What is your game to get the girl?

[camaro Senior Member Member of the month June 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close camaro]

Thought i would start a thread where people can discuss their pick up game.Why don't you lay out your game, and compare?

If you are successful, others can learn and benefit.If you aren't, you can see why.

I'll start with a few tips.

1. Find out who the important people in her life are.Get into their good books, so much so that her friends think they are doing her a favor by pushing her toward you.When in doubt, be polite.

2. Be a cut above the rest.Does everyone have a varsity jacket? Wear leather.Does everybody wear axe? Wear something exclusive.

3. Do not be afraid to show your manliness, or conjure some if you don't possess any.It is easy - Just do the right thing in the face of lousy odds.

4. Touch her without being creepy.The first time you do it, let it be something like helping her get down a ladder or something gentlemanly.If you appear a creepy toucher, your game is blown.*

*5. Don't be afraid to have a few touches that are unique and classy.A cool pair of shades, proper shoes, a signature scent, a certain haircut or beard make you stick in her memory.If you are lucky, she might use those to get naughty in her head.Which means she will actually want you and respond to your affections.

Depending on the interest this receives, i'll update if needed.

So go on, share your game, win the girl.*

[arkham Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close arkham]

There was a thread like that, even a group. But it was closed down because this site does not promote PUA's.

[Padawan787 Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Padawan787]

Really? could you post a link so that I can see the thread?

It may have been closed because of arguing or off-topic posting or something similar.

[camaro Senior Member Member of the month June 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close camaro]

This thread might head the same way then... but i'm no pick up artist..

[Padawan787 Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Padawan787]

Anyway, this XKCD is obligatory:

xkcd: Pickup Artist

[Glamissand1 Senior Member Member of the Month March 2014 Find all posts View Profile Close Glamissand1]

The trick with all women is to make them want a kiss then take it, to want a hug and then take it, to want sex and then take it. They want to be taken, but they are picky as to who it will be. Be clean and well groomed, have fun and be in a good mood before you talk to a girl you like. Compliment her style or shoes or purse. Don't ever be afraid of a girl saying no! Just smile and move on. If you are still timmid hang back and look for any girls that make eye contact with you, if this isn't working make a pass by compliment and go back to your hang out spot. Then see if she looks for you.

[MovingUp Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close MovingUp]

I'd really be interested in the girls on here giving their input here, I think they could give some great insight that we probably would not have, but then again, the whole "woman don't know what they want" idea might be true so maybe they won't! LOL

[GoalOfNinePlus Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close GoalOfNinePlus]

Easy answer....Above all...Trust in Yourself!!!!
Show your true intent, and be unapologetic about your actions.

[GTO Retired ModeratorPEGym EditorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close GTO]

Having been told this by enough women to know it's true, 'no' game is the best game. 'Game' is only for girls that have no clue what they want. A mature woman knows the deal and can see through it all anyway. Take that and decide which one you want.

[camaro Senior Member Member of the month June 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close camaro]

I beg to differ.A " Game " in my opinion is your approach.How would you approach these mature women? That also requires certain amounts of tact.

[arkham Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close arkham]

Really? could you post a link so that I can see the thread?

It may have been closed because of arguing or off-topic posting or something similar.

I remember that Toadstool created a PUA group here. After 1 day it was closed as "pegym does not promote PUA community" or something like that.

[CaptainJohnson Retired ModeratorSenior MemberPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CaptainJohnson]

1) Be confident.
2) Get noticed.
3) Communicate.
4) Comfort. Listen.
5) Move in. Seduce.
6) Do whatever you want.

1 - This is the golden standard. The rule that defines every single action you take, thought you have, and behavior you exhibit. If you aren't naturally confident, fake it: it may end up being your reality. The fact is, its more effective when the confidence is real, but faking DOES work too, to an extent. You remember those tough guys in high school? Well Jimmy the quarterback was chronically depressed and nobody ever knew until 3rd year University. That didn't stop him from fucking your high school crush: Surprise.

2 - A confident man in the background is like a really pricey suit: you know you want it, but the cost is just too high. It might be gorgeous, and everything you want, but you don't know it if you don't try it on, and if the price tag is too high, you might not even bother to slip it on in the first place, let alone buy it and take it home. Get noticed: do something that makes you stand out, say something that makes you interesting, behave in a way that says you are the focus of attention for a damn good reason.

3 - If no.2 was "how to be interesting", number 3 is "why you are interesting". Show them who you are at heart, while maintaining numbers 1 and 2. Emote, emote, emote: for the love of god use intonation, changing pitch to express emotion, play up your nonverbal behavior while limiting hand gestures and maximizing confident posture, and always remember any question you pose can be phrased as a comment as well. Comments that ask a question are better than actual questions. Don't hesitate to put a personal spin on subjects and feed her information just as much as she gives you. Keep communication running at a 50/50 split: 50% of the conversation shows what a great guy you are, and 50% of the conversation makes her show what a great girl she is for you, after all, you haven't decided if you like her yet. You are the prize, but you are a modest prize.

4) Subjects may turn serious. Play the comfort card: be the guy that she can now develop short-term trust with. This is because you two seem to have all the same interests, or maybe you don't, but hey, that makes you two a beautiful contrast of each other, right? Number 4 is all about building emotional and social connections between you two through the conversation tidbits of number 3 in an effort to secure trust, attraction, and comfort. Numbers 3 and 4 are actually intertwined, but since 4 develops as the conversation develops, I put it after 3.

5) Don't be a bitch: if you don't make your move eventually, you are no better than a chicken with its head cut off. Clearly, she is now comfortable with you, and likes you, so this should be pretty damn easy. Hit on her like no tomorrow. Honestly, you should have been throwing nonverbal signals this whole time, and using your physical vicinity to build sexual attraction, but its only at number 5 when it becomes blatant. This is the point where you get to test how far you can take her, and if you played your cards right, at the first tiny move you make to sexually escalate, she will pounce you like a tiger in heat.

6) I don't care if you are into full-body handcuffs with a strap-on and a six-tail. If you are good enough at numbers 1 to 5, you should be able to convince almost anyone to take whatever risks you want. I stress 'almost' because some people DO actually have comfort zones, but hey, those are walls to tear down after you are having casual sex on a three-times-a-week basis.


My name is CJ, and this is Intro to Approach and Attraction: 101. The advanced lessons come after the Q&A. Feel free to PM me with any questions. One thing to remember: None of this is game. This is just what people do to succeed on their own merits. I am not telling you to act like someone else or use shitty canned material. I want you to be yourself, open up, be honest about who you are, and have fun. The only thing you can't be honest with is how confident you are (unless you really are confident). Confidence is not who you are, it is what you need properly show who you are. I am sorry, but confidence is hot, and insecurity is not. Also, a major problem a lot of guys I know have is that they fail to either have meaningful conversations (which is the point of no. 4) or they fail to make a move (which is the point of no. 5). The order of the list above does not matter as much as the meaning of each step. Be yourself, be confident in yourself, open up with honesty, and always make your move. A man who doesn't leap never lands on his feet.

[camaro Senior Member Member of the month June 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close camaro]

Bravo CJ!! Exactly what i was looking to hear.Hope the others come up with meaningful stuff like this as well.

[Toadstool Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Toadstool]

Here's my game. It's not complicated.

Go out well dressed, well groomed and feeling powerful. The day starts off by wanting it to be AWESOME. I don't care if I'll meet a girl or a shriveled old man - I've already decided to have fun and enjoy myself. Someone can join me if they'd like ... and they often do.

Next, I'll find a girl who already likes me. It's easy to spot once you know what to look for. Once I've found her, I'll start having fun with her. Teasing her, joking about my surroundings. I'm really doing it for my own amusement and she becomes part of that.

I seek out to understand her. I'll ask her questions about herself and her life and really try to listen and understand why she does what it is that she does. I mean, maybe she'll like warm showers. I'll ask her, are you the kind of person who always takes a warm shower? She'll say, yea. I'll ask, okay .. what does it do for you? Then she'll give me a list of why she enjoys a warm shower. I'll feed that list back to her in different words and she'll end up with this big smile on her face as though i've understood her and that makes her feel good.

I try to make the date interesting and exciting. I often get told by girls, "I don't know what you're going to do or say next." I try to express that my life's a big adventure and she's just coming along for the ride.

Basically, I'll flip flop between making her feel really good about herself, to laughing at her in a warm way. I get called a dick or asshole a lot, but the way they say it tells me they're totally loving it.
I do have canned material, but only because I see the same situation happen again and again. I work in a bar, so i'll go up to a really well dressed waitress and say, "Do you know who the most attractive person is in this room right now?
She'll say with a smile, "tee hee no who?"
I'll say, It's me of course!! But you're a close 5th.
Then their mouth will drop like they'll look at me like I'm an ass. They often punch my arm and then try to have some banter later on. It's great fun.

[CaptainJohnson Retired ModeratorSenior MemberPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CaptainJohnson]

Really? could you post a link so that I can see the thread?

It may have been closed because of arguing or off-topic posting or something similar.

I think I remember something of that sort being closed back in April or May. It had trailed off into arguments of evolution and pseudo-psychology and also involved a lot of generalizations about women. The original intent for the thread was great, but it became a 'tussle topic' for the strong-willed and opinionated.

I get the sense that this topic is meant to be a bit different, specifically catering to the ideas of what people do personally, and what works for them, or what people's opinions are concerning what it means to be successful at meeting women for the purpose of creating a sexual circumstance.

The last time a PUA thread was big here, it went on the topic of 'oneitis' and people got heated. If this thread follows the same path, the same thing will happen, but I am hoping it won't have to come to that.