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[shaquile Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close shaquile]

So Im new here and I saw some other people talkin about their girlfriends and thought to try it out aswell.
So my situation is not one to be defined as an easy one:
my girlfriend is the most honest person in the world and although she enjoys our sex she did mention her ex had a thicker and bigger one.
she told me I never got deep in her but that its not a must. she also told me she does enjoy it but she does like thick ones but as she said its not a must. she told me this last night. there are fantasies she had with her ex which would mean she could not have with me because the impact would not be so great. Now im feeling so insecure and I just know for the rest of my life I will never get so deep as her ex did and that just kills me. you may think this is a joke or anything but it really bothers me. I know that she really dus enjoy it because I would feel it if she would not and as I said she is so honest that if she would not she would certainly tell me. Im stuck
I cant think about having sex with her because I just know she had someone inside her who had a bigger and thicke one. I know she really loves me and that she did not mentioned it to hurt me but Im so insecure now and I dont know what to do.
damn while I was masturbating I had to think of an other woman because with her I just could not do it knowing these facts( she lives a while away so there are sometimes lonely nights on my own)
when Im talking to her I do like there is nothing but deep inside Im even hurt. and I could talk to her about it but we actually did that yesterday and she told me she also loves mine but the fact just is that I have a smaller one and not so thick
damn your girl telling you this.
what should i do or think?

[Dontrike Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dontrike]

Talk to her about this, simple as that. Clearly he did something to not be with her, but she is with you now and that is what matters. If you want to get bigger then do it, but this will bother you forever until you get to the size he was or until you talk about this with her. You have talk to her and figure out why she loves you and not him.

Also, there is more to sex then just your dick.

[Steve23 Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Steve23]

Tell her how you feel when she talks about her ex and comparing her to you, does she want to date her ex again or does she want to be with you? I don't see why she would bring up her past boyfriend unless it was you that asked or mentioned it.
If her ex was bigger or felt better what's that have to do with you or now, if you had an ex that felt tigher and wetter would you mention it and say that you wished she felt as good as your ex?

[Cantona7 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Cantona7]

I don't know who initiated this, if she did, i'd say its her fault. The society we live in now is not the same as the one our grandparents lived in, meaning very few people will fall in true love with the first person they meet and spend the rest of their life with. You'd be very lucky if that happens in this age to you and it also eliminates all other insecurities about several things (penis size being one of them). Everybody now a days love variety, people get to be with people from different race, color, background and what not. So these things will always be there. Men come equipped with different sizes just as women do. It is what you are born with, by the way, you are at a right place if you want to add some to what you got. If I were you, I'd talk to her about how you really feel inside. She might be able to provide you with the words that will help you get over this. You are not the first and only person who is going through this. Internet and this forum is full of stories like this, but you got to understand there is more to sex than what you are packing down there. If you guys love each other, it shouldn't even matter a bit. Believe her when she says she is happy with what you have and how you use it. Don't let the insecure part of you take over your sane part. Every man is insecure about one thing or other, but he is only a real MAN if he conquers that insecurity. You'll start to gain in few months and then you can surprise her! but meanwhile learn to a better, secure, happy, loving, caring man. That's where true happiness lies.
Cheers!
Cris

[shaquile Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close shaquile]

Tell her how you feel when she talks about her ex and comparing her to you, does she want to date her ex again or does she want to be with you? I don't see why she would bring up her past boyfriend unless it was you that asked or mentioned it.
If her ex was bigger or felt better what's that have to do with you or now, if you had an ex that felt tigher and wetter would you mention it and say that you wished she felt as good as your ex?

well she always knew that I was insecure about it because I told few times about it. and right before our very first date I was so afraid but she said wauw dont worry my ex had a little one and everything went fine so I calmed down but then a few weeks later I just asked her and she answered honestley that he had a bigger and thicker one. the problem is that its not that simple 2 just talk about it because I already did and she said to me: "its not bad at all you know I love it and I love you but if you would really want 2 get deeper maybe you could use of them (dont know these things but you like put it on your penis so it looks bigger)" but guys come one am I the only one who thinks that is kind of humiliating that you have 2 do your girl with on of them things so some plastic thing goes deeper instead of your own flesh?
but then we rested this subject and it was not mentioned until yesterday when she told me about a friend she visited who was kind of tired not having a girlfriend beacause of his insecurity. we kinda started talking about it and it was I who said that you could make a guy less insecure if you would say things like "my ex had a bigger en thicker one" and so actually I took the subject what actually was focussed about this friend of hers en took it on me and about me.
so yeah it might even be my own fault.
so the bottom line is that I have 2 deal with it on my own.
because talking to her about this is just like she does not understand and would just come up with things that are nothing.
but another question for you guys is how I could add some thickness and get it bigger if I would want 2?
and what would you suggest safer and quicker?

[Steve23 Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Steve23]

Well seems you're the one that brought up all the insecurity and penis talk, so it's not like she brought it up out of no where. And if you two love eachother it shouldn't matter about past experiences and this and that. She was just being honest and I bet if you never brought up any of that she wouldn't of never thought twice about it.
But that thing you said with the device you put over your penis to make it bigger during sex, that's pretty wrong. I would question her about that, if all she wants is a big dick or you.


And if you do want to start PE, there's no quick or fast, but if you do it properly it's safe. You should read up on this then check out the jp90 beginner routine.
https://www.pegym.com/forums/beginne...cess-here.html

[BTBrian Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close BTBrian]

Yup I'm with Steve, you initiated the talk and have no one to blame with yourself. You just have to do whatever it takes for you to realize that she likes you now and that she enjoys sex with you, not being the biggest is nothing to be ashamed about. She obviously doesn't think size is too big of a deal and neither should you. I can guarantee that you can give her mind blowing sex that is 10 times better than the last guy if you just work on it.

[NCGUY1972 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close NCGUY1972]

not being the biggest is nothing to be ashamed about. I can guarantee that you can give her mind blowing sex that is 10 times better than the last guy if you just work on it.

agree 100%

[shordymac Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close shordymac]

you shouldn't have brought it up.

ignorance is bliss.

it's one of those things that will make you happier, not knowing.