Feeling pretty bad :(

[Always Ready Brek Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Always Ready Brek]

Im thinkin of breaking up with the girl at the moment because of a number of reasons.. First let me say that english isnt her first language so some of the stuff she says can simply be held down to bad english. sometimes... haha.

Ok so she told me about her ex's size which was huge, and was even bragging about how they needed to use special condoms cos he was so thick bla bla. She also told me that he used make her squirt through penetration with that monster cock of his. first off, i didnt ask for ANY of this information,, and its just really, really getting to me at this stage.

The worst part is the orgasm part. I cant make her do that even with my hands. Mild squirting ones alright, but not the full body orgasm thing. Now every time we have sex im thinkin of her super ex doin all this shite to her, and to put it frankly i cant stand it any more. Its putting me down too much. Shes always wanting me to finger her with penetration as well, as if to say im not big enough for her. Shes also called my dick small(when flaccid), average and big on seperate occasions. Ya, youd think just to fuck with my mind but honestly, i think she meant it every time. At the start of the relationship she was always on about size size size. I dont think i ever once brought it up like. She kept asking me my size for eg. i didnt know in cm's at the time, so couldnt answer her properly.

Im with her maybe 5 months at this stage, so its short enough. but the thing is i really like her, despite her unnecessary and fucking hurtful comments. Also im not thinking i have a small member - its 7NBPELx5MG,, I started at 6.5 so i guess the extra .5 counts for the big comment. but to her its not fat enough i suppose.

I talked to her about all this, she realised how stupid she was being and apologised. She tells me size doesnt matter and that she couldnt be happier with me... But still, i just cant get it out of my mind. I dont know if i can forgive this one.

[Mr.Friend Senior MemberPE Gym Editor Find all posts View Profile Close Mr.Friend]

damn man. im 6 nbpel and 4.5 eg. what do you think wud happen to meeee !!! . My dream size, is yours, plus .25 of girth man. Id be so damn happy witht that. Continue pe'ing man. And dump this broad, u dont need this crap

[Always Ready Brek Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Always Ready Brek]

dont get me wrong, im not complaining that my dick is small, i know its not. My girls opinion is a completely different thing tho! But its the orgasm thing thats getting to me the most. cheers tho

[Pirate Retired AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Pirate]

Is she still making size comments about her ex after you talked with her about it?

[Always Ready Brek Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Always Ready Brek]

no pirate, shes not at all. She cut that out after i told her to. And shes stopped talking about the squirting thing too, after A) she realised i cant give them to her, B) i told her all the orgasms my exs gave me :P infact i want to tell her about all the great blowjobs i got off other girls, but just waiting for the right moment :P :P seriously tho, i feel shit about the orgasm thing.. im trying everything to make her pop. Regardless or not if shes still on about it, she only had to tell me once.

[Pirate Retired AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Pirate]

It can take a long time to learn about your partner and how she responds to what. Also, it can take a long time for a woman to get used to, and comfortable with, the way her man touches her. It may just be that she hasn't yet learned how to cum for you.

[Always Ready Brek Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Always Ready Brek]

ya i guess your right there. she also said it wasnt till the end of their 2yr relationship that that started happening.. dunno to believe that or not tho, she added that it only happened twice which i know for a fact was a lie. I think he was just so thick it made the sex so intense shed squirt. Why do i know this stuff like!?!?? I dont know if i can continue with her to be honest. Shes makes me feel too bad about myself. You should be happy coming home from your girlfriends place, not wondering what you did wrong in bed. Maybe im being to hard on myself tho. But i dont think i could ever not be hard on myself if you know what i mean. Competitive male guilty as charged

[Always Ready Brek Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Always Ready Brek]

oh, also to add to the list of things my girl should not have said to me - she told me those orgasms where the best shes had. boom, stake driven home.

[Editor Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Editor]

Dude, I've had one exe who always told me "oh, my ex bf penis was HUGE!" or "He made me orgasm 100 times!" even said "He was 8 inches big!". After dumping that broad, a year later I found out the ex of mine had been lying the whole time just to put my self esteem down. I knew she was lying to me about his penis size because, a friend of mine had sex with him and she said it was small and the worst sex ever LOL.

This broad may had coerced me to get a bigger penis but, I realized I should do this (PE) for me and not for anyone else.

[Brian98 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Brian98]

Ive been in the exact same situation my friend and im now seperated with my girlfriend after 5 months, wasn't me that ended it though. I made a topic recently about this! mind you i did ask about the size of her bestfriends boyfriends penis which was apparently 10" to begin with, she later said her friend showed her the picture again and when she saw mine she said she didn't think it was 10". Anyway, i ended up making a big argument out of it cause she told me her gayfriend has a big dick, her straight friend had a massive dick which they saw through a pair of tights on stage(she was a drama student) they thought he was hard when he was still flaccid.....and then also told me her oldest brother had a big dick, he had a morning hard on and he was coming out the toilet and she accidently saw it. I was the biggest she has ever had though but i couldn't get her to squirt, she told me her first ever boyfriend who was a lot thinner than me and a little shorter, she was drunk having sex with him, went on top and she squirted, that bothered me for quite a bit because i tried with finger, everything and when she got near it would stop saying she thought she was going to pee...i know your frustration but now for my advice, tell her it bothers you, tell her how it makes you feel, if she says sorry and realises her mistakes and stops them then stay with her, if she continues to make it an issue even after realising it's hurting you can end it, see how she reacts, leave her for a few days and see if she contacts you wanting to get back together and realises what she has been doing, if she doesn't realise and doesn't bother coming back to you then she isn't worth it man, move on as hard as it is.

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Why be with someone that seems to like to hurt you? Does that make sense? You say you like her but yet she hurts you? Tell you what, come over here, let me stick something sharpe in your eye and then kick you in the nuts! I bet you'll really like me then won't you? I guess you're a masochist! Don't stay with her because she's girl and it's nice to have one.Stay with her because you love each other and don't hurt each other.If there's hurting going on then time to move on!

[Always Ready Brek Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Always Ready Brek]

maybe ye guys are right.. maybe im just at the phase where i dont want to break cos as you said cusp - its nice to not be alone. i call those girls 'marys' - any old boring girl to fill that gap thing is, shes not a mary.

I want to talk to her about this again, but we've already talked about it and i dont really know how to bring it up again. I want her to realise just how much this stuff can hurt. i want to tell her everything about my ex's... i know thats not going to do either of us any good, but i really just want her to understand how much these stories can hurt. any suggestions?
At the same time i dont want to bring it up again because its like salting old wounds kind of a thing.

Brian, shes already realised how much of a twat she was being to say all this, and im sure felt pretty bad about it. That doesnt change the fact that i still feel shit about it. Like, if i was to tell her everything about my ex's the only reason i could think to do so would be to hurt her. So is this why she's told me? She knows ive had much more partners than her, so maybe she felt threatened by that. Thing is tho, she ASKED! dunno what im going to do.

[TTBB Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TTBB]

Its good that she realises now where she went wrong.. it was probably a mix of nativity and insensitivity ..
but need to ask yourself has too much damage may have been done ... and if there has been too much damage done you need to tell her and move on ..you sexual relationship now has a insecurity foundation as its base which is not healthy for you... Whether her ex really was that thick and mad her cum only she knows and you can choose to believe it or you can choose to believe she was embellishing...and the fact she told you this information makes me think she is immature which also makes me think it might not be true.
taking a break for awhile might not be a bad thing... give you space away from her so you can remove some of the resentment and hurt you have that stem from her comments.

[Batwoman Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Batwoman]

Why be with someone that seems to like to hurt you? Does that make sense? You say you like her but yet she hurts you? Tell you what, come over here, let me stick something sharpe in your eye and then kick you in the nuts! I bet you'll really like me then won't you? I guess you're a masochist! Don't stay with her because she's girl and it's nice to have one.Stay with her because you love each other and don't hurt each other.If there's hurting going on then time to move on!

I totally agree with this.

[Brian98 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Brian98]

maybe ye guys are right.. maybe im just at the phase where i dont want to break cos as you said cusp - its nice to not be alone. i call those girls 'marys' - any old boring girl to fill that gap thing is, shes not a mary.

I want to talk to her about this again, but we've already talked about it and i dont really know how to bring it up again. I want her to realise just how much this stuff can hurt. i want to tell her everything about my ex's... i know thats not going to do either of us any good, but i really just want her to understand how much these stories can hurt. any suggestions?
At the same time i dont want to bring it up again because its like salting old wounds kind of a thing.

Brian, shes already realised how much of a twat she was being to say all this, and im sure felt pretty bad about it. That doesnt change the fact that i still feel shit about it. Like, if i was to tell her everything about my ex's the only reason i could think to do so would be to hurt her. So is this why she's told me? She knows ive had much more partners than her, so maybe she felt threatened by that. Thing is tho, she ASKED! dunno what im going to do.

Well if she has realised that move on my friend, i did. We had 3 excellent months after this, it's all in the past man, what she does in the past shouldn't bother you, me letting stuff she did in the past bother me caused a few arguments, her trying coke, ectasy when she was younger, i made a huge fuss out of that and caused more arguments, had i not did that, i might still be with her today, don't make the same mistakes i did because i regret it completly, i wouldn't pick at little things like this, just get over it, relationships are complicated and people often say things they don't mean to hurt someone through-out it, i did the same despite the fact that i loved her, emotions get the better of you at times and id take it all back if i could. She has realised her mistakes, as for what you are saying about telling her stuff your ex did, my gf was interested to know that and she asked me long before we talked about dick size and so on, even made me show her my ex's house hoping she would live in a dump, sadly for her she has quite a nice house lol. Also she may want to know what your ex was like so she can feel better than the sex you are both having is better than what you had with the girl before her, that was what i gathered from why my girlfriend at the time was asking this sort of stuff, don't let it bother you, get things back on track and enjoy the time with your girl and don't make the same stupid mistakes as me.