggestion I remember is standing sex - bend the Mrs. over a couch arm was the illustration I recall. If your bed is low enough, she can even kneel at the edge (doggy-style) as you stand behind. This standing position supposedly makes it easier for men to orgasm. Try it - let me know.

I'm going to do a little research, and will do tomorrow's post on this topic - because I know I have info on this bookmarked somewhere. (Yes, I have quite a bit of sexual health and penis stuff bookmarked on my computer - hazard of the profession. LOL)

In the meantime, don't give up!

Talk with your wife. Let her know you still find her incredibly sexy and desirable (this is SOOOO important).

Most importantly, don't be a martyr and give her up, because you think that's what's best for her. What's best for her is a man who is deeply in love with her and wants to make her happy... and that sounds like YOU!

[closed291 Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Member of the Month June 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed291]

Talk with your wife. Let her know you still find her incredibly sexy and desirable (this is SOOOO important).

+1

You can send her "sexting" messages...romantic poetry and gestures (all budget friendly: writing I love you on the shower mirror, leaving love notes in her underwear drawer)...flirty messages...grabbing her behind when you get a chance...winking at her with a sly smile...

[Party Senior Member Member of the Month August 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Party]

Thanks guys and gal for your support. I don’t think I’m into prostate message at my age. I have tried it alone but have no idea how the Aneroswould stay put while pounding her, just another distraction I’m thinking. One of the issues is she orgasms so frequently and loud in my ear I can’t concentrate on my orgasm. At first I found it great that my new size could give her cervical orgasm, over and over. But now it hurts me and her groans and loud exhales are distracting. Right now some of the younger guys here are reading this thinking, Jesus what is he complaining about? And I do enjoy giving her a very good time but I don’t think it would be to much to ask for at least one for me. One time after a failed attempt to get there she says, “What’s the problem? You had one last week.” WTF, really, after she’s had close to 100 or so, no exaggeration, btw.

So anyway, woke up at 1 a.m. this morning, with a raging hard on, and after 20 minutes of trying, popped one off, by myself. Satisfying? NO. Stress relieving? NO. I wanna cum with her, it cements our commitment.

Ive stopped all PE efforts, mainly my daily pumping routine. Need to let him chill out. We won’t have any alone time till next Friday as she takes my daughter back to St. Louis for cancer surgeries follow up. I’ve been doing some type of PEing for 5 years now, it’s part of my daily routine, keeps me sane. Guess I’ll have to dust the weights off and try to get some muscle again.

[Trax2Brax Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Trax2Brax]

Just take a break man (PE and sex/masturbation), it'll do you wonders to get some sensitivity back. Does your wife know of kegeling? Maybe that would be of some help on her end.

[TheGreatDivider Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close TheGreatDivider]

I'm having the same issues as Party. Years of PE have made me incredibly desensitized to sex and made an orgasm from sex impossible. Women seem to love my stamina but it would be nice to get off without doing it myself after wearing them out.

It's not difficult to fix, I would just have to abstain from all forms of PE and masturbation for a few months until the nerves regrow. I've done it before I just don't want to give up either of those two right now.

Party, go to a therapist already. You need to talk to your wife about this with a mediator in the room.

[Party Senior Member Member of the Month August 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Party]

+1

You can send her "sexting" messages...romantic poetry and gestures (all budget friendly: writing I love you on the shower mirror, leaving love notes in her underwear drawer)...flirty messages...grabbing her behind when you get a chance...winking at her with a sly smile...

I do that everyday. Tell her how much I love her hot tits, she has perfect nipples. True she has a big butt but I love it, she curvilious. Sent her a pic of my raging hard on from this morning while she was at work, told her how hot, bothered she gets me. Never a thank you, never a compliment in return, and of course, God forbid a naked pic of her in return. Ugh, no wonder I have issues. Sometimes I think she’s waiting for me to kick the bucket, collect the $500,000 in life insurance and find a cock she could cherish.

[TBE Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TBE]

Thanks guys and gal for your support. I don’t think I’m into prostate message at my age. I have tried it alone but have no idea how the Aneroswould stay put while pounding her, just another distraction I’m thinking. One of the issues is she orgasms so frequently and loud in my ear I can’t concentrate on my orgasm. At first I found it great that my new size could give her cervical orgasm, over and over. But now it hurts me and her groans and loud exhales are distracting. Right now some of the younger guys here are reading this thinking, Jesus what is he complaining about? And I do enjoy giving her a very good time but I don’t think it would be to much to ask for at least one for me. One time after a failed attempt to get there she says, “What’s the problem? You had one last week.” WTF, really, after she’s had close to 100 or so, no exaggeration, btw.

So anyway, woke up at 1 a.m. this morning, with a raging hard on, and after 20 minutes of trying, popped one off, by myself. Satisfying? NO. Stress relieving? NO. I wanna cum with her, it cements our commitment.

Ive stopped all PE efforts, mainly my daily pumping routine. Need to let him chill out. We won’t have any alone time till next Friday as she takes my daughter back to St. Louis for cancer surgeries follow up. I’ve been doing some type of PEing for 5 years now, it’s part of my daily routine, keeps me sane. Guess I’ll have to dust the weights off and try to get some muscle again.

Reading your comments I thought you are freaking out because you are unable to come but now seeing that you can come by yourself easily you are just acting really weird lol. Plus it will get better with time.

[TheGreatDivider Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close TheGreatDivider]

I do that everyday. Tell her how much I love her hot tits, she has perfect nipples. True she has a big butt but I love it, she curvilious. Sent her a pic of my raging hard on from this morning while she was at work, told her how hot, bothered she gets me. Never a thank you, never a compliment in return, and of course, God forbid a naked pic of her in return. Ugh, no wonder I have issues. Sometimes I think she’s waiting for me to kick the bucket, collect the $500,000 in life insurance and find a cock she could cherish.

Then stop doing that. You're kinda pushing the issue here instead of giving her a chance to miss you at work.