5 things we should know they should know they know 5 things that we know?!?

[Glamissand1 Senior Member Member of the Month March 2014 Find all posts View Profile Close Glamissand1]

In response to the 5 things thread, and the following thread. I don't think there has been any growth or learning from the finger pointing. But has proven my point, we all like to blame, and shed blame away from our selves. So if you are Man or Woman enough, join me in pointing out our own flaws and bad doings.

I have messed up my fair share of relationships:

I broke up with a girl on her birthday over the phone, and not gently either.
I quit calling a girl because she asked me what I was going to buy her with my side job money.
I have been a major flake, missing important events and even leaving girls stranded at work, because I was to busy being drunk and lazy.
Broke up, just because I was ready for a different girl.
Lied to a girl to sleep with her then lied some more to get her to quit calling me.

There 5 things i could have done better, things i have done that most likely some other guy has to deal with as her emotional baggage. I am a bastard, a cheat and a lire, I have driven a few girls crazy, and maybe a few swore off men for awhile after me. I learned and I changed, now I have to live with those choices and choose to be a better man.

[aBone2pick Senior Member Member of the Month July 2014 Find all posts View Profile Close aBone2pick]

I think I gained something from the other threads, but here we go.

1. I admit that I often have eyes that wander more than they should.

2. I was not emtionally present for a couple months of my relationship. I didn't give her the attention I should have and it hurt her.

3. I often place unreasonable, possibly hurtful expectations on her.

4. I occassioanally drank to much and said things I shouldn't have said.

5. I think at times I can be controlling.

I'm actively working on fixing everything above. I hope I succeed.

[HammerTime89 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close HammerTime89]

1. When shes on her period I neglect the fact that its hormonal and get pissed off instead of just hugging her to make her feel better.

2. Getting even in a relationship only continues a vicious cycle of hurting each other.

3. This is my biggest one i need to work on. I need to just hold her sometimes without it leading to sex.

4. Im so stubborn with her that I neglect some important things that I feel I right about were I should just stop and put the shoe on the other foot.

5. I hold alot of resentment for our past even though I've decided to move forward in our relationship.

[Glamissand1 Senior Member Member of the Month March 2014 Find all posts View Profile Close Glamissand1]

Awesome guys! I didn't think anyone had enough balls to post. But here you guys are. Not many people can admit where they went wrong.

[HammerTime89 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close HammerTime89]

Thanks man, you cant grow as a person unless you look at your actions from an outside perspective.

[Glamissand1 Senior Member Member of the Month March 2014 Find all posts View Profile Close Glamissand1]

at this point in time 74 views and only 2 guys willing to show their faults?!?

[burtybasset Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close burtybasset]

yep

[burtybasset Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close burtybasset]

just kidding I'll post some.

Not being there enough.

Not listening enough, when on the forums (I can be very single minded)

Not cooking enough

Shouting, instead of remaining calm

Not giving her enough emotional support

There is plenty more I think she would answer this question better than me when she joins.

[HammerTime89 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close HammerTime89]

Funny you should say that, I just talked to my SO today about joining. She wants too, I told her I had a few more security issues to deal with first tho.

[MrB8 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close MrB8]

Funny you should say that, I just talked to my SO today about joining. She wants too, I told her I had a few more security issues to deal with first tho.

What security issues?

[danimal1211 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close danimal1211]

I don't like getting in fights because I know I suck at it. I know there is no such thing as a perfect relationship and I have to adapt to what ever idiosyncrasies that bother me. So I try to keep turning the other cheek, and no matter who she is, they for the most part do the same until it all blows up. As much as I marinate on the things that bother me, when the fight comes there aren't any well constructed arguments. All there is is me stamping my feet red faced with steam blowing out my ears demanding I won't cross some imaginary line.

[mrimalive1 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close mrimalive1]

The feeling of wanting to chase other woman so I find reasons o be mad at her.

Having impossible expectations of her.

Expecting top much sex....I have been working on this tho.

Not giving her enough intimacy as far as just hugging and watching movies togather.

I could help out a lot more with the children but I always let my self be lazy and let her do most of the work.

[HammerTime89 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close HammerTime89]

What security issues?

Im just gonna put this as bluntly as possible. I want to be thicker before I let her join. Im 7.7×5.1 and Ill let her join when I hit 5.5 girth. Im sure its sounds stupid and you know ive made huge leaps with insecurities but I don't feel comfortable enough with myself yet to have her on a forum about penises.

[MrB8 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close MrB8]

Im just gonna put this as bluntly as possible. I want to be thicker before I let her join. Im 7.7×5.1 and Ill let her join when I hit 5.5 girth. Im sure its sounds stupid and you know ive made huge leaps with insecurities but I don't feel comfortable enough with myself yet to have her on a forum about penises.

I thought you meant internet and computer security issues.

Well, from what you post, she only has eyes for you, she couldn't care less what size anybody else has, and BTW, 5.1 is pretty good girth.