How to find a quality girlfriend/wife

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

I actually understand the OP, in that if the person you're dating spews one of your deal breakers, how much more do you need to know about that person?

OP is clearly looking to be a little conservative, and less promiscuous personality. For him, bragging on about meaningless sex might me unacceptable.

Can we not just respect him, and try not force our individual values on him?

Ahhhrgh thing is a long list of "deal breakers" or just being super with "deal breakers" is not a sign you are a reasonable and together human being

[neobne Member Find all posts View Profile Close neobne]

Is that an assumption, or have you seen that list? :P

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

I have read the thread and seen the reality out in life .

[SuperGuy Member Find all posts View Profile Close SuperGuy]

I think the Op has head issues and that will make relationships difficult.

Has had or has head?

[thepowerpole Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close thepowerpole]

Questions on when one finds a decent woman.

Should I ever open up? Or is there a too much opening up, so much that she will see me as unattractive after opening up?
Does being a man mean that you keep your vulnerabilities to yourself or at least the most critical ones?

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Be exactly who and what you are.Phony never works.

[arlos Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close arlos]

Most people in their early twenties are still developing their personalities and undergoing a lot of change.

My advice to myself at OP's age would be:

1) Focus on improving yourself.
2) Don't look. Forget about it. When you interact with people it shouldn't be own your mind.
3) Socialize and make more friends in different social groups.

What I value in a partner is someone who we influence each other to be better people.

[luckyli Banned Find all posts View Profile Close luckyli]

I would suggest you just start dating, have fun and don't concentrated on finding a wife. Sometimes even onenight thing can turn into something serious. I just recently wrote my <spam/url removed>and mentioned that for some reasons I head the best matches on this app.

[BlueMorpho Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close BlueMorpho]

The qualities you find desirable in your 20s, wont be the same as in your 30s, 40s, 50s....

We forever change so my advice would be this:

Find someone with similar views as yourself on the big things like money, religion, politics etc
Find someone you want to hang out with once the lustful first few years are over with
Find someone who believes choosing to love someone is a daily choice

May be late to the party... but I just wanted to highlight Tara's quote as it seemed so dead on. Especially that part where "choosing to love is a daily choice". Isn't that concept straight out of Erich Fromm's The Art of Loving? I always wondered whether love was just as simple as it boiling down to a daily decision. Where lust is concerned, depending on the connection it can be barely present or overpowering... again, I always wondered if over-powering lust (in the beginning) can peacefully coexist with a desire to be with the other over the long haul. Who knows?

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

May be late to the party... but I just wanted to highlight Tara's quote as it seemed so dead on. Especially that part where "choosing to love is a daily choice". Isn't that concept straight out of Erich Fromm's The Art of Loving? I always wondered whether love was just as simple as it boiling down to a daily decision. Where lust is concerned, depending on the connection it can be barely present or overpowering... again, I always wondered if over-powering lust (in the beginning) can peacefully coexist with a desire to be with the other over the long haul. Who knows?

It certainly can but certainly does not allways .

[Kickstand42 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Kickstand42]

As I’ve gotten older I find myself looking for and seeking out character traits more than anything else.

Empathy and the ability to put themselves in my shoes during an argument rather than trying to win it for winnings sake.

How they manage their stress and impulses. Are they running around in a state of chaos,
complaining of being broke while impulse buying off Amazon, or have they found healthy avenues.

How close they are with their friends or what their reasons are for being more lone wolf. Do they talk shit constantly and do the passive aggressive fake smile. Do they few friendships but they are very close?

Are they capable of enjoying spontaneity or does everything need to be planned?

Are they stuck in their ways or constantly evolving or under the illusion they are constantly evolving but really just stuck in their ways

Those are a few examples, but I think a lot of the deeper ways that women/men (depending on what you’re into) manage their lives become more and more important as you get more serious.

It’s like there are levels. For something purely sexual - physical attractiveness is it.

For a relationship it’s attractiveness (maybe to a lesser degree) + enjoying spend time together outside of sex.

For marriage it’s all the above with the ability to share your live with them, grow and change with them, and handle everything together.

[WestcoastDoug Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close WestcoastDoug]

Hello,

You can skip reading this paragraph if you're busy. I am 22 and I'm finishing my last year at university. I've been spending the last year trying to improve myself. I cut out video games, politics, and porn which has made me way more productive, confident and happier. I started learning how to play the piano in my free time, and started gaining muscle and loosing fat to the point where my shoulders pop out and I have abs. I'm making good progress towards getting this job I want after college by doing well in classes and passing these preliminary tests for the job. But I am still unhappy because my romantic life is trash. I've done a few fwb before, but either I grow attached or she does, and either way I end up feeling like shit. I want someone longterm but it seems ever increasingly harder to find someone good.

My question is how do I find a quality gf and eventually wife. I recently downloaded Bumble and had like 100 matches in a few days, but none of the people I matched with seemed like quality long-term material so I ended up deleting the app. Seems like the majority of girls my age are either too promiscuous to be trusted, too far left for someone who's apolitical like me, or just not very bright/interesting. I've gone on about 6 first dates this year and not to be an asshole but all of them have left me disappointed.

1) What makes someone quality gf/wife material?

2) How and where do you find a quality girl?

Good luck finding a person you can go with. After my wife passed away I did some dating. I met a few nice ladies but I never got the "I can't live without them feeling" What I've come to believe is that things will happen when you least expect them. I met my current partner that way and from the moment we met I knew I wanted to be with her and fortunately she felt the same way. It's been 6 years now and I believe we'll spend the rest of our lives together
I also learned to beware of the first date at her place, getting an invite for a home made meal. It sounds innocent enough but look out. Not many women will invite you to their place until a few dates. SO be prepared , the worst for me was some nice oral sex...mmm..mmm...mmm. I also got a nice invite to spend 6 months in Mexico with a nice lady. We had a lot of fun but I couldn't envision her as a long term partner.

[Cavel Banned Find all posts View Profile Close Cavel]

I wish I could know... To be honest, I broke up with my girlfriend last month because she was cheating on me so I don't know how to trust women again. Actually, I want to stay single for a while and enjoy my freedom. Who can share good websites to meet girls? Any reviews of<spam> Thanks in advance!