Your dick is small

[TheZZMan Moderator Member of the Month Sept 2018PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZMan]

It's simple - if she comments about your dick in any way that is not positive, its not OK. Tell her she is fat and see how that goes over. Disparaging comments towards either party are not productive. Period.

[arlos Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close arlos]

It's simple - if she comments about your dick in any way that is not positive, its not OK. Tell her she is fat and see how that goes over. Disparaging comments towards either party are not productive. Period.

So if the hottest girl you've met is rocking your world for eight hours straight makes a comment that you take as disparaging then you gonna call her fat?

[TheZZMan Moderator Member of the Month Sept 2018PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZMan]

So if the hottest girl you've met is rocking your world for eight hours straight makes a comment that you take as disparaging then you gonna call her fat?

If she is calling you little dick, then yes. Don't care how hot she is, knocking your dick is not welcomed. Find someone who likes you in addition to your dick.

[Johnny D ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Johnny D]

^ 100%

You'd allow yourself to be denigrated just because she's hot?! You're ok being with someone capable of saying that just because she's hot?! Think about that. What's really in it for you?

[arlos Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close arlos]

This is definitely a touchy subject. I find it interesting that most people didn't touch the two questions I had and instead have focused on telling me to stop having sex with this one woman. A perceived slight like this doesn't trigger a knee jerk reaction from me like it did before. If someone I was dating did something I truly didn't like and I clearly communicated that the behavior had to stop and she kept doing it then I'd stop dating her. In this situation the language we communicate with isn't my native language and sometimes I get things wrong. In hindsight she was saying my penis is soft when I had lost an erection because we were having a lot of sex. And if she had said my dick was small then that's not necessarily a deal breaker for me. The equation for me is more than the words, it's intent, and other things.

For me, PE, more than anything has helped improve my self confidence. I'm not saying I'm bulletproof but I'm much less reactive to perceived insults.

What I would like to know is how members react when they hear something they don't like about their penis. And how much of a deal breaker. I think having a healthy way to react to either perceived or actual slights is important.

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When in doubt, or caught by surprise, I elect to treat the other person with respect, and if it fits, a measure of love.

Some 'insignificant' situations can be set in a direction that can be very rewarding.
What's to lose, as long as things don't go fooking crazy?
The best may be yet to come.

[TheZZMan Moderator Member of the Month Sept 2018PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZMan]

I guess I'm gonna double down. If she say's you dick is small, or soft or whatever, then she is equally welcomed to take a comment on her. You say she is hot, I say she is insensitive to your feelings by making a disparaging comment. The basis of a fun and stable relationship does not start by telling you your dick is small. Don't care how "hot" she is. She needs to be able to accept you for what you are and what you have. I guess I'm stuck in my ways.

[not2big Senior Super ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close not2big]

If she said your dick is soft and not small, that’s a whole other story. If that comment came after an extended period of sex, she was probably trying to tell you it was time to take a break and take time to allow your dick to recover back to an erection.

[PEispossible Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close PEispossible]

I recently heard this from a woman I'm seeing. I'm a little less than 7 inches thanks to PE. I have my theories why a woman would say this to a man. I laughed it off when she said it. I felt that it was a female version of negging a guy. What I did was ask for oral and when she couldn't take it all in I said, "Good job, you almost got it in."

Bigger questions:
Deal breaker when a woman disparages your dick?
How do you react when a woman disparages your penis?

I dontt quite undderstand the context , you said she said it first but now its because your dick was flaccid?

youre confusing me , and keep adding to the story, and I really dont know what advice to give you because I dont feel your being honest. or your covering somwething up trying to hide your insecurities or take up for her. either way, sorry I wasted my time on this thread

[BigO AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close BigO]

The real story is that we had sex for over eight hours until I couldn't get erect and then she said my pene was chiquita. Personally, I'm not troubled with my situation. We are only dating and to me she is one of the most attractive women I've met - She can tease me about my dick as long as she spends more time worshiping it. Maybe she's a size queen, maybe her partners have been packing more than average, maybe she's into humiliation play, maybe she was being sarcastic, maybe she was insecure about something, maybe she watches a lot of porn, maybe she's trying to make me feel insecure, maybe she's seeing if I get angry or act irrational, maybe she wants to sabotage any future relationship...


Looks like most people have said it's a deal breaker and that they'd cut things off promptly if a woman made disparaging penis comments. As long as it's not mean spirited or too often then I don't mind some teasing banter. Which is really the opposite mentality for me prior to PE. I would have taken innocent remarks as insults targeting my junk.


Now though, I laugh it off and then frame/context it to see if it was mean spirited, really bothers me, not a big issue, or perhaps something I'm being insecure about.

Maybe she meant it's limp and tha was how she said it without realizing it may have been misinterpreted.

I'd say let it go, she had sex all day so I doubt she meant it as you are small.

my immediate thought after reading her saying its Chiquita is that she was comparing it to when you were erect.

I would not be upset with her at all.

[FeelHappy Member Find all posts View Profile Close FeelHappy]

I recently heard this from a woman I'm seeing. I'm a little less than 7 inches thanks to PE. I have my theories why a woman would say this to a man. I laughed it off when she said it. I felt that it was a female version of negging a guy. What I did was ask for oral and when she couldn't take it all in I said, "Good job, you almost got it in."

Bigger questions:
Deal breaker when a woman disparages your dick?
How do you react when a woman disparages your penis?

As a nerd, I would just ask something like 'you know statistics, do you?'
Since I know that 7" is above average I would just make fun of her to show her that she's acting very wrong.

[NiceCADude Member Find all posts View Profile Close NiceCADude]

Either she's a size queen and has taken a lot of larger men, and knows you're actually big, but feels you're not big enough for her standard of 'big'.

Or she's just saying that to mess with you.

Either way, I'd take a big cock like yours and laugh at small dick comments as its not true.