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Yeah, I'd hafta agree that you pretty much blew that one. Don't bother her any more, and move on. Admit defeat and take it in stride.
I'd say, you need to change your point of view. Instead of trying to "win her over", you should think of it as, you're putting her through the gauntlet to see if she lives up to your standards. Take it one step at a time. Take time to check her out, find out about her, discover if she's the kind you want to be with. Don't go all-out, because that'll make you look desparate.
Also, it's kind of pointless to ask if they have a boyfriend. It raises their guard, and reveals your intention way too early. You can ask their friends, but not they themselves. If they have a boyfriend, they will tell you. Or if they have a boyfriend and don't tell you, that means he doesn't matter.
In the beginning, just chat to see if your personalities get along, and if she's your intellectual equal, and also if your senses of humor match. She may very well end up being not too bright, or has a completely annoying sense of humor, at which point you can cut off the chase before it goes any further.
I just met a girl on Monday, she agreed to go somewhere with me on Wednesday, her roommate told me she had a boyfriend, but she didn't tell me herself, so I guess that means it doesn't bother her (although that's a situation I don't want to get involved in...). Doesn't matter, though, because she ended up being intellectually inferior to me, so I filed her under "friend" and decided to move on.
I'd say, you need to change your point of view. Instead of trying to "win her over", you should think of it as, you're putting her through the gauntlet to see if she lives up to your standards. Take it one step at a time. Take time to check her out, find out about her, discover if she's the kind you want to be with. Don't go all-out, because that'll make you look desparate.
Also, it's kind of pointless to ask if they have a boyfriend. It raises their guard, and reveals your intention way too early. You can ask their friends, but not they themselves. If they have a boyfriend, they will tell you. Or if they have a boyfriend and don't tell you, that means he doesn't matter.
In the beginning, just chat to see if your personalities get along, and if she's your intellectual equal, and also if your senses of humor match. She may very well end up being not too bright, or has a completely annoying sense of humor, at which point you can cut off the chase before it goes any further.
I just met a girl on Monday, she agreed to go somewhere with me on Wednesday, her roommate told me she had a boyfriend, but she didn't tell me herself, so I guess that means it doesn't bother her (although that's a situation I don't want to get involved in...). Doesn't matter, though, because she ended up being intellectually inferior to me, so I filed her under "friend" and decided to move on.
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