How to please gf with a small penis

[SuperSize Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close SuperSize]

Before you say he's exaggerating that he has a small penis, look at my signature.
Yup its that small and my life sucks cause of it.
Well, finally I got a gf and I can tell that she's into me enough that I have a good chance of getting laid. She's never had a bf before and she is a virgin which does make me happy since she can't compare me to anyone. However, just by looking at my penis its blatantly obvious that it is small. How do I please her with such a small penis? My confidence is shot to the ground cause of my size.

Thanks.

[pops Member Find all posts View Profile Close pops]

A lot of foreplay an make it a romantic scene you want her to remember that it was special. Since she's a virgin she might not be comfortable with you using your tongue so use your fingers resist going to close to the vagina the more she is yearning for you the better. Lots of kissing woman love little love nibbles near there neck.

[TTBB Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TTBB]

First lots and lots of foreplay .. use your fingers to stimulate her ..if she is comfortable then use your mouth .. when it comes to the nitty gritty sex part ...I think position selection is probably key with a smaller penis choose deep-penetration positions. Positions where her vagina is slightly closed (crossed legs or thighs closed) and utilize pillows to prop up the females pelvis they are good for changing the angle which you enter allowing you to go deeper

Possible positions
1. Prop her pelvis up on a pillow and make a V formation by hold her legs straight up and out to form a V hold her by the ankles
2.Prop her pelvis up on a pillow.. bend her legs up onto your chest or over your shoulders it lines you up for her G spot…if she keeps her legs straight and closes her thighs squeezing or crossing her legs over that will change the feel of the thrust and tighten her grip on your cock.
3.If she is on top try to get her to gyrate side to side or grind in circular motions instead up and down..you can guide the movement by placing your hands on her hips and directing her movements .. by doing these motions instead of up and down you are less likely to have slippage.. if you have slippage don’t freak out just laugh about it .. it happens!
4.. Have her lay on her stomach with her thighs closed .. prop her pelvis up on a pillow so her bottom is propped up and then separate her thighs enough to give access to her pussy and penetration
5. doggy style is also a very good position!

But most of all keep a sense of humor .. don’t be afraid to have a laugh at ooopsy moments that is part of sex… and if you can laugh it takes a lot of the stress out of it and makes it a fun time no matter what happens

Also I would suggest you do a little research into condoms and buy and try some one before you hook up with her .. its important to get one that is a good fit and you don’t need slippage throwing you off your game ..i would suggest one that isn’t lubricated.

[SuperSize Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close SuperSize]

Thank You for the tips!

So propping her pelvis on a pillow means her ass should be higher correct?

Yeah, slippage is my biggest fear. just thought of it slipping out because of its small size gets to me. I'm just worried that with my small size 1) she won't feel anything. 2) I won't be able to reach deep inside her. 3) I can't get her to orgasm

[redbear52 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close redbear52]

A majority of women don't orgasm with vaginal intercourse in the absence of direct clitoral stimulation, at least not regularly, and this applies to guys who are larger than average as well. Fortunately, a majority of women still seem to enjoy it even if they don't come.

The position that I have heard smaller guys say they have the best luck with most often is missionary, as it minimizes the slipping out problem. Anything that rotates the woman's pelvis up towards you will tend to shorten her vaginal canal. This includes pillows, a wedge, or having her legs up on her shoulders, if her flexibility permits.

Some women seem to enjoy having you rub your erect penis over their clit. You might give that a try.

Since you said you had "finally" found a girlfriend with which you thought you had a good chance of getting laid, I don't know if you have had much experience with condoms. If not, and if you plan on using one, I would suggest buying some and trying them on for fit. Condom fit is more a function of girth than length and you don't mention your girth. If it is on the smaller side, you might find that "regular size" condoms do not provide enough grip. Better to find out that this is the case before the event.

[SuperSize Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close SuperSize]

Ah alright thanks for all these great tips! :]

[Johndoe Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Johndoe]

Supersize, What is your Mid-erection girth?

[Minuteman Member of the Month March 2013. Find all posts View Profile Close Minuteman]

Pleasing the woman with a big penis seams somehow more difficult, i mean your ass will hurt, your jaw will hurt, it is much easier pleasing the one with a small penis

[SuperSize Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close SuperSize]

Supersize, What is your Mid-erection girth?

what do you mean by mid-erection? the middle of the penis while erect or 50% erect?

my girth at full erect is 4 inches.

[smallpackageRay Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close smallpackageRay]

Hey supersize, glad to see you are getting good advice here. I'm not much bigger than you are so understand where you are coming from.
There is a condom company that makes something like 10-20 different sizes of condoms. Sorry can't remember the name haven't used them for over 4 years now.
As far as when you get to that point in your relationship as others have said remember a few things:
1) Most definitely do a lot of foreplay. In fact no matter how slow you go, keep telling yourself go slower. Remember, if she truly ends up being the one, you will have many more times to just jump in the bed and go at it.
2) Start at the top and work your way down. It's not a kiss on the lips and then hands in her vagina. There is a lot of real estate between there and she needs time to warm up. Explore her neck, her breasts, especially the sides and underside. Those girls have been wrapped up all day, they could use some loving attention. Don't maul them, just admire them. ake them and her feel special. Work your way into kissing and nippling them, both between the breasts and the nipples themselves. She will let you know the pace and how much.
3) Working down her stomach always rub in a clockwise motion, down the left side and up the right. This is the way our digestive system flows. Rub and kiss lightly, just heavier than a tickle. Enjoy her breathing and her carcasses she gives you. She will be relaxed and ready for you now.
4) Her openness will tell you what to do next, whether it is hands, mouth or your penis. Just remember, relax. Don't hide what you have but then when it is time she will be more than willing to accept what you have and you will feel amazing to her. The front part of her vagina which is the narrower part and has the most feeling is going to only be about 3" deep. Using a good position, full penetration is very intimate and enjoyable. She is all about the romance and intimacy. For her to be a virgin, seriously, her thoughts about this moment are her emotions; her giving herself to a man, becoming a woman. Not being slammed by the biggest guy in town.
5) Starting out you will be plenty for her. If your relationship grows, let trust sit in. That is the time to be open about your feelings based on how you read the relationship.

Hang in there bud. You are amongest friends.

[cubah Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close cubah]

Don't think that because of your size that she won't "feel you" or won't enjoy it. What you need right now is to boost your confidence, even though it seems impossible too. Also, because she is a virgin, she may not know what to expect and she may be nervous as well. If you lack confidence and are nervous, it will affect her as well. So you will have to be the confident one and lead the love-making.

I don't know how long you two have been seeing each other, but sex would not be the thing to focus on right now. Once she falls in love with you and the longer she is with you, the more receptive she will be. Since she has remained a virgin for this stage of her life (I assume she is over 18), I don't think she is one of those woman who wants sex without the intimacy, only focusing on the physical pleasure for her.

I can't give you too much advice because I don't have much experience and my confidence is not that great either, but that is why I can tell you that you need to work on your confidence. Confidence alone can boost your performance, such as erection strength, stamina, and even ejaculation force and volume. Again, I speak from my experiences.

I would also say that in the meantime you continue with your PE. You have made some great gains so far. It will boost your confidence and enhance you physically even more.

[TTBB Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TTBB]

Cubah is exactly right .. she will be nervous and more then likely self-conscious too.. her mind will be worrying about her body and the unknown aspects of sex ...while at the same time she will be horny and caught in the feelings and the new sensations
And don't worry about giving her an orgasm at this point just focus on giving her pleasure, she probably wouldn't be relaxed enough to achieve an orgasm if its her first time...as it has been stated not all woman orgasm but it doesn't mean they don't get enjoyment from the sex
Also after you have cum don't just roll over and cut intimacy .. continue to caress her...because both of you will probably feel a little vulnerable after..even if it doesn't go completely smoothly keep the intimacy and loving up afterward or she will think she wasn't good enough or did something wrong.

[Gyrta Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Gyrta]

I'm not going to lie, yes 3.5" is below average but you have PE and it works.
Search for a thread I posted about bennet8, he grew 2 inches and started about your size (if not smaller..).

I heard by a women last week that the best sex she had was with a 3.5" because it hitted the g-spot all the time.
Obviously the guy was lucky or he knowed how to use it.

To have sex without knowing what you are doing is like driving a car without be able to see, it doesn't matter if it's a 8" or a ferrari.
You have to learn to drive the car, as much as you have to learn how the woman works and all her spots. If you can make her orgasm from the clitoris and g-spot, you'll make her very happy.

So, my advice is to PE and learn to be the best lover you can be.

[Batwoman Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Batwoman]

Cubah is exactly right .. she will be nervous and more then likely self-conscious too.. her mind will be worrying about her body and the unknown aspects of sex ...while at the same time she will be horny and caught in the feelings and the new sensations
And don't worry about giving her an orgasm at this point just focus on giving her pleasure, she probably wouldn't be relaxed enough to achieve an orgasm if its her first time...as it has been stated not all woman orgasm but it doesn't mean they don't get enjoyment from the sex
Also after you have cum don't just roll over and cut intimacy .. continue to caress her...because both of you will probably feel a little vulnerable after..even if it doesn't go completely smoothly keep the intimacy and loving up afterward or she will think she wasn't good enough or did something wrong.

This is very good advice, make sure you pay attention to it.
Sex is so much more than just penetration, use all your tools and your senses, and work on being sensual with her, not just sexual. Loving, and not just lustful.
You'll do fine. Don't overthink it!

[cubah Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close cubah]

I agree with TittyTittyBangBang, Gyrta, and Batwoman,

From what Gyrta says, this guy who was 3.5" and striking oil most likely had a hard erection and knew what to do. You can focus on that. You can make it into an adventure. Use it as a sensual game while you try to find out what pleases her by asking her how she likes this or that. At the same time, it will give her the opportunity to find out where all her sweet spots are. The best thing about it: you will be discovering together, and I think she will enjoy that.