Do men suffer from lack of self confidence too??

[SheSquirts Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close SheSquirts]

Recently I've started talking to probably one of the sexiest, most beautiful man I've ever met.

He's 6 foot, fantastic body, dark complected, dark eyes, hairy chest, AMAAAAZZZIIIING cock (no PE needed for me).

My question is I'm very self conscious of myself. I'm no Barbie and he made it perfectly clear he doesn't want a Barbie (some part of me just can't get over that either). Do men settle for "sub par" women because of lack of their own self esteem/self confidence?




*I don't want to debate this just get genuine answers...

[lil-crazy Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close lil-crazy]

I can speak for ken. Barbie is a waste of time for a relationship. Barbie is usually ugly on inside.
Unless just for a little hit and run fun.
Lol

[SheSquirts Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close SheSquirts]

Love your bluntness and honesty Crazy!! I literally laughed out loud and chuckled!

For bragging rights it's fun to say you banged Barbie, right?

[wurzbach Member Find all posts View Profile Close wurzbach]

Men do, but I think most reasonable men would avoid "barbies." I think of "barbies" as materialistic consumers, vain, self absorbed, obsessed with appearance, and generally unintelligent. I would never touch a girl like that.

Not all guys are into one night stands and racking up tallies even though that tends to be glorified. Maybe most are, I can't speak for other men. Personally, I could never have sex with a girl I didn't love and who didn't love me back. I know it may seem shocking, but some men do care more about what's on the inside and I think a lot of men place a great deal of importance on that.

[lil-crazy Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close lil-crazy]

Bragging rights? Well maybe in high school days or early 20s but to think about it some of my best experiences were not banging barbie.

And the women my age trying to keep ahold of that barbie look are pretty funny looking

[SheSquirts Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close SheSquirts]

And the women my age trying to keep ahold of that barbie look are pretty funny looking

Because you're SO old!!!

No I understand what you are saying.

[vulcan Retired ModeratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close vulcan]

Many women believe that all men like the barbie look. This is not true - body shape wise. I think most men like A LOT more curves. The face is so down to personal preference.

[MrB8 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close MrB8]

I speak for myself for I know very little of others, I don't find anything wrong or special with ANY body type or form, its just that some combinations (including character) looks more attractive than others in my eyes.

As for the "sub par" part, there is no such thing, maybe not my type, but to settle for someone thinking they are "sub par" because I'm insecure about myself, that would be wrong on so many levels than I can even think of.

Everyone is unique and special in their very own way, be comfortable with yourself, and cherish the good things you can have.

And yes, men suffer from self confidence issues too, just like women does, and sometimes about the same (or close enough) things.

[Glamissand1 Senior Member Member of the Month March 2014 Find all posts View Profile Close Glamissand1]

Some men do settle, but in most cases its for the least crazy woman. Lots of men will love the flaws in a womans shape or looks. Settling maybe, but more likely a man who knows what he's looking for. Barbie is not a mans favorite and will most likely never meet the mother.

[arkham Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close arkham]

Do men settle for "sub par" women because of lack of their own self esteem/self confidence?

Yes and no.

No- As previous posters said. Men do not always seek barbie look. Ofc they would say "I would fuck her" but nothing more. Its more about the "inside" than the looks. Of course looks are also important for building first impression/ attraction. But after that point character is what matters. I'm quite sure that someone would gladly chose a barbie with PhD. But if she is stupid "It was nice to meet you, got to go". Don't mix one night stands with relationship material.

Yes- I'm the best example. There was a time when my confidence together with self esteem hit rock bottom. Even when I saw an ugly girl I thought there is no way I would be attractive for her etc. Now after a long time of hard work II'm talking with hot, intelligent girls! So yes confidence plays a great role.

[camaro Senior Member Member of the month June 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close camaro]

Most people settle when they realize they don't need what they wanted.Make sense?

[GTO Retired ModeratorPEGym EditorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close GTO]

Most people settle when they realize they don't need what they wanted.Make sense?

I wouldn't necessarily call it "settling" - I'd lean more towards them "getting smart" about it.

"Sub-par?" There's no such thing unless you make yourself feel that way. Most guys really don't want the Barbie-on-the-shelf type; they tend to be vain, self-absorbed bitches (excuse the term but true). And even those that are way on the other end of the "looks scale" can have the very same attitude. So it's not a matter of how you look but who you are. Have confidence in the type of person you are, not so much on how you may look physically to someone else. Stick with that and you'll never consider yourself to be "sub-par."

[donjelqer76 Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close donjelqer76]

Here is a related story, SheSquirts

My friend's son just got married. He's in his early 20s, very fit and very good looking (everyone always asks if he's a model). This is a young man that literally has everything going for him.
His new bride is beautiful, smart and confident. She is a larger young woman, probably around 300 lbs or so. They are madly in love, and he loves the confidence she has in herself. He doesn't have to constantly reassure her of anything, and she never seeks that kind of reassurance from him.

Just be yourself and be confident in who you are. Anyone worth your time will only care about who you are

Look at how many members here let life pass them by because they assume everyone is going to have a preconceived notion of how they should be. While there are some people out there who are like this, there are many that are not!

I hope it works out for you

[GTO Retired ModeratorPEGym EditorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close GTO]

She is a larger young woman, probably around 300 lbs or so. They are madly in love, and he loves the confidence she has in herself. He doesn't have to constantly reassure her of anything, and she never seeks that kind of reassurance from him.

Bingo.

Personally, the "Barbies" I prefer are in the size 14 to 18 range - not gonna find too many of those on a magazine cover

[namsokiek Banned Find all posts View Profile Close namsokiek]

I don't know about others, but to me "Barbie looks" usually is synonymous with "high-maintenance."

So worried about how she looked that she couldn't have fun. Requiring constant reassurances that she was beautiful, whether from other people, a mirror, or an especially shiny something. Her obsession with her looks leads her to look for a guy with one of two qualities, 1. Obssessed with his looks in a compatible manner (typical gorgeous couple, rare), or 2. Sufficiently obsessed with her looks to tolerate the huge cost in time and salon visits to maintain the look.

When I was younger, I would have agreed that it was a confidence issue. Now, I see it as a pronouncement, "I care about you more than I care about how you look." That is a statement from a confident man who knows what he wants, which apparently is you.