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    Whooa... help!

    Hey guys.. I'm in need of opinions here...

    My wife and I have done a 3-some and really enjoyed it. She is bi and I have zero issues with her expressing that with other women. Why would I? I get to have fun as well. Recently we met up with a couple and we all hit it off. We have never done the swinger thing but the other couple's woman was so HOT, so I thought about it.

    The next day we invited them to our house and have some fun. Neither male touched the other woman as we both just watched the show. Then, the other couple start in on pleasing each other and BAMM.. Guy is hung like a porn star.. Maybe 9x6.5!!.

    I lost it thinking about that going into my woman. I couldn't even get erect due to the thoughts in my mind. The mental anxiety lasted a week!

    Well, my wife and I swore it off because I lost my head. Well yesterday the female 'Liked' my picture and we got into a talk about doing it again. She doesn't have the same concerns as me. It is basically me that doesn't want to do it.

    My question for you guys is should I just swallow my pride and do it? After all, his wife is smoking hot and I might enjoy myself anyway. Am I being a dick not to allow it to happen thinking he may please her vaginally better than I can? Guys, I have flip flopped 20x on doing it. I need guys who know what it is to have size insecurities to reply.
    The above is not meant to be argumentative, abrasive or confrontational. Take this and everything you read with a grain of salt.
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    Lol no. Don't do it trust me. I don't mean to be crude, but when he pipes your wife it's game over. I don't know the difference in size between you and the other guy, but just think about it. You're going down a scary road my friend. And trust me you don't want to exacerbate your current anxiety and mental instability regarding dicks anyway. There are more hot women out there.
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    • #3
      If my wife is so easily mesmerized by big cock, she can kindly see her way out the door. I'm thinking of doing it and enjoying it and trusting her not to go all big dick zombie on me.

      BTW.. I'm close to your size.
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      • #4
        I wouldn't do it. You're mentally not strong enough. I wouldn't do it myself either. Yeah, she's hot .. so .. enough hot women out there.

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        • #5
          I wouldn't be able to do it. That would bother the hell out of me.

          I would verbalize my issue with it though. I wouldn't leave them guessing.
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          • #6
            Very few people are selfless enough to watch their partner have sex with someone else and not get jealous. Him having a big dick only exacerbates your jealousy. Even if he was small I'm sure you would have had the same reaction when you saw a guy getting ready to bang your wife. I don't think you should do it.
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            • #7
              that would be a tough one for me. i have never been the smaller guy in a threesome and cant imagine it the other way around

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              • #8
                My problem was just the opposite. It was my wife who couldn't handle the idea of me putting my dick in another woman.

                But the way I look at it like this... No matter the size of the other guy's dick or how much she may enjoy it your wife will always prefer yours cause (I know it sounds mushy) it's attached to you. She loves you and the sex you have with her isn't just sex it's an intimate act that only the two of you are able to share. That guys is just gonna fuck her. It's not like she's gonna get it in her and go "well it was nice with you but this guys dick is bigger. See ya!"
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                • #9
                  You know what, Woparican, you get a rep for that comment because you are right about how most woman feel about their man's shlong and because your profanity is low in the text which it proper in all contexts.

                  Now to Cya at 8.
                  It's a dangerous road when it comes to swinging with couples because feelings, insecurities (which does have to deal with penile size at all), etc... can easily destroy the relationship and lives. I would advise to reconsider before it creeps up on you and your wife, bro.
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                  • #10
                    Honestly speaking, I can't relate to this concept of swinging. I couldn't even conceive of that and I personally would recommend you keep your relationship 100% monogamous. That's just me though.
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                    • #11
                      3 somes are fine if you want to explore that, but when you are married, it's very different, It's like opening Pandora's Box, something bad is bound to happen. Me and my ex went to a swingers party, they had an area in this home that was pitch black, people were fucking all over the place, and eventually my wife and I was approached by a couple and eventually we all had sex with someone else. As we drove home, it was like something died between us. She stayed in the shower for hours. Once you do a 3 some with a devoted wife, it changes the dynamics of your relationship. Please dont do it, it's a lifestyle for people who are wild and sex crazed.

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by Atlbruh10 View Post
                        3 somes are fine if you want to explore that, but when you are married, it's very different, It's like opening Pandora's Box, something bad is bound to happen. Me and my ex went to a swingers party, they had an area in this home that was pitch black, people were fucking all over the place, and eventually my wife and I was approached by a couple and eventually we all had sex with someone else. As we drove home, it was like something died between us. She stayed in the shower for hours. Once you do a 3 some with a devoted wife, it changes the dynamics of your relationship. Please dont do it, it's a lifestyle for people who are wild and sex crazed.
                        The problem is that she wants to. If I stop it right now, who's to say that she just doesn't do it without my knowledge? You only got to see one result of your choices. While bad, the other may have lead to her or you cheating to see what it is like?

                        In my mind, due to the fact she wants to do it, I really have only one choice.... Get it over with and decide after the fact. I love this woman and would hate to lose her but stopping her from something she wants to do wont solve the underlying issue.... There is obviously something more that she wants that she doesn't get from me.
                        The above is not meant to be argumentative, abrasive or confrontational. Take this and everything you read with a grain of salt.

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                        • #13
                          Here is another thought for you. I know you said that your wife is for it.

                          It is very common and normal for couples to have desires and fantasies that are never acted upon. Some talk about the fantasies as a means of some sexy foreplay, and others even role play them out. Just because the desire or fantasy is there doesn't mean you have no choices. There are many ways to explore a fantasy without putting your relationship or your sanity in jeopardy.

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by donjelqer76 View Post
                            Here is another thought for you. I know you said that your wife is for it.

                            It is very common and normal for couples to have desires and fantasies that are never acted upon. Some talk about the fantasies as a means of some sexy foreplay, and others even role play them out. Just because the desire or fantasy is there doesn't mean you have no choices. There are many ways to explore a fantasy without putting your relationship or your sanity in jeopardy.

                            I hope that whatever you choose, it ends up going well for you
                            Thanks man. I appreciate it.

                            When one person is for it and the other is hesitant, there will be friction and a little resentment. If she only wished to use it as a fantasy, there would be no issue.
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                            • #15
                              My relationship suffered a bit due to this 'situation'. My wife was always worried that the other girl was younger and thinner. Or that I was gonna enjoy sex with her more. (BTW.. out of respect for her feelings I never had sex with the girl) We would be divorced right now if we hadn't dumped the girl when we did.

                              I know that both of us want her back and because we couldn't make it work (cause of my wife's jealousy) that's a problem that will linger through the rest of our marriage.

                              You always take a chance when you 'play' outside of the marriage. Either one of you could find something the other isn't giving you and want to move on. But if either one of you doesn't want to do it then you just CAN'T. You made promises to each other when you got married and you need to be a team and make decisions together. If she doesn't like that she can't be with other people too bad for her.
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