After only 6 months my girl feels no urge to be sexy

[Abomb123 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Abomb123]

So I have a strange issue. Tell me of I'm crazy for what I'm thinking.

Here's the issue, I have been dating this girl for a little over 6 months. This started after about 2 months but has escalated a little much for me.

After being with her for 2 months she told me she was constipated and really wanted to go to the bathroom. Not a big deal I know everyone poops and such. But that was when it started. It has gotten to the point where she tells me when she is constipated, asks me to take her to get coffee so she can take a shit. Buy her ex lax etc. which even still I am happy to do. But the other day we went hiking at a park, she can up to me and asked me if some leaves we're poised ivy or not. I said no, then she said she was going to go take a shit in the woods!! We were maybe a 10 min hike from a bathroom. No joke. Now this was quite a bit passed my comfort line for sharing of stuff like this and she could have easily just went to the bathroom. (it was not an emergency bowel movement) she just didn't feel the need to backtrack to the bathroom.

Now this may all sound trivial but she has also completely stopped the slightest trying to be sexy for me, or doing anything sexual. Am I wrong for not wanting to do anything romantic for her? I mean girls like guys to be romantic and guys like girls to be sexy -- sometimes. We barely have sex (like 1 maybe 2 times a week) to me it is a big problem that doesn't change. And I have spoken to her about it recently.

Has anyone else had these issues? I would expect them after years of marriage or dating, but after 6 monts I am wondering what else is in store? Will we have sex barely monthly? And will I even want to have sex with her?

I need some outside input. Thanks for the read

[DemOne Banned Find all posts View Profile Close DemOne]

Either she's just really comfortable with you, or she has a pooping fetish.

[hsarge Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close hsarge]

How old are you? Do you think you are sexy all the time? Dating isn't a relationship. Wait until you have kids. What if she has a prolonged illness? All of life isn't sexy. A lot is just plain ordinary, if you are lucky.

[ronnierokk Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ronnierokk]

hmmmm, I have never heard of such a thing. I can't say why she has to shit all the time, but the lack of sex could be from her problem she is having.

Ok as far as the sex, are you saying that when you want to have sex with her, she makes the excuse that she needs to go to the bathroom?

Or does she just do this at other times?

[islander Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close islander]

I find this to be gross!
My advice is to direct your concern to her bowels. She needs to see her Gyno and get referred to a gastro doc
Sex helps women go number two. Helps! So if she feels like crap for not crapping let that be the priority.

Tink has a thread somewhere about the stages of relationships. I think it's call labarynth stage or something? It's great and shows a great view on the stages.

I feel bad for you about the lack of sexy on her part but don't retaliate. Urge her to seek medical care for her issue.

Good luck!

[DemOne Banned Find all posts View Profile Close DemOne]

I find this to be gross!
My advice is to direct your concern to her bowels. She needs to see her Gyno and get referred to a gastro doc
Sex helps women go number two. Helps! So if she feels like crap for not crapping let that be the priority.

Tink has a thread somewhere about the stages of relationships. I think it's call labarynth stage or something? It's great and shows a great view on the stages.

I feel bad for you about the lack of sexy on her part but don't retaliate. Urge her to seek medical care for her issue.

Good luck!

So, that scene from Zack and Miri Make a Porno isn't all fiction after all.

[Abomb123 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Abomb123]

I understand life isn't sexy, that's not what I'm getting at. What I'm saying is I feel like I have went from a new relationship to a married for 10 years relationship. It's not that she isn't sexy all the time. It's that she is NEVER trying to be sexy. EVER.

She has been constipated for over a week. She always says her stomach hurts. She never initiates sex. She never puts on make up for me.

90 % of the time I try to have sex with her she says she doesn't feel well or her stomach hurts or she just laughs and rolls over and goes to bed.

I just turned 25 and she is 27. I don't expect her to be sexy all the time. Heck I don't want her to be sexy most of the time. I like that she is comfortable with me. But the fact that she has no motivation to be sexy for a guy she hasn't been with for very long in my eyes.

I always hear how guys never do anything for their gf and how they aren't romantic and don't cuddle and don't give them attention etc. and how the relationship is boring or whatever. To me it goes both ways, you have to do things for eachother keyword "sometimes". Not all the time but every once in a while I think it is necessary.

I mean she is taking a shit in the woods when there is a bathroom nearby. I'm a guy and I wouldn't do that. She doesn't have a fetish, I just really feel like she doesn't give a shit and just figures I'm a guy so I will want her regardless and she doesn't have to do anything. It's a pretty big issue for me at this point. If I'm expected to be a guy, I expect a girl to act like a lady to an extent.

[IHaveAHugeNick Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close IHaveAHugeNick]

If the sex has dried up already after 6 months, then you need to talk openly with her about it. Now way should anyone grow old without the hope of having sex with their partner.

My wife went through a phase where she had no libido at all. After close to a year, I blew my top. We had discussed it many times but never got anywhere. We had 2 kids (the youngest was a baby). So I knew she was tired and no feeling sexy while breastfeeding. But a man can only go so long without sex (a married man, no less!)

So, I packed my bags and told her I was leaving her. I wouldn't stay another night in the same bed as her if we were just going to be room mates. I was serious. She convinced me to give her one last chance. She went for therapy and things got better. Now (3 years later) we are chugging along like a normal (wtf is normal anyhow?) married couple with 2 kids. Sex is no longer an issue, but man it was bad for a while.

The moral? You need to talk to her about it. And if nothing changes, then ask yourself if you want to live out the rest of your life not having sex... that is what you've posted right? That she's stopped even trying to do anything sexual. If you can live without sex then there's really just the popping thing you should deal with. If you hate the thought of never or hardly ever having sex, then you need to get through to her or leave. It's really that simple.

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Six months is not long enough to for me to want to stick out problems with the frequency of sex, and her disregard for turning you on, or off as it may seem. You two should be humping like rabbits at this stage. Honestly, I'd talk to her of your concerns, give her a small chance, and then get out of there and find a better catch. Sorry to be insensitive.

[islander Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close islander]

Dem I don't know the movie but as gross as this is, a quickly is all it takes!
I'm outta this thread!!

[malehanger Banned Find all posts View Profile Close malehanger]

Sounds like she needs to change her diet. It's not normal to have constipation, or "lazy bowel syndrome" as it's sometimes called. Many people wrongly believe pooping every other day or less, is "normal". A healthy person should have 1-2 bowel movements per day. I'd get her to a dietician, or help her eat more vegetables and fruits with fewer meats and animal products. Otherwise, she may be on the path to some serious health issues.

[sandiego27 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close sandiego27]

With all the constant pooping, don't try anything up the backdoor...

This thread has me frightened of marriage, Womans Brain: "Oh, I've got a ring on my finger, I can finally say goodbye to looking sexy, to having regular sex, to watching what I eat, to giving blowjobs, ect.. ect.."

Once she has you in that binding contract, yikes. And this particular woman gave up after 6 months? Imagine how she would be if you were married.