First time with her only semi

[GiftBringer Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GiftBringer]

Hey dudes.

Fast Facts: Moved to a new city 2 weeks ago. Broke up with my ex 2 months ago. Got this beautiful chick.

I really like her personality and she is damn sexy, I had a little jet lag, stressed while traveling for a week and when I got her in bed I guess I was overwhelmed. Man she was so ready to go foreplay was great and i couldnt get fully errect. Performance anxiety kicked in and my dick said fuck you m8 no gift today and no entry too.

I was so amped tho, things got awkward pretty fast. I never made it an issue. Tried laughing it off and explained to her once then left it then she left slightly embarrassed, never happened to her either, assured her she is perfect. She seemed to not understand at first but with some playing it cool and continuing over text we are back on track. Chemistry is still there.

I haven't had chemistry with anyone new in about 4 years and kinda forgot how to play the game if to call it that. I'm kinda hesitant.

I don't want performance anxiety to kick in next time she's under me. This was 5 days ago and it scared my dick. I haven't gotten an erection and have been no fap ever since out of choice and enforced by my little head.

What to do? I really like her and really want to have sex but this could start us off on a bad few inches.

Any practices or changes to mindset would be greatly welcomed. I've got a few dates lined up with her this week and we might end up at her apartment.

Thanks

[closed251 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed251]

I cant offer real life advice but would say dont leave it too long before trying sex again. The longer you leave it, the bigger thing youll make it in your mind.

And dont drink booze beforehand.

[GiftBringer Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GiftBringer]

Thanks Tara. Yeah I wasn't drinking last time either. But after she left I had a few haha

[Johnny D ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Johnny D]

Try this: Rather than jumping straight into bed, take a shower together.

[tank0909 Senior Member Member of the Month Jan. 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close tank0909]

You already know what the contributing factors were and it looks like you handled it all the right way. I wouldn't worry about anything. As long as she knows it wasn't her "fault" you couldn't get an erection at that point in time, I think you're good. Just create a relaxed environment for the both of you and don't try too hard/overthink anything. Just go slow... laying there petting, teasing, etc. Let the mood and excitement build up instead of doing all the fake passion like the movies. It scared your brain, not your dick.

[GiftBringer Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GiftBringer]

Try this: Rather than jumping straight into bed, take a shower together.

This sounds really fun thanks

[GiftBringer Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GiftBringer]

You already know what the contributing factors were and it looks like you handled it all the right way. I wouldn't worry about anything. As long as she knows it wasn't her "fault" you couldn't get an erection at that point in time, I think you're good. Just create a relaxed environment for the both of you and don't try too hard/overthink anything. Just go slow... laying there petting, teasing, etc. Let the mood and excitement build up instead of doing all the fake passion like the movies. It scared your brain, not your dick.

Yup, never wanted to make it weird between us and create issues. I was kinda nervous. So a little shower and teasing to build the mood sounds great �� thanks..

[Big Al AdministratorPEGym EditorMale Enhancement Coach Rep.PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Big Al]

If you acknowledge there's nothing wrong with your penis then it's best not to focus on this. For now, stick with activities you're comfortable with and slowly ease into sexual activity as you're able to.

The following should be helpful: More On The Mental Side Of Male Enhancement

[GiftBringer Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GiftBringer]

If you acknowledge there's nothing wrong with your penis then it's best not to focus on this. For now, stick with activities you're comfortable with and slowly ease into sexual activity as you're able to.

The following should be helpful: More On The Mental Side Of Male Enhancement

Thank you so much Big Al, that hit home..

[Big Al AdministratorPEGym EditorMale Enhancement Coach Rep.PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Big Al]

Thank you so much Big Al, that hit home..

You're most welcome!

[GiftBringer Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GiftBringer]

Problem solved

This is how i overcame it...
No fap for 2 weeks until we had the opportunity again (think ill remain no fap from now).

I did a bit of research and found you've gotta get out your head and just enjoy the moment so i kept myself busy and not being anxious.
Stopped smoking and drinking permanently lol this was a great wake up call..
Exercised also.

I got a natural ED drug from china which has cialis in, popped 2 caps 2 hours before. Because I didn't want any issues whatsoever.

Focused on how sexy she was and all the sensations, she was really enjoying it.

It was more than i expected.

[SoraSora Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close SoraSora]

Problem solved

This is how i overcame it...
No fap for 2 weeks until we had the opportunity again (think ill remain no fap from now).

I did a bit of research and found you've gotta get out your head and just enjoy the moment so i kept myself busy and not being anxious.
Stopped smoking and drinking permanently lol this was a great wake up call..
Exercised also.

I got a natural ED drug from china which has cialis in, popped 2 caps 2 hours before. Because I didn't want any issues whatsoever.

Focused on how sexy she was and all the sensations, she was really enjoying it.

It was more than i expected.

You really took this opportunity to improve a lot of aspects of your life! Great job

[GiftBringer Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GiftBringer]

You really took this opportunity to improve a lot of aspects of your life! Great job

Thanks PDNDL. All i could think about for 2 weeks was that i wouldnt be able to get hard again due to possible performance anxiety, and all sexual desire left me. So i was forced to make a change, adapt or die lol. scared the shit out of me tho.

[Johnny D ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Johnny D]

Problem solved

This is how i overcame it...
No fap for 2 weeks until we had the opportunity again (think ill remain no fap from now).

I did a bit of research and found you've gotta get out your head and just enjoy the moment so i kept myself busy and not being anxious.
Stopped smoking and drinking permanently lol this was a great wake up call..
Exercised also.

I got a natural ED drug from china which has cialis in, popped 2 caps 2 hours before. Because I didn't want any issues whatsoever.

Focused on how sexy she was and all the sensations, she was really enjoying it.

It was more than i expected.

I'd just caution to be less dependent on the Cialis. It can easily become a crutch - addictive, in a way. Otherwise, congrats on the changes you've made, and glad to hear that the next encounter exceeded expectations!

[GiftBringer Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GiftBringer]

I'd just caution to be less dependent on the Cialis. It can easily become a crutch - addictive, in a way. Otherwise, congrats on the changes you've made, and glad to hear that the next encounter exceeded expectations!

Everything is good now. Just needed that kick start and confidence