Bisexual; To each his own or confused?

[LilNudeDude Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close LilNudeDude]

This is a topic that has fascinated me for a long time. Or rather people's feelings about the concept of Bi-sexuality. This may or may not be to direct or touchy of a discussion. I found this community to be uniquely open-minded able to discuss most anything.

Some people are, "eh, whatever. To each his own." Others are, "no offense, I prefer to hang out with straight people only".
The ones that I find curious are the, "your just confused, it's one way or the other, brother" crowd. ???????
The fact that I've received it from both sides of the tracks is what really intrigues me; both straight and gay.

Long story short, as to what drives this. I was having some great chat in a gay bar one night. We got around to confiding a little bit of ourselves to each other. As soon as I said I was BI, he rolled his eyes, "ugh, talk to me when you're not confused." He walked away, leaving me scratching my head, "umm..ok, what just happened?".

I'm just curious for your thoughts and perspectives on the subject, if you would please.

[MovingUp Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close MovingUp]

ehh i had a lil convo relating to this on private messages with a member on here, I'll snatch a bit from a message of mine:

I believe we are merely creatures that have evolved brains, brains that have evolved to have parts for sexuality to reproduce to continue our species ... now for whatever reason we can enjoy the same sex in certain circumstances or in certain people, some more than others ... there's no need to over-simplify it like we try to by classifying people as bi/straight/gay ... that's erroneous ... even your self is a manifestation of a total sum of your memories and thoughts put together to create an idea of yourself, we are not unlike super advanced robots, with inner working hormones and urges to keep us alive ... for whatever reason a person may develop into liking their own sex a little or a lot, in the end it should be seen as that, not that they were born that way or not born that way, we simply grow to be .. do not get caught up in trying to classify yourself into preexisting notions of sexuality and realize even your self is simply an idea ... don't look at it negatively, but rather positive and confident that you can change in however way you'd like ... your life and the world is your oyster to play with while you're here .. your body is the machine you were given; work on it, strengthen it, perfect it for the journey ...

[LilNudeDude Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close LilNudeDude]

Nicely put Moving. That's the way I think.

That's why, as reasonably evolved adults, why does it have to be one way or the other other. Total blows my mind when I meet Gay people that think that way. Just my natural curiosity trying to understand human nature.

[austfred Member Find all posts View Profile Close austfred]

This is an interesting question. As a hetero I believe I can understand why some people are Bi. It widens their sexual experiences. Hetero men engaging in gay sex in jail where there are no hetero options is an example. I believe most heteros have an inbuilt resistance to gay activity because it cannot not lead to procreation. I cannot understand why gays object to bi activity and are often hostile to 'gay for pay' porn stars. Its as if they see such activity as a threat. Are they frightened they might be converted? I suppose the same could be said of homophobic heteros.

[AGaySeaOtter Member Find all posts View Profile Close AGaySeaOtter]

People seem to care too much about peoples sexual preferences. The only time when it is actually important is when you are trying to get them into bed. Now for other relevant thoughts from the brain of me, some may be controversial but aren't meant to insult or anything bad like that.
I think being gay or bi is a choice, maybe not in every case but I think a good proportion was a conscious choice. For example I have had a few friend that spent a lot of time chasing the ladies and basically failing to obtain them, suddenly they claimed they were gay and went after guys. It seems to much of a coincidence for no link to exist. Sometimes it might be a subconscious choice with the underlying thought process of maybe I am not meant to be going after women since they are unresponsive to me. There is the whole woman in a mans body thing that sometimes happens and that is possibly a different mechanism causing it, hormone stuff for example.
there are people that also feel the need to tell everyone what sexual preference they have. I don't understand why they feel the need to mention it, it's generally just useless information. Also while I am semi on the topic, why are there so many gay people on tv now. It almost seems like they were hired just because they are gay.

Sorry for that turning into a bit of a rant

[islander Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close islander]

First line of post above me. 100%

If there is a group you have started on the forum let me know. I think in a thread you will end up with some garbage posts and it can be a very healthy discussion and needed outlet for many

Xo

[BigO AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close BigO]

Your preference is your decision, there are just as many gay people that are prejudiced as straight people. If you wish to be bi-sexual then a gay guy should not say shit about it, neither should a straight person. It is funny to me that a gay guy would say you are confused but then may come out and say he was born that way. Cant have different standards. ( I am not saying all gay guys are like the example given)

[someone_like_u Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close someone_like_u]

"It is a sign of great inner insecurity to be hostile to the unfamiliar."

Hey LilNudeDude, I would have thought the guy in the bar would have been more open being it's taken so long for the world to become more accepting of gays, but I guess, there's a bad apple in every barrel. Maybe he felt being you were attracted to both sexes, he'd have more "competition" to gain your attention and keep you interested in him, and that was his hangup, really don't know though.

*Personally, I don't think Bi-sexuals are confused. I simply believe some people are attracted to both sexes, just as those who are attracted to one sex, and also as there are some who have no sexual attraction to any.

[DaddyDick Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close DaddyDick]

Someone's sexual orientation is not important to me unless I am having sex with them or they are making unwanted passes at me. Other than that I can care less. Besides what business is it of mine? Hell, I would like to see my wife have sex with the neighbor's wife. Me and the other Mr completely agree on this hotness.

[LilNudeDude Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close LilNudeDude]

Appreciate the feed back. Keep them coming. Brings up interesting sidelines. May the title should be where is your mind on sexuality?

No, Big-O, it is not all gay guys. Just every so often, I run into it. I just sit there like a dog with my head cocked sideways. "Errr???"

Someone. Seriously! One would think the gay community on the whole would be completely accepting considering the past. The competition could be a factor. Didn't really think about it at the moment.

@Otter, I find your little rant quite amusing. I see that sort of thing on TV and makes me groan. Next you know, thank to the silly media, it will be fashionable to be anything other than Hetero. I have to admit, I just look up and ask "please God, don't let me meet someone being gay as fashion statement." You just know there are people out there like. LOL.

Islander, all. I did think about making a group. But does anyone really pay attention to the the groups? I checked more than a few. There might might be a couple that are really active. I might anyway. I will cue in, if I do.

Growing. That brings up an even more interesting one. Who has run into this one? Talking about same sex adventures. I have find common on all sides: Male, Female, straight, gay, and even lesbians. Two women together, "That's hot!" I agree, given the choice of the moment, I would be more prone to watch the two women go at it. But, two guys together, "GROSS!". For me, again, due to my habits, Lean and Clean to watch two guys go at it. That's the way I like my body.

So what are your the thoughts on that one? Please everyone participate.If you really do feel particular way with either situation, I definitely want to hear your input. You are you, I am me. I accept people for who they are, which why very few have a problem hanging out with me. even though staunchly disagree with my views.

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

I always thought that being bisexual would double my chances of getting a date. Hey what did I know!

[LilNudeDude Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close LilNudeDude]

I always thought that being bisexual would double my chances of getting a date. Hey what did I know!

Yeh, that aspect didn't work out so well.

I can't help myself, I love watching the resulting grimace. I have always said, "The best part of being BI? you get to have.....wait for it....your Nate and Edith, too!" Ba-dump-bump.

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Now that was good!

[Looking4more Retired Moderator Member of the Month Feb 2013PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Looking4more]

I have always said, "The best part of being BI? you get to have.....wait for it....your Nate and Edith, too!" Ba-dump-bump.

LOL! That is hilarious!"
Other people's sexual preference is none of my business. I don't think any less of someone if they prefer something different than I do. "To each their own" is what I always say. The guy on guy or girl on girl thing was mentioned. I was curious the other night and asked the Mrs what her and other females take was on guy on guy. The reason I asked is because so many guys think that is the hottest thing around. Personally it doesn't do much for me but doesn't gross me out either. I always come across pics on the internet of girls kissing and I see it as kinda sensual and soft but don't get turned on by it. I really can't look at pics when two guys are kissing. Be it right or wrong, that's just me. Please don't get me wrong. I'm not saying guys shouldn't be together , I just don't care to see it. Heck, I have gay people in my immediate family and love them dearly but don't want to see them kissing either. Getting back to the point, so I asked about her female perspective. She said she thought girl on girl was gross and guy on guy didn't bother her. I was a little shocked at first but then it made sense. People seem to have a problem with their own gender being gay more than the other. I am glad you posted this thread LND. Thank you. I always love seeing other people's perspectives on things. One reason I love this Gym so much.

[LilNudeDude Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close LilNudeDude]

HAHAHA! I love it. Way cool response L4M. The Mrs' response is intriguing. That's the first time I have heard a straight female say that. That is interesting. Cool. Want to put her response to the test CUSP? wink,wink. Just kidding. Or am I?

Do you mean straight guys or gay for watching guy on guy? Every straight guy I have happened on the subject are, "just stop, right now, hell no."

I have my hangups. I am hung up on the neat clean shaven look. The gay "bear" thing is not happening with me. Any guy on guy, it depends the guys involved. Sometimes it really grosses me out other times it is mesmerzing. Transvestite, no way. I will hang out, I will respect them, but that does not turn me on in any way, shape, or form. Now I do wonder what it would be like with a transexual, best of both in one package. Now I have gotten straight up "EWWW! GROSS!" from gay guys on that one.

Human nature completely fascinates me.