Approaching a beautiful polish girl who's in my class, could use some help

[John Trenor Banned Find all posts View Profile Close John Trenor]

Sorry, but I have to agree with RockstarParkingDude. Pick up lines do not work, unless you're James Bond and in a movie. I'm not saying that this is a pick up line... but that's the first thing that came to my mind and it'll be the first that comes to hers. The problem with saying stuff like that is that it comes off as fake.

Also, no girl wants to hear that she's "amazing" from a guy she just met, unless that guy happens to be James Bond... and he's in a movie.

Think about it: if a girl just met you, she has no idea what you're about - if she can trust you, or if you're some creep. Yes, the majority of guys are good guys (not creeps), but she doesn't know that about you yet. Women instinctively have their defenses up when they first meet you, and only begin to relax when they get to know you. For this reason, telling her that she's "amazing" right off the bat is a bad idea. Once she trusts you, then you can say stuff like that (if you want).

That said, the successful way to chat up ladies is, yes, to make them laugh. If they're having a good time talking and laughing it up with you, you'll end up having a longer conversation. That buys you crucial time during which she can begin to trust you and open up.

[Dea7h7rap 101 Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dea7h7rap 101]

Ok you guys, I dont care who you are, the only thing that "wow your beautiful" or "dang your so pretty" says to a woman is "wow what a needy guy, he is just like the other 50 guys that hit on me this week, he doesnt do anything new, vetoed!" Now that might be an exaggeration, but do not say "wow your so pretty, can I take you out sometime?" This is so boring and pathetic. Just tape "Im a needy wussy and need your approval" to your forehead and save yourself the trouble.

As virtually everyone has said already, you are overthinking this. Its not a midterm or a final, you dont need to "study" up on a girl to just TALK to her. Start it up with a Hi, how are you? Or a "hey whats up" and then talk about how your professor is dumb, your assignment took you so long last night you grew a beard, something that will get her to laugh. Be funny, and confident. Thats all you need to get any woman. Dont overthink this. Its not hard to talk to a girl. Worst case scenario? She turns you down.. boo hoo.. you have 1200 other hott coeds on campus to talk to.

It sounds to me like you need to start talking to as many girls as possible and build up your confidence. Do NOT just say "wow your pretty" because it just signals that you are a needy guy looking for attention. Does this mean that you should never compliment women? Of COURSE not. Compliments should come when relationships are built, not the first sentence.

Start talking, stop studying, and you will do great! Dont worry dude!