1 women for life question

[Jazon2000 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Jazon2000]

hoping to get some womens perspective,

So before my gf of 4 1/2 years, i had never been kissed along with foreplay or sex. Now i have my gf and i love her very much, but deep down as a man i have a subconcious telling me ive only had one girl. I feel like i should live my life with at least having to have had another sexual experience with another women before i die..no i wont cheat..just looking for comments and opionions on those who have had many or any. virgins comments are very welcome to thx

[straight_shooter Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close straight_shooter]

Don't feel so guilty, it's biological. As a male, you want to "spread your seeds with as many females as possible".

You could try "swinging", or ask your gf if she'd be interested in have a threesome with another girl. But I feel that might hurt your relationship, other than that I don't see anyway you could sleep with another girl without cheating or breaking up.

[Jazon2000 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Jazon2000]

no way swinging already i have mental problems thinking about that. the thought of her with another man while im still with her wont work out and lets get real a threesome just wont happen and i wouldnt do that with my gf...possible mother of my children thx for ur opiinion tho

[Bigger One Banned Find all posts View Profile Close Bigger One]

I think that being with only one girl/guy for all the life is a great thing. As per sexual experience you would probably get disapointed if you tried with other girl and then regreted it like hell. Sometimes whole lifes are being destroyed only because this one time. If you really luv your girl you should do it only with her I think. Well, that's just my humble opinion. You have freedom of choice.

[brosef Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close brosef]

You're not missin out on too much man. pussy's pussy. Just enjoy what you got.

[KungFuJoe Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close KungFuJoe]

No shit. Sex with someone you love >>>>>>>>>>>> lots of random sex.

[mvergasioin Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close mvergasioin]

I can tell my long term story on this. I have only slept with one women. Had two other occasions to sleep with other women but I got afraid and left the room with the first one and the second one just jacked me off but didn't want intercourse. So I lost my virginity at about age 21. Married her about a year later. Had lots and lots of good sex in the beginning, but now, 38 years later we are doing it about twice a week and in our now standard sexual routine. I get kind of bored sometimes but she doe not want to change what we do or how we do it. She orgasms from our sessions and does not want to change techniques because she is afraid she won't cum and is not very open to experimentation.

Never strayed or been with anyone sexually. Have been sorely tempted but never gave in to the temptation. Have also had fantasies of screwing other people but have not acted on the fantasies.

I am glad we stayed married and am proud that I didn't sleep with anyone else. But I regret not having a variety of experiences with other people. Now that my wife has gone through menopause her sexual vitality is ebbing. And the sexual variety is missing. I'm still horny as hell but the best I can do is masturbate in between or let myself cum more often than should I do when I edge.

I'm glad we didn't break up or divorce or screw around but I feel as though I have been missing a lot of good experiences that I'll never have a chance to enjoy.

Still if this girl is a keeper go for it.

[mistydawn Banned Find all posts View Profile Close mistydawn]

I think it is ideal. I personally would not have liked only being with one guy. I am by nature a person that craves to experience all kinds of things. I mean in every way...living in different areas, having friendships with all sorts of people, experiencing different vocations, experiencing different religious/spiritual experiences on and on. Only having sex with the one person in my whole life would not work for me.

I think a lot of men feel just like you. It is in your nature to spread your seed around.

[Thrill Drill Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Thrill Drill]

Do what you feel is right in your heart. It'll save you and possibly your GF/future wife a lot of heart-ache in the future, along with the possibility of children being raised in broken homes.

[blulite Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close blulite]

in all honesty, i seriously wish id only had one women my whole life, it would have saved so many problems you wouldnt believe. its took me 29 years to realise that i really do want only one good woman in my life. being a player is fun initially, but when the shit his the fan you seriously know about it. i once was aiming (when i was younger) to have one for every day of the week. i got to 5 before the shit hit the fan...i was seeing a girl i called my gf, her sister, one of my mates cousins, a cousin of my ex and a girl id knew for a while. one day i was sat in my house with one male friend and all 5 of these girls. all of them knew i was seeing them behind my gf's back but none of them knew about the others. it was a very procarious situation. i had to kick everyone out of the house and go out with my mate..... about a week later the shit hit the fan when one of them dropped their bottom lip and told one of the other that she was screwing me...

long story short anyway... paying around is not at all what its cracked up to be...

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no way swinging already i have mental problems thinking about that. the thought of her with another man while im still with her wont work out and lets get real a threesome just wont happen and i wouldnt do that with my gf...possible mother of my children thx for ur opiinion tho

My wife has a low libido, seems to be due to her medication, and I go through phases of trying everything. I do the pampering thing. I do the game playing thing. I work on myself. This stuff does work to a degree, but I get tired and worn out from time to time. If swinging brings a spark back to her sexuality, I'm willing to give it a go. It's better than slow atrophy. As far as jealousy goes, this has less significance as we've both grown secure in our relationship. If your woman can keep a healthy libido though, or you have unlimited energy in fanning the glowing embers, than there's no reason for different pussy. If my wife was always horny, I'd be always satisfied just with her.

[mistydawn Banned Find all posts View Profile Close mistydawn]

in all honesty, i seriously wish id only had one women my whole life, it would have saved so many problems you wouldnt believe. its took me 29 years to realise that i really do want only one good woman in my life. being a player is fun initially, but when the shit his the fan you seriously know about it. i once was aiming (when i was younger) to have one for every day of the week. i got to 5 before the shit hit the fan...i was seeing a girl i called my gf, her sister, one of my mates cousins, a cousin of my ex and a girl id knew for a while. one day i was sat in my house with one male friend and all 5 of these girls. all of them knew i was seeing them behind my gf's back but none of them knew about the others. it was a very procarious situation. i had to kick everyone out of the house and go out with my mate..... about a week later the shit hit the fan when one of them dropped their bottom lip and told one of the other that she was screwing me...

long story short anyway... paying around is not at all what its cracked up to be...

You will save yourself a lot of grief.

[Batwoman Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Batwoman]

"The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence."
It is just human to always wonder if things might have been better if you made or make different choices. The way to happiness is always to try to appreciate what you have, and work hard to make good decisions. Never act rashly until you have thought long and hard about all the possible outcomes! It may not be easy, but follow your own moral compass and don't throw away good things just because you can imagine a fantasy world where they might be a bit better.....

[pterodactyl Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close pterodactyl]

I can tell you as a person who is in a relationship for the long term and has slept with a lot of different girls that you will probably always feel this way. As a few people have said it is in our nature want to "spread our seed" and hell, girls are just special. Every single one of them. Sometimes I think about becoming a Mormon lol. Not really =)

[mvergasioin Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close mvergasioin]

My wife has a low libido, seems to be due to her medication, and I go through phases of trying everything. I do the pampering thing. I do the game playing thing. I work on myself. This stuff does work to a degree, but I get tired and worn out from time to time. If swinging brings a spark back to her sexuality, I'm willing to give it a go. It's better than slow atrophy. As far as jealousy goes, this has less significance as we've both grown secure in our relationship. If your women can keep a healthy libido though, or you have unlimited energy in fanning the glowing embers, than there's no reason for different pussy. If my wife was always horny, I'd be always satisfied just with her.

Similar to my experience. Things work a little bit, but by the next day its gone. Sending a bouquet of flowers to her at work has been about the best. But its hard to pamper all the time. She says she needs more attention, but even when she is actively getting more attention the sexual juices don't necessarily start flowing. She's realizes it too and has tried to make some changes. But as XtremeM said:

If my wife was always horny, I'd be always satisfied

And even if she was a little more horny with a little more frequency my mind would not wander so much about the unknown.