Originally posted by Qarzan
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It could make things awkward for the girl you are with in Paris, and for Z, and wouldn't be fair for any of you. One or two dates without exclusivity is fine, even three or four in some cases, but there is no real science to this. You have to gauge where you are and decide what is appropriate right off the bat. Part of the issue is, even though there is no rational argument for exclusivity here, people get jealous. If Z hears you are flying to Paris with a girl you are in an open relationship with, that could spell trouble. If you don't tell her, that can also spell trouble. I mean, if you don't tell her... there is probably a reason, and something inherently wrong with the notion of a trip with another girl. If you do tell her, she can become jealous or start questioning how commited you are, even though exclusivity is not a subject yet.
This is an emotional argument, not a rational one. I think things can go well here, but you have to be careful. Think about the reverse: how might you feel if a girl you go on a few dates with and start really getting a monogamous attachment for tells you she's about to fly off with some other guy she's casually involved with to Paris for a sexual/romantic excapade?
If you were just interested in Z for a casual thing, that would work. She might be interested in that too, but it sounds like you want a bit more than that. You mentioned how this feels different. She also seems like a tough nut to crack... the kind of girl you really have to work for. Just keep your wits about you in this whirlwind of a romance called Qarzan's lifestyle
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