Young and Confused!

[Grod69 Member Find all posts View Profile Close Grod69]

Okay so I have been dating a girl for 10 months officially, but we dated(not nonexclusive) for about 4 months prior to the 10 months. I was her first for basically every sexual act, excluding a hand job. I had had sex with 7 girls prior to her. I took her virginity and she has become "addicted" to me sexually. We also have a strong emotional bond, and I really do care about her. The only problem is I feel like I am too young to settle down, and I will be moving to Europe when I finish high school. She will not be done when I am therefore the relationship will turn long distance... She is very clingy and has attachment issues this does not help at all... What to do? Break up with her now, wait, tough it out? Any and all advice(serious of course) is appreciated!

[tatti87 Member Find all posts View Profile Close tatti87]

Thats really a fucked up situation. Just to make one thing clear- "Sex" is not the only thing why she is addicted to you.
This situation always occurs when you go out with a girl when she is
1) Very young
and
2) Is not very outgoing and is bit conservative

When you came in her life, she became dependent on you for most of things. She started dreaming about things.
No, you cant have a breakup because she will not let you to have one. She will cry, approach you again & again, will try her best to keep you. And you will melt, everytime-maybe because you love her. Tell her the situation and ask her if she still wants to be with you. She can always move with you when she finishes.

Also a long distance relationship will teach you guys a lot about each other. If she still wants to be with you after that long distance issue, then what is wrong with keeping her. Its hard to find such committed girls.

[Irishfan Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Irishfan]

Tough spot. But you must be honest with her and yourself. You owe her that. Procrastination is almost never good

[psychedelic_behavior Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close psychedelic_behavior]

Commend tatti87 in his response. VERY true about the long distance relationship, whether a long distance relationship will work or not is a good way to determine if you were really suppose to be together, because if that person is the one and only, the long distance relationship will work. Just don't lie to her. Be completely open and truthful.

I managed to keep a long distance relationship going for nearly 2 years. But it collapsed eventually and now i realize that even though it was because of the distance, it was for the better and we weren't right for each other. If we were right for each other, i don't believe the distance would have been enough to stop us

[Grod69 Member Find all posts View Profile Close Grod69]

Thanks guys you really helped open my eyes on this subject! Tatti87 you hit the nail on the head because when we took a break that exact thing happened. So i'm gunna aim to talk to her more and be very open with her. I feel like that would help a lot. Only time will show but either way I think this relationship will play a pretty big role in my life, and I can use it as a learning experience if nothing else