Whiping it out

[Biggie_Smalls Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Biggie_Smalls]

I'm not sure if there are any similar posts to this one, even though I think the probability of such thing is high.

Anyways, I have I problem(s) and I need advice. I need advice form guys that are in the 5-6'' length and 5-5.5 girth range. Were you nervous showing your penis for the first time? How do you cope with that. I've been in couple situations where I could have sex in recent history and it's embarrassing to say, but I chickened out.

1. Even though I measure up to the average standard of length and girth (5.7''-5.9" x 5.1") my shaft looks kinda childish, underdeveloped. Does anyone has this problem?
I have myself checked at a specialist and he said everything was fine development wise, but still that didn't gave me the courage :|
I watch amateur porn, because it is more "real", but even to "those guys" I look strange/immature. Even if you don't have this, what to some might seem, stupid problem, how have you dealt/how do you deal with the fear of not performing, being laughed at?

2. Have you ever been talked behind you back about your penis size form ex-girlfriends, how did you deal with it, and how did it affect you? This is probably my second greatest fear/problem after the first one.

I hope some of you have gone trough with what I have problem with and are willing to share.

[RockstarParkingDude Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close RockstarParkingDude]

i'll answer part part two first. yes, i have had that happen. it fucked with my head a bunch when i was a kid. it happened again recently, and fucked with my head again. the only time it will ever happen is if you really make her mad and she is trying to hurt you. she knows it will and takes the cheap shot.

as for getting over your fears, the only way to do it is to become desensitized to your fears. never compare yourself to someone in porn. ever. period. next time you have a shot, go for it! girls have more insecurities than we do! it really is a "they're more afraid of us than we are of them" kind of thing. for every insecurity you have about your penis, she has 10. her boobs are too small or shes not skinny enough or her ass is fat or shes too short or too tall.

you aren't underdeveloped. eyes can be deceiving, especially if you are comparing to porn. camera angles can be misleading. don't believe me, take a camera and get an angle like you would find in porn, a nice close up shot of your dick - put it on your computer and look how big it looks from close up.

[rimlas Member Find all posts View Profile Close rimlas]

You're just going to have to do it. I can guaruntee you that 99.9% of the women you're going to meet won't turn you down because of you're penis size. Your size is completely normal and no girl with half a brain will think otherwise. Just don't ask about how you stack up against her previous partners. That would really turn her off.

I was really shy my first time, you just got to whip it out eventually. I have less girth than you and I've been told that my size was big, and I didn't even ask. Just say "Fuck It!" and whip it out. Believe me, you have absolutely nothing to lose.

[kingpole Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close kingpole]

You don't need to sow your wild oats anyway, keep it in your pants! find a nice girl get married then concern yourself with showing her. Seriously you have nothing to worry about. Even guys with *" wangs like me still think they are small.

[Biggie_Smalls Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Biggie_Smalls]

Thanks for the quick replays, but this issues are nerve-racking for me. Especially the whiping out moment (the moment when she actually touches it and sees it), which I "escaped" a few times this year. Doing a routine for a week, made me feel better regarding this issue and talking and looking for advice and is a big step forward. Hope more will share.
@kingpole Being in my early 20s I'm not looking for marriage any time soon.

[vankush Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close vankush]

My dick was 5.8" long and 4.4" around, which is much skinner than the average, my first time. I had the same fears as you, and the girl didn't even blink when she took it out. Was it smaller than her ideal? Probably. Was it the best she ever had? No. But she stroked it, sucked it, and jumped on it just like she would have any other one. She seemed to enjoy the sex a fair amount (the next morning when I went to work she said, "I wish we could just stay in bed and have sex all day"), so really its not as big of a deal as you think it is. I would kill to have my starting size be yours, seriously.

[mistydawn Banned Find all posts View Profile Close mistydawn]

girls have more insecurities than we do! it really is a "they're more afraid of us than we are of them" kind of thing. for every insecurity you have about your penis, she has 10. .

This is super true. I was with a guy that had a really really small penis. I never remarked about it even when mad. He was great in bed. Never had any pre-e. knew what do do with it and I was very happy. He did more than just used his penis, he mentally stimulated me which is a biggie for women.

[Unit Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Unit]

Your size is fine. "When in doubt I whip it out." You could turn off the lights. It is in fact in your head have a little faith and confidence and stop watching porn, it's messing with your head.

Kingpole is not wrong, you could just keep it in your pants until you are with the right girl.

[Batwoman Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Batwoman]

You are real-world normal size. If a girl likes you enough to want to have sex with you, she is going be perfectly pleased with what she sees when you whip it out for the first time. Trust me!

All these fears you have are just fears, probably 99% based on ideas you have gotten watching porn. Porn is not real. Really, truly. I know it is easier said than done, but you have to realize that and get out there and just have sex with real live girls!

[Flanker6 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Flanker6]

Gah! This is exactly whats wrong with society today. Nothing against you Biggie_Smalls. I just mean that we've put it in people's heads that they some how don't deserve to do certain things because of their penis size. Its sickening really. PLEASE, never keep yourself from doing something just because of your penis. If anyone DARES to mock you, 'own' it. Say "So what? Its my penis and I'm proud of it." I purposefully tell people I have a small dick, whether they believe me or not its their choice. I do it to get that weight off my shoulders and so I'm not apprehensive around anyone.

[phil88 Banned Find all posts View Profile Close phil88]

i felt the same way and im 5 wide and 7 long. doesnt seem to matter, your still gonna think its small no matter what. and everyone telling you its a fine size dosnt mean shit does it? in my mind while i was going omg omg omg omg, all i did was just take all my clothes off and just sit there. i was so uncomfortable and nervous. but appernelty it didnt show. the girl told me she had never been with someone so comfortable with there body. ill admit it started as an act but after she said that it become reality. since then i use my own shamelessness to help girls feel more comfortable. of course im much better looking naked. im pretty skinny in clothes but when naked im very wiry. i get lots of compliments on that. but mostly its about being comfortable in ur body. the great thing is as men we are much more comfotable in our bodies. women have been conditioned to beleive no matter what they cant be perfect, so i garentuee u its worse for her.

[phil88 Banned Find all posts View Profile Close phil88]

oh i should also point out i have quite noticable chest deformaty. my rib cage is fuct and kinda sticks out at my sternum. suprisgnly it has never been brought up by a girl. but beleive me an actual deformity is much worse then the same fear that EVERY man has.

[Wynn Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Wynn]

This was a post I did for another thread with guy that had a 4.9" so don't get to down on yourself.
I had a best girlfriend that told a story where she started hooking up with this guy and as she started to put her hand down his pants he stopped her and said I'm sorry, it's kind of small. She said that yeah it was on the small end but that wouldn't of mattered as much as his words running through her head, sorry, it's kind of small.
The moral to the story pull your dick out like the light for above is shining on it. And when you put it in read her body. Go with her breathing, feel her rhythm, it your energy that she'll remember not what you have or don't have down stairs.

[kingpole Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close kingpole]

Gah! This is exactly whats wrong with society today. Nothing against you Biggie_Smalls. I just mean that we've put it in people's heads that they some how don't deserve to do certain things because of their penis size. Its sickening really. PLEASE, never keep yourself from doing something just because of your penis. If anyone DARES to mock you, 'own' it. Say "So what? Its my penis and I'm proud of it." I purposefully tell people I have a small dick, whether they believe me or not its their choice. I do it to get that weight off my shoulders and so I'm not apprehensive around anyone.

Amen!

[TTBB Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TTBB]

girls have more insecurities than we do! it really is a "they're more afraid of us than we are of them" kind of thing. for every insecurity you have about your penis, she has 10. her boobs are too small or shes not skinny enough or her ass is fat or shes too short or too tall.

This is absolutely correct .. the girl will be more worried about her body then worried about your penis size.
if a girl does make a remark its usually because she is A: naive/immature/insecure B: Angry/insecure C: heartless.
If a girl does make a remark its not actually reflective of your penis, its reflective of her as a person. and she is one female so it does not mean all girls will view your cock the same way..

Your measurements are by no means childish that is warped perspective..Most women have not had the same exposure to porn so they don't view penis through porn eyes and even ones who do watch porn don't always develop penis vision... women on a whole are generally realistic about cock and a girls over all attraction to a guy generally blinds her to size.

When you do whip it out .. do it with confidence...if you have confidence in our penis, she will too