Our sex life is almost over

[Party Senior Member Member of the Month August 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Party]

Then stop doing that. You're kinda pushing the issue here instead of giving her a chance to miss you at work.

We work our store together, miss me?, LOL. We are together almost all the time, been so for 30 years. We celebrated our 30th anniversary last year but in time spent together, more like 50 I’d imagine. I know right, and I still love her. Issues sometimes? Oh you bet.

[closed291 Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Member of the Month June 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed291]

If the freneum is damaged...have you considered foreskin restoring or are you uncircumsized already?

[tank0909 Senior Member Member of the Month Jan. 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close tank0909]

So, something is "broken" that you feel you should be able to fix, but can't. More stress added to what sounds like is already a lot of stress. As was stated before, you can try to take a break from anything and everything sexual. Use the break to work on anything in your relationship that may have fallen to the way-side over the course of your marriage, if there is any. De-stress. Don't think about it. Easier said than done, but necessary. Just fill the space with other things. Get creative and get the wife involved with coming up with things to do. Geocache, cooking/art/welding/underwater basket-weaving classes, puzzles, board games, etc, etc, etc.

[BigRooster Senior Member Member of the Month Apr 2018PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close BigRooster]

I really don’t know how long it has been for me to knock boots Party, but I’m a different case. If I had to guess, four years.

You still have a spark there with the Mrs. Keep it flamed and don’t let it die.

[Party Senior Member Member of the Month August 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Party]

If the freneum is damaged...have you considered foreskin restoring or are you uncircumsized already?

Yep. Rip Torn, and not the actor. Sorry, couldn’t help myself. Bad joke.

[TheZZMan Moderator Member of the Month Sept 2018PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZMan]

This is just an observation from the years of reading your posts Party. It seems that you are always the initiator, you are always the one doing all the work, you either are going down on her or pounding away giving her orgasm after orgasm. The take I have is that she never seems to give the same attention to you... I don't hear of the frisky unexpected groping of your package, I don't hear of getting woken up by a surprise blow job, In fact, I don't recall you ever mentioning ever getting a blowjob from your wife. It seems like, she lays down, feet up, you snack, you pound, she has fun and you don't. Correct me if I'm wrong in this, but sexy time should be mutual, not as one sided as you have made us to believe. If you can yank one out on your own, you can have one with her. Just need to ramp up the level of intimacy that doesn't necessarily have you doing all the work.

If I have misread this, my apologies. I only am posting what my feelings see in your relationship.

Best to you my friend, there are brighter times on the horizon.

[TheGreatDivider Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close TheGreatDivider]

This is just an observation from the years of reading your posts Party. It seems that you are always the initiator, you are always the one doing all the work, you either are going down on her or pounding away giving her orgasm after orgasm. The take I have is that she never seems to give the same attention to you... I don't hear of the frisky unexpected groping of your package, I don't hear of getting woken up by a surprise blow job, In fact, I don't recall you ever mentioning ever getting a blowjob from your wife. It seems like, she lays down, feet up, you snack, you pound, she has fun and you don't. Correct me if I'm wrong in this, but sexy time should be mutual, not as one sided as you have made us to believe. If you can yank one out on your own, you can have one with her. Just need to ramp up the level of intimacy that doesn't necessarily have you doing all the work.

If I have misread this, my apologies. I only am posting what my feelings see in your relationship.

Best to you my friend, there are brighter times on the horizon.

I was going to mention that as well. Party seems to be doing all the work and his wife has gotten used to being spoiled over the years.

At this point he's in the perfect place to get what he wants in return by doing nothing. He could leave her alone for a few weeks while he lets his frenum heal, giving her a chance to miss everything he's done for her in the bedroom, and take this time to talk to his wife about everything else.

[KMWylie Senior MemberPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close KMWylie]

Here's my post for today...

Difficulty Orgasming as Men Age

Party - I'd love for you to give some real life feedback on these suggestions. I sincerely hope it's helpful for you, my friend.

[not2big Senior Super ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close not2big]

I have diabetes which effects penile and sexual function. I haven’t had an orgasm in over two months. However, we do enjoy penetration three or four times a week just for the pleasure. Once a week I bring her to oral orgasm. Though she feels sorry for me, She is ok with this,as she knows it is not her causing the problem.

One needs to to adjust to the aging process.

[Party Senior Member Member of the Month August 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Party]

Here's my post for today...

Difficulty Orgasming as Men Age


Party - I'd love for you to give some real life feedback on these suggestions. I sincerely hope it's helpful for you, my friend.

Yes Kim I got a few issues like that. Stress? Nah, what stress could I have,LOL. After all after a couple of Miller Lites I’m calm as a cucumber.

The Mrs and the girlie head down to hôpital for 6 days tomorrow and the wife texts me the girlie will be outta the house for three hours in the afternoon. She can never say, hey, “Let’s fuck!” Part of the problem, but I knew that Text had hidden, implied meaning. I told her no but a vibe Day would be cool. Two reasons why. First Viagra really makes me feel poorly the next day and I gotta open for the next 5, 4 am. Mind you. Second, I didn’t wanna not cum again and have her crying before they left for 5 days tomorrow.

[Party Senior Member Member of the Month August 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Party]

So the girlie and the Mrs came home late afternoon. All good news for the girlie, I’ll post something on her prayer request the today with an update.

The girlie was out out of the house, sooo. I got there, after a long time, but I finished. After I caught my breath the first thing out of my mouth was, “Thank God.” It had almost been two weeks since my last orgasm. I made quite a mess. Wow what a relief.

[TheZZWoman Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZWoman]

Give yourself a break. Allow yourself to grieve with no pressure to perform.

The problem is that you are looking at all of these issues as separate issues when they are all part of the same issue. The conversation you and your wife should have is how helpless you feel about not being able to make your daughter well again. As a mother, I can tell you that your wife is feeling just as inadequate as you are. You and your wife need to become partners in battle against the hold this disease has on your lives. Helping each other through this extremely tough patch in your lives will fortify your bond and eventually revitalize your intimacy.

Good luck my friend all my best wishes are with you and yours.

[closed291 Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Member of the Month June 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed291]

Any updates on this situation, Party?

[Party Senior Member Member of the Month August 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Party]

Any updates on this situation, Party?

Not really, She’s been working her ass off at the store. Gotta sick employee and I’m down with knee replacement. Had figured on being back by now. I went in yesterday for 3 your. The knee was screaming at me later, despite the pain meds. We haven’t had any alone time in three weeks. I’d suggested an all about her day and I didn’t mind but I wasn’t very enthusiastic. Norco just kicks your ass. I feel like a Zombie. Depressing.

[newbeginning Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close newbeginning]

Well I've reda every post on this topic. All I can say is that this world can be one cruel place. No father should see his daughter ill, and i'm praying for you and your daughter. Also your wife should stop blaming herself as the situation is not all about her, it's about you. All this swinging talk is stupid, and it's not manly to talk in such a way in my opinion. You can still get erections, you can still have sex, it's just youre having trouble cumming.. Some women would love that. Anyway, also how cna your penis be small in your opinion when you have made such dramatic gains due to PE?