New relationship question

[mrmark Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close mrmark]

Oh islander i know how randy you are from previous threads i'm just wating to read "i couldn't wait any longer so i just shagged him senseless"
Or just buy a hitachi magic wand and buzz away until you are a sleep.Good luck.

[islander Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close islander]

Lmao mark
Yea I've got my handy tool and its fully loaded. I guess if this makes it he will find out how "randy" I am lol. I don't know what that it but you do and your probably right haha

I'm hoping he won't freak out! Lol

He is def milder than me in lots of ways.

I will only see him in public places. Drive myself there etc. at least for a month haha

Please I hope he never finds this forum haha

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Okay so he got divorced and his kids cut him off? That means he did something really bad to their mom besides divorcing her. What could it have been? A question that needs an answer!

[mrmark Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close mrmark]

He won't freak out,most men would jump at the opportunity but there are execeptions to the rule i suppose so maybe tell him a bit later you are a man eater

[islander Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close islander]

Cusp. My initial feeling was huh humm. Before I could ask the next question he went into great detail. BF and GF since they were 14. 25 years together. Grew apart. His entire family is close to him. The kids and his ex recent his moving on and leaving her after all that time. He supported her financially for years and them until about six months ago. None of them live in state Two out of the country one 10 hours away.
I'm cautious but no offense men have been known to stop trying where women or moms tend to never stop trying even if the woman was in the wrong.

He's a strong muscular built guy but I can take him. I'm well trained lol

But for now ill keep set up that I meet him on our dates in my own car.

He already knows that one of my bff's is a detective. That I had his record checked. He knows enough about my family. I actually took a picture of his car and tag right in front of him.

If he is a bad guy he's a fool. I know they are out there. I'm in alert still. But until I see something to make me concerned I'm going to stay positive but not naive.

My ex did nothing wrong. I divorced him. Broke him to pieces and after he got upset I fled the county and move me and my son to another town. For over a year my ex had no idea where we lived. My son should have been mad at me for divorcing. But he became distant with his dad. Two years later they are full and happy.

So this guy is Latin. They are stubborn. His kids are too. They lived with their mom tripping.

I don't know. Ill try to find out more. I don't want him to think I'm mafia so I can't get too forceful lol

More as I know it.

But please continue to post. That's why I'm writing it here. Y'all might see something I'm not.

Love you guys. Xo

[islander Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close islander]

Ty mark.

Another thing he has only had two relationships. First one his whole life and a short four month one end of last year.

He's told me all of his relatives names.

How do I ask for more info on the ex and kid situation? We spoke about how hard it is on him. On his mother and the siblings and cousins.

He said that at this point they are adults and they need to find their own truth. He told them no matter what they need he is there for them. And when they are ready he will be there.

So right now, until I meet his family, I only have what he tells me. I can read people well and get them to talk so once I'm with his mom brother or sister I should have a clearer idea.

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

I cannot see grownd kids, who know the way the world works, rejecting a father over a divorce. Ohdo they get mad? Sure they always will take sides but they still want to see their dad. My folks got divorced when I was 17, it wasn't pretty and they never made it pretty but I still wanted to see both of them.

[jay1993 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close jay1993]

Let us know what his stats are!!

[islander Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close islander]

In the Latin community they are real big on deserving respect. Rather than earning it. He is latin but was born and raised in the USA. However his ex and children were born in a Latin country and after the divorce went back there. I know there are many reasons adult children shun one of the parents. I think its easier to shun the dad rather than the mom. At least that is all I have ever seen when shunning occurs.

You are right. There has to be more to it. It is his story to tell. I will try to get more out of him on the subject. I did notice that his kids are not on his facebook. Although I am not on his facebook but his friend list is public. Maybe their names are not public.

Jay: I am going to guess and I have no idea. I have not seen any bulge or any photos of him in anything tight enough to show the outlining of his junk. But I am going to guess he is around 7" by 5.5" lol If he is any bigger I will be sad because that causes some problems for me down there lol

He's very strong and has great legs so I am hoping he is coordinated hahahaha Okay dont get me thinking about it damn you Jay lol

[islander Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close islander]

I cannot see grownd kids, who know the way the world works, rejecting a father over a divorce. Ohdo they get mad? Sure they always will take sides but they still want to see their dad. My folks got divorced when I was 17, it wasn't pretty and they never made it pretty but I still wanted to see both of them.

Also lets keep in mind that neither child lives in the same state. That does not mean he could not go see them but I suppose his ego is hurt and unless they invite him he wont make the trek out there. Hopefully this is macho and macha stubbornness between them all and it will heal. I am extremely family oriented and this particular issue bothers me greatly. I am not his manager and I won't try to "fix it" for him.

[islander Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close islander]

Had a great night
Got more info
Now that I know where he grew up he was sick wealthy. Then as an adult with his own family also wealthy
The kids were used to a certain life
Economic bust. Divorce. Change of lifestyle. They were not equipped. Hurts because money or lack there of related.
They do exchange photos and random calls. Nothing constant though. He is hopeful

Two hours of mature great time. One hour of hot mess. The kissing flooded me out. He has a good idea now about my level I had to stop several times
He showed thru his pants he was excited. I almost touched him. I caught myself. Yea what a mess lol

If I wasn't traveling next week i would say I can make it one or two more dates. Otherwise break it off cuz there is no way he can kiss me like that and me not want more. That's insane

I'm taking the day off. Going fishing with my BFF and red neck out for the day. Beer , smokes and the wide open glades.

Moving right along.....

[Looking4more Retired Moderator Member of the Month Feb 2013PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Looking4more]

Its great to hear you found someone you really care for Islander. The love of my life is Latin as well. Love that hot blooded woman!
I hope everything works out with his family.
Going fishing in the Glades is always a great way to unwind. It's been a number of years since I've gone. Need to do it again soon. Got a great spot in Holiday Park where the canals and airboat trails cross. Have fun!

[5"penis Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close 5"penis]

I kinda took my time with my girl we are engaged. I am not really s church person but I went with her just to see if she is a fanatic. she isn't. she uses it for mental and spiritual health. which is ok. she also lets me go off on my own on archery and gun shoots. she says she has to trust me and.that is the first for me. all my exes have been. controlling. so its ok to feel him out. I once dated a girl and she said "yes sir" to me in a sexy voice and got me all hot and bothered and we had some really awesome sex.

[MrsLooking4more Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Feb 2013PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close MrsLooking4more]

Hey Islander,
I have been out of the Gym for a few days due to my work schedule and just saw this thread. Glad you seem to have found a nice compatible man. As for the deal with the kids, yes we Latinos have some culturally bread stubbornness about certain things and divorce is one of them regardless of the reason. I don't subscribe to this mentality since I saw what it did for my parents (who are much better off divorced) but it completely separated the family (extended too), they took sides and to this day they are still that way.

I think i great that there is some interaction between him and the children even if sporadic. They might be afraid to hurt the extended family feeling as well as their mother. For me it was the opposite, (I had the better relationship with my dad but my mom got custody of the kids at the time) so I tried to play the extended family game without hurting my mother's feelings. It is though when the culture is involved to such a degree but is not impossible.

Wish you the best with the relationship, I think a Hot Latino might just be the perfect match up for you (so says the woman married to the Hot Gringo boy). LOL

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Hot gringo? Is that something I can eat?