Originally posted by TINKERBELL
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I understand why you would feel that way. However, it might help to see it the way I do: I am still in a state of transition; the end product is still unfinished. And, after exploring polyamory, if I do decide to go with monogamy, I will be so much more faithful and true to it, don't you think?
Like that Led Zeppelin song, "Mellow is the mind that knows what he's been missing."
I will know what it's like to have multiple lovers at once, and after having made a conscious, informed decision, I will no longer wonder what it would be like, which is what I feel leads many married men to cheat; they've never done it before.
Anyways, just my thinking about this whole thing.
EDIT: Something else I've noticed, is that if I'm using these intimacy-creating methods on people I've just recently met (less than a month), it tends to create romantic interest. If it's someone I've known for a while now (a few months or more), it tends to create stronger feelings of friendship and platonic love. So, these things I'm learning are not just about getting laid; they're also about strengthening friendship bonds, and helping people feel loved/appreciated.
People want love, why not give it to them?
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