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blulite · 04-06-2011, 06:23 AM

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PERFORMING ORAL ON A WOMAN 101

If you want to pleasure a woman with oral sex, I personally believe you got to stay down for a long time.

There is no woman who gets pleasure of a quick lick and a flick before you get down to business.

If you�re going to do it, then you have to do it right! In my experience it�s always better to "not" just go straight in for the kill. Kiss and caress her entire body, tease her before you please her. Kiss the inner thighs and her hips, buttocks and stomach. Be sure to make her think you�re heading that way but don�t.

Making love is not a sprint! It�s a marathon! Take your time and never ever rush things. A lot of men, due to lack of knowledge find cunnilingus a chore. You have to be comfortable with it as a man before you will ever be able to perform at maximum potential.

To reach maximum potential doesn�t need practice, all it takes is knowledge.

So what knowledge does one need? Well not a great deal. The main barrier a guy has to overcome is actually going down and getting in there in the first place.

What you have to realize is, if you are nervous as a man about not being able to satisfy your woman orally, you need to lose that thought, or you will never satisfy your woman.

If you really want to satisfy your woman then you need to be confident.

In my personal opinion confidence is in my own words is, "to get amongst it". I don�t care where or what it is I lick. We all hear the same regular statements about, lick the clitoris more or suck on the labia...well I think that�s a whole load of crap!

When I go down on my woman I kiss and caress all around the area before even thinking about going for any sensitive parts.

Make her wait and more importantly make her want it. Once you�ve spent a good 10 minutes down there your woman should be very much ready for what you have to offer. These 10 minutes do not include clitoral or vaginal stimulation, but should be used as a build up to drive your woman crazy.

Once you get started I say it�s best to lick with long slow strokes from the bottom of the anus to the top or the vagina. Yes! That�s what I said, anus!

If you really want to be a hit in the oral department then you have to be both brave and dirty. Licking in this way in my experience makes a woman not only want more, but it also makes her respect you in the bedroom and gives her the added confidence to trust you. Trusting a partner in the bedroom is often a barrier for a lot of women.

Lick, kiss and suck every part of the lower areas, and I mean everything.

Some useful hints are to make sure you get your tongue in to the vaginal opening, suck and lick the clitoris at the same time. Work your tongue in every direction and use a large variation of speed and pressure, keep on with as much as you can think of. If you�ve already licked everything, then lick it again. Never ever create a routine for how you work it but change it up as much as possible.

Always remember, you�re a man! Men are meant to get dirty... get your face in and get yourself covered in juices. Any real man who wants to make sure his woman respects him in the bedroom will go down even when their woman is on a period. Going down on your woman even when she�s on her period is guaranteed to get you bedroom respect.

I must say that not all women are into allowing their men to do such things but most of them just melt when you do show you�re raw animosity in the bedroom. Several women I have had the pleasure to perform on, even though they disagreed with some aspects of my oral giving, have been turned into a quivering mess with the excitement of being pleasured in ways they never thought was possible for a man to enjoy.

Personally I love to go down on my women and will quite happily work it for anywhere up to 2 hours sometimes more if needs be.

Oral should never be looked at as just foreplay. Giving a woman oral sex without penetration is a really good thing and all men should do this for their woman from time to time, allow her to watch tv on the sofa while you sit on the floor and eat her pussy. This is one of those things that can be great for a woman. Especially if you do it without wanting intercourse.

Sex doesn�t always have to be about penetration. Oral often leads to penetrative sex, but sometimes you have to just say no.

I�m not sure about everyone else�s experiences, but in mine some women will even try to pull you by the ears to get you to penetrate her. If this does happen I find kissing your woman with your mouth dripping in vaginal juice is usually enough to have them leave go so you can go back about your business.

When you�re performing oral, that�s exactly what you have to do, "perform". Don�t stick with one position, move around work it from the sides, from the front, bend her over and get behind her. Pull her up to sit on your face and show her you know more than just one technique or position.

As mentioned in the beginning experience is not necessary if you have knowledge. There is no right or wrong way of performing oral on a woman. There is only the best way. The best way can vary depending on the woman, but what you have to remember is this "if you do everything, you have minimal chance of doing it wrong".
It is always better to try a technique and be told it�s not liked than to not try it and your girl be missing out on something she enjoys receiving.

In a nutshell, make her want it and always leave her wanting more. Perform everything you can think of and perform it with confidence.

One of the most important things is to perform as an athlete, go the distance, make it last.

Most importantly of all and I can�t stress this enough, "Enjoy what you�re doing". If you can�t enjoy it then more than likely your woman won�t either and you should probably not do it at all.

Enjoy life, enjoy sex and respect your women always. Go down, get dirty and drive her wild. Stop playing about with all the nonsense of trying to do �what�s best� and just get stuck in. Use your brain and think about what you�re doing. Will your woman be pleased if you stick to the prudish form of working oral? No, so use your brain and use everything you can think of to satisfy her and show her just how much she means to you

mistydawn · 04-06-2011, 08:59 AM

Excellent instruction! These parts I found very important:

If your gong to do it then do it right. In my experience its always better to "not" just go straight in for the kill. Kiss and caress her entire body, tease her before you please her. Kiss the inner thighs and her hips. her buttocks and her stomach. Be sure to make her think your heading that way but don�t.

Stay off going in for the kill, he clit, as long as you can. Build up her arousal level. I have had it happen where I was begging for him to go to my clit! I am moving my hips trying to get him to go to it! lol

Personally I love to go down on my women and will quite happily work it for anywhere up to 2 hours sometimes more.

A guy that can go for a marathon scores big points. I feel like a queen. Worshiped. Loved in some cases. Spoiled.

Giving a woman oral sex without penetration is a really good thing and all men should do this for their woman.

This is VERY rare, however, I am thinking just giving oral and that is it. Women give men blowjobs all the time with nothing returned. It is rare for a guy just gives oral to a woman and that is that. I have only experienced it because the guy had ED. I love it. He gives me oral knowing he will not be able to screw me. Some might consider me awful for this but like I said, men get blowjobs all the time and give nothing in return. It is kinda nice to be pleasured, to lay back and just enjoy the pleasure, knowing that is all you have to do.

In a nutshell, make her want it and always leave her wanting more. Perform everything you can think of and perform it with confidence. One of the most important things is to perform as an athlete, go the distance, make it last.

In long term relationships leaving her wanting more is important. Women also need emotional gratification along with physical. "Man's love is of man's life a thing apart; 'tis a woman's whole existence".

MrBigDick · 04-06-2011, 09:11 AM

Very good article but here's a stumper for you blulite, suppose the woman you're with doesn't like oral on her??

blulite · 04-06-2011, 10:07 AM

thats easy finger her

...

looks like the next guide then will be writtn on fingering techniques

see, no stumper there mate.

@mistydawn, thanks for your feedback on my techniques. its good to hear from a womans perspective.

blulite · 04-06-2011, 01:32 PM

Fingering a Woman 101

Ok so we’ve covered giving oral to a woman, so for my next installment, seeing as it was requested. Not directly but inadvertently, and I feel it only my duty to respond to MrBigDick’s “stumper” with a proper answer. So without further ado:

What you guys have got to realize is, this is part my personal arsenal of sexual techniques and knowledge.

To define what most guys think fingering is? Most guys think fingering is something you do in the park or behind the bike sheds when you’re a teenager. Then as they get older they think it’s something you do as part of foreplay. Well technically both are true, yet both are so badly rated.

The reasons behind these being badly rated is

A: it is used by the inexperienced
B: it is looked upon as something that’s not really that important.

By the inexperienced I mean teenagers, or older people who haven’t had a great deal of a sex life. When it comes to the importance of fingering I believe a lot of guys see it as a bit pointless. After all what’s the point of sticking fingers in when you can stick your dick in instead. Right?

Wrong!

Fingering isn’t just about taking a few fingers and sticking it in a hole. If that were all there was too it then you might as well go play with the sink.

Fingering for me starts when my lady has her clothes on. You don’t even need to kiss a woman to get her pants off. A woman’s skin tends to be very sensitive and very responsive to being caressed in the right way and the right places.

The most single important thing you “HAVE” to remember to do before fingering starts, and I can’t stress this enough, is “trim your damn finger nails” no woman wants some guy prodding and poking and jabbing in every direction in the first place, let alone with some raggedy talons.

Trim your nails and file them nice and smooth. Take off any of those little bits of skin that sometimes appear on your fingers…you know the ones that hurt when you pull them?

Yes, a man’s hands are naturally rough, but that’s no reason to give your woman a bad experience. Also do not wear jewelry, rings, watches bracelets etc. in case you snag your lady’s snatch.

So now you got your paws sorted and ready for action, and your woman on the bed. You can start in various ways. Now depending on what mood I’m in or how I feel at the time depends on how I start, but here’s an idea.

Remember to always communicate during sex and work as a team as lovers and as partners to gain maximum connection in the bedroom..

Firstly there’s the massage. Start with the shoulders. This will get her relaxed and feeling more comfortable, you can massage the shoulders and down the arms and across her head (if you know head massage that is, I don’t “yet” so I avoid the head for now). One thing I have learned over time is that it is best to leave the neck. The reason for this is there is a very good erogenous zone in the neck and a lot of women like their neck being kissed or caressed. Remember for now though were not kissing.

Once your woman is relaxed gently run the backs of your finger nails down the sides of her face and neck, down her ribs and across her stomach then round to her sides.

Doing this, if you’ve done it right, will make your woman shudder. I know it makes them shudder because it makes any human shudder whether you’re a man or a woman.
Now your hands are at her sides you can gently lift her top up and off over head to give you more access to skin. Once you’re at this stage you can continue to massage and caress her bare skin. Her back, shoulders, sides, arms. You can use oils or lube if you want but I have a good technique so I don’t need to if there’s none available.

Always remember and keep in mind that this is a lady, your woman, your lover and your partner. So grabbing and tugging at her like she’s some sort of play dough just isn’t good. Also remember this isn’t a sprint it’s a marathon. Learn to love every inch of your woman’s body. Study it, caress it and massage it.

So now you have the top off and your massaging her back, arms etc. whilst doing this use the back or your finger nails and the very tips of your fingers to tickle the skin as you move your hands slowly across her skin. Down her sides and down the spine are two particular places that make girls shake and shudder.

Once you’ve covered the back, undo the bra and roll your girl gently onto her front. Or flip her over. Sometimes they like it a little rough.

So now you’re on to the front, remove her bra and begin to massage the front. Stroke her face and her neck and her sides massage her tummy and the fronts of her shoulders. Do these for a while before you move to the breasts.

When it comes to breasts, squeeze them too hard and you’re going to hurt them, squeeze to soft and you’re going to look stupid. The way I discovered how to rate the pressure is to think of them as your own penis.

The way you handle your penis or more so the way you would like it to be handled is a good way to measure how to handle the breasts. When massaging the breasts “DO NOT” touch the nipples….not yet! Massage the breasts and move as if you’re going for the nipple but then change direction and miss it completely. Being that the nipples are the most sensitive part of the breast the wait is sublime to a woman who wants them to be touched.. However you don’t need to touch them yet.

By now your woman should be getting pretty flustered. So as you massage her stomach begin to undo her pants. If they need to be that is. If not begin to edge them down. Take your time in removing the pants. And if she has shoes on then take one leg at a time, fully clothed and massage it with both hands all the way to the bottom where you can remove the shoe.

If there are no shoes then continue taking the pants off. Massage the hips as you take them off and once they’re past the buttocks remove and discard the pants. What your woman will find weird about this situation, is that you are still fully clothed yet she is now in only her panties. It excites a woman when she realizes the guy has just got her almost completely naked without even having to remove a single item of his own clothing.

Now that you have your lady down to just her panties. Massage the front of her legs and make sure you do the entire length, from groin crease to big toe. Massage each toe separately. Do both legs and then massage around the groin area making sure not to go anywhere past the pantie line. Once you’ve made sure you have fully covered the frontal area all except the nipples and the vagina. Roll your girl back onto her front and massage her butt. Also massage the backs of her legs. Again, all the way from the top of the butt to the tip of the toes. You’re learning about her body and her reactions to certain areas the entire time you are massaging her.

I hear some of you thinking, “What has this got to do with fingering?” well so far, what have you used this entire time to have your girl hot and very nearly naked????

Your hands and fingers!

So once you’ve done her butt and the backs of the legs you can now take of her panties. At this point I purposefully tug and pull them to get them off. Let them catch on her skin and let her feel that I can’t wait to get them off… show that animal instinct.. Even rip the apart if you can. Once you have the panties off hoist her up by the midsection so she’s in a doggy style position.

This isn’t so you can enter her but it’s so she is left thinking you are. But, you’re not. This is fingering. Not sex. The reason I hoist my lady’s into this position is because it gives you full access to the vagina and the anus. Both of which we are going to cover. I like to put myself in a position at the side of my lady and facing the opposite direction. This is so I can rub and massage the anus and vagina comfortably without having my wrist bent to an angle that probably doesn’t exist.

Before you begin to play with the vagina and anus you need to make sure your hands are lubed or moistened. If you play with a woman and your hands are dry, you’re only going to hurt her. This isn’t what you’re aiming to do. Moisten your fingers by licking or sucking them or if you’ve used oils or lubes for your massage then use these providing they are safe to use. Once your hands are moist, rub all four of your fingers and palm from the base of the spine at the top of the anus all the way round to the front of the vagina. As you go rub in a circular motion. Go one way on the way down and another way on the way back up.

Be sure to alternate between clockwise and anti-clockwise. As you do this you will feel the vagina starting to open wider and wider and become wetter and wetter. Your lady might slump a little as she opens her legs more but go with it. I like to alternate hands. It’s hard to explain the positioning but let’s try,

At this moment in time I would be in a position slightly forward of level with knee to knee. While I was rubbing her pussy with my left hand I would gently spank her butt with my right. And squeeze those cheeks. I would also rub the pussy downwards with the left hand and then back up with the right. Giving the vagina and anus as much varied stimulation as possible. Once you’ve spent a few minutes, up to 5. Rubbing the pussy this way its lips should be spread quite far apart and be dripping with excitement.

You’re now ready to flip her over and watch her legs fall open to reveal a glistening wet pussy.

This is where things start to get a little more complicated, but don’t worry, “DR BLU, IS IN THA HOUSE”

You’re positioning then? Well you’re positioning needs to vary. So you can start from either side or you can start from between her legs. I prefer to take what I call side mount and sit, kneel or stand to the side at a position near the hips. Obviously you cant stand if you’re on the same level as she is so sitting would be advised. If you would prefer to kneel then position your lady nearer to the edge of the bed and kneel on the floor.

Once, in side mount position, I like to have the corresponding leg more straight than bent in the air. But have her maintain the bet leg on the other side. The reason for this is when the legs are bent the both the vaginal opening and anus are more relaxed and easier to enter.

From this position you can also reach the nipples and breasts. You wondered where those would come in didn’t you?

So from this position I like to stretch out the vulva and play with the labia. Stretch them out and rub them gently between thumb and forefinger as such to massage them. I like to use both hands for this. Also pat the vagina and very lightly spank it. Let yourself and your girl hear how wet it is. Rub the anus with your fingers and cover it in vaginal juices, making sure the entire area is soaking wet.

Now that your fingers and your partner’s vagina are soaking wet, it’s time to work on some penetration.

If you’re going to be penetrating with your fingers, don’t go trying to stuff as many as you can up there, that’s just plain stupid. Don’t ram them in like you only have 5 seconds to get her off. Take your time and be gentle. For most women 3 fingers are too much and 1 is definitely not enough. So use 2. Use 1 for the anus, if your girl will allow you to do so depending on what she feels comfortable with.

The way to work magic with your fingers during penetration is to make the experience as mixed as possible. Some of these techniques take some practice so talk to her and communicate how its feeling.

The best way to finger is like this

Hold your hand in the air and look at the palm, because I am right handed I will be side mounted on my lady’s right hand side. Look at your palm and what you will be using is the ring and middle fingers. The first finger and the pinkie finger are to be positioned downward towards the anus.

Taking your middle and ring fingers, in a circular motion rub the vaginal opening and gently insert the 2 fingers into the vagina. Work the 2 finger slowly back and forth always with you palm in the air and your first and pinkie fingers pointing towards the anus. Work your fingers gently until the vagina accepts them snugly and as deep as they reach. Now you don’t always want then as deep as they can reach for one simple reason, you might miss the G-SPOT.

YES GUYS THE G-SPOT DOES EXIST AND YES IT’S EASY TO FIND.

Ok so once your fingers are in position you need to bend them as if in order to close a fist. Doing this, will allow you to touch the front of the vaginal wall, which is where the g-spot is located. The g-spot is “not” and automatic cum button. The g-spot is something that needs to be worked on in order for it to reach maximum stimulation.

Ok so what you’re feeling for on the front of the vaginal wall is a slightly bumpy patch of flesh, very similar to the shell of a walnut. This is the area where the g-spot is located. You need to work this entire area to maximize the chance of giving your girl an orgasm.

Ok so now you’re in and you’re stimulating the g-spot area. Whilst doing this, you can do other things as well.

You can play with the clit for a start. You can also play with the anus and the nipples.

“OMG I’m not a fucking octopus”

Actually you don’t need to be

The clitoris is located towards the top of the vagina and hides under the clitoral hood. Can and is possible to be stimulated with the thumb of the hand you have inserted into the vagina. Being that both the clitoris and the g-spot are in a similar location you can stimulate both areas with one hand and a little practice.

The left hand can be used to 3 things.

A: play with the nipples/breasts
B: put extra pressure on the vaginal front wall for added stimulation of the g-spot
C: to play with the clit

What you have to realize at this point is there is a lot to be thinking about and you need to still mix it up for maximum stimulation. To be able to mix it up you need to do some serious juggling

So to recap,

You know the location of the G-Spot and how to stimulate it.
You know the location of the Clitoris and how to stimulate it.
You know the use for the left hand

You’re woman is by now if you’re doing thing correctly, in a quivering heap.

Now that you have some knowledge, it’s time to enlighten you on how to use it.

What I do personally, if only fingering, is to switch it up as often as possible, but not so often as to not stimulate the areas properly. The timing you will have to work out on your own because every woman differs on how long she likes to be stimulated for.

To switch it up I will either work the g-spot and clit with my right hand. Whilst working the breasts with my left.

Or work the clit with the left and work the g-spot with the right.

Or I will work the anus with my right and play with the full outer vagina with the left etc.

The more you mix it up the better you are going to do. Don’t be erratic and try over stimulation by rushing around and generally fumbling about. Take your time and learn to feel your woman’s reactions to different stimulation.

You need to make the most of your fingers and their abilities to gain maximum potential of a woman reaching climax.

When you’re working your magic you need to be aware that the anus is very sensitive and very susceptible to stimulation. When you stimulate the anus be very careful how you do it. Rubbing around the sphincter to begin with will stimulate the anus in to opening to allow penetration with the fingers or thumbs.

However, if you penetrate the anus with your fingers, “DO NOT” unless the anus has been internally cleaned, use the same fingers inside the vagina. The spread of disease is possible and can cause a lot of problems. If you plan to penetrate the anus then be sure to do it with the left hand, if your right handed that is…like me. You will have to change position but what you have to remember is the left hand is used mainly for playing with the breasts. So you possibly won’t be using it for vaginal stimulation, unless you change positions and work from both sides with both hands like I sometimes do.

Remember also the left hand can be used to caress and stroke your woman’s body or her lips or some women like to suck on your fingers whilst they are grinding their hips onto your other hand. Some like being choked with the other hand or have their hair pulled. There are a lot of things you can be doing with your spare hand so just be imaginative.

At first it will be hard to work so much at once but that’s why you have to build up. You could work on one technique one night and another the next then add them together and eventually begin to mix them up.

If however you’re like me and like an adventure, then just throw yourself in at the deep end and go for gold. .

Both the clitoris and the g-spot can take a long time to stimulate enough to give a woman an orgasm. Don’t be surprised if your e still trying 20, 40, 60 minutes later. Sometimes it can take a couple of hours for a woman to reach a full climax and you should never fear you’re doing something wrong. If your woman gets bored or something’s not working for her, she will tell you. Be it verbally or with body language, you will just know and learn to read her. Once you start working on the internal areas and the main sensitive areas, don’t forget those are not the only parts of the vagina and don’t forget to include the rest of the vagina also throughout your adventure.

This guide is based around fingering only. At no point during the session have i mentioned the man undressing or kissing. This is purely an informative article to give insight into using your hands. Where your adventures lead in the bedroom will vary every time.

I share this knowledge of my experience to enhance the sex lives of anyone who can take away something and add it into their own lives.

btw...I’m all for getting my woman off first, hence why there is very little in my articles that play a part in male stimulation. Enjoy life, enjoy sex and respect your women always.

Go down, get dirty and drive her wild.

Messerschmidt · 04-06-2011, 01:44 PM

Wow, that is an extensive guide. I will certainly get around to reading it when I have an extra hour or two. Repped.

MrBigDick · 04-06-2011, 02:40 PM

Ask a question, get an answer. Good job blulite.

blulite · 04-06-2011, 02:56 PM

yup, theres always an alternative, thats why i dont understand why a ot of guys dont know what to do in the bedroom.

plus a lot of people dont associate the correct things with sex. most things are common sense.

spanky · 04-06-2011, 03:34 PM

This is fantastic advice for the guys. I'm with you man, you wanna know what gets your woman off? Take the time to find out

chances are most, if not all the guys she's been with have never been that attentive. Not only are you learning all about your girl's body, which is *always* fun, the anticipation will destroy her! I *love* to tease her like this, make her think she's about to get my cock or my fingers inside her, and then spank her ass for being demanding if she makes a fuss.. Mmm. Funnily enough, if you keep count of when she's being impatient, and let her know, she always seems to do it more. Anyone would think the girl *wanted* to be punished.

Keep up the good work man x

Qarzan · 04-06-2011, 04:11 PM

My (soon to be ex) wife didn't like it when I went down on her. I did it once and she didn't let me do it again. Too bad, because I love giving oral. I even had my tongue pierced expressly for that purpose.

Now I've taken out the piercing, since it was damaging my teeth (left it in for 5 years). Hopefully I can get back into practice with the oral again... I used to drive girls wild with it!

blulite · 04-06-2011, 04:19 PM

the last girl i slept with (last week) sid she didnt like it...i soon changed her mind.. i told her i was gonna turn her into a dirty little slut by the end of the night...i geve hera good seeing to untill i made her bleed and went down on her.. i didnt realise untill i pulled my head away to give her a mouth full of her own juice than her inner thighs were covered in blood and subsequently so was my face lol..i wanted to keep going but she asked to stop..which was a shame cuz i was just getting going and you gotta respect your women in the bedroom.

Qarzan · 04-06-2011, 04:53 PM

Hey, Blulite, something I've been thinking about, do you think you could write a guide on light petting?

Light petting as opposed to heavy petting.
Like light kisses, light touches, breathing on certain parts of the body, smells, maybe even pre-touch sensory stimulation (clothing, colors, cologne, eye contact...)?

You know, the very beginning of attraction and arousal. Would be appreciated, thanks!

blulite · 04-06-2011, 06:32 PM

Ok this next instalment was requested from me by Spanky, so without further ado:

Talking Dirty to Women

My views on talking dirty, is to just be confident, but relaxed. I believe the secret is timing. Let’s create a scenario.

You go for a few drinks with a girl and later head back to her house. So, when do you start talking dirty? It is in my opinion that if you can talk dirty outside the bedroom then it becomes a lot easier to do it IN the bedroom.

I find that if you talk dirty to a female at random throughout the day or evening when you are both completely in a different frame of mind then it gives you something to live up to.
Let’s say you are out and about with your partner and are walking along the street. Your girl sees something that looks like a penis and giggles. Now I capitalise on things like that and swing the conversation round to be a bit dirty and sort of book myself an appointment.

A prime example, a girl I was seeing one day said something a bit dirty. Only mildly dirty, so I said to her “filthy little minx, you’ll get a good spanking for that" and she said "oh, will I now?" so I replied, "wait till you get home, you’re coming straight to that bedroom, going over my knee with you pants down and I’m gonna show you what a naughty girl you are"

Already the seed is planted and you already have some dirty talk for the bedroom. It’s about carrying on what you already started. You don’t have to think up new things on the spot in the bedroom you can use what you already have.

If threes a build up to a situation in the bedroom then always make sure you act upon it. If there is no build up then you’re going to shock your girl no matter what when you start talking dirty.

Let us cover the build-up as this tends to happen, then people don’t act upon it. You need to learn to act on your discussions. Go back to what I was saying previously, if there’s a build-up, then when you get home, and let’s use the scenario above. Wave your missus over and when she gets close grab her and put her over your knee. If she fights then chase her round and don’t give up till you catch her and put her over your knee. Be sure to, like you said outside, pull her pants down and spank her bear bottom. Living up to what you say you’re going to do when you talk dirty outside the bedroom only adds fun and excitement to the relationship, which in turn gives both partners more confidence in each other. When you’re spanking her tell her how dirty she is, tell her she’s naughty and how you’re going to punish her for what she’s done. There’s only one way to deal with dirty little potty mouths.

Once your acting on your prior "arrangement" you can tell her how naughty she’s been and how dirty she is for thinking those thoughts, but then you can extend it to, you’re a dirty girl thinking those sort of things, but you’re going to be even dirtier when I’ve finished with you, I’m going punish you for being so dirty and turn you into a dirty little whore....you’re going to be "MY" dirty little whore. What you have to remember is timing and setting.

If you’re sat on the end of the bed and just in conversation then telling her you’re going to turn her into a dirty little whore probably won’t go down too well.

Before you talk dirty you need to make her feel dirty. Kiss her everywhere and kiss her in places you normally wouldn’t. Like arm pits and the backs of the knees, kiss her groin and suck/ nibble on her facial lips. Get her hot first. If for example there was some sort of fun beforehand, then more than likely she’s already feeling dirty. If so you got to keep your voice soft and steady...by steady I mean, you know when you’re in the heat of the moment and your body shakes with adrenaline? Well whilst adrenaline is in flow, you are best off keeping quiet and just kissing her.

Once the adrenaline has stopped flowing, then keeping your voice soft and steady tell her what you going to do to her and how you’re going to do it. Get her attention, and even though she might shake her head or look at you as if you’re stupid, tell her anyway.

"By the time I finish with you you’re going to be gagging for more...when this is over you’re going to be "my dirty little fuck slut"

If you’re not very good at making things up on the spot then your best off thinking them up beforehand. Also if you’re ok talking dirty in text messages and similar, anything you say in a text you should be able to say to her face too. Saying something in a text is fine, but saying it face to face while you look her in the eye is so much more thrilling for a woman. It makes her feel 1000 times more special or dirtier than she did when she read the text.

One thing to really avoid is the whole "daddy" situation, it’s just pathetic. That’s going to be the biggest turn off you can throw at a girl.

To talk dirty the right way, you have to read your lady and make sure she’s in the mood for being talked dirty to. If she’s not ready then you have to think fast and take her mind off what you just said. You can do so by telling her sorry I was lost in the moment and just carrying on kissing and caressing her.

Once you learn to read your partner and you work out what she allows herself to be called and what she draws the line at then you got it sussed.

If you really want the upper hand then talk to your girl, give her a massage and ask her what she likes and dislikes. I really enjoy finding out what my partner likes by talking to her. It’s the best way. To hear it from her, what it is she likes and where she draws the line is the best source of information you could ever hope for.
I hope this helps...

CUSP82 · 04-06-2011, 07:18 PM

Yo blue, when did you own this forum? When do you own a thread? No one on here owns anything. People are free to post their opinion and as long as it's civil than that's fine. You have insulted a good member, a good guy, because he dared to post something on your own personal thread. That's not the way it works around here. Every members post on any thread is to be treated with coutesy. You have to report him because he did what wrong? Nothing. You think the mods have nothing better to do then clean up your threads because someone made a free comment on a free website. Get used to it. It will hapen and it will happen again and you're just going to have to be grownup about it. No one here owns anything. You say you're here to help people out cause us guys don't know anything about sex and you think you're Dr Ruth. You want to help, then be nice to everyone and if someone makes an inadverdant post on a thread, not your thread, the thread at the pe gym, than be kind, civil and don't get all bent out of shape. You insulted a memeber with a good track record. Don't do it again!

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