Did He or Didn't He Screw Her?

[Nikki Banned Find all posts View Profile Close Nikki]

Last weekend, my husband (Tony) and I attended a Christmas party. There were about 50 people there. A couple of really good looking women were constantly flirting with Tony. I had been drinking quite a bit and watching these beautiful women touch Tony's face, arm, chest, etc. actually really turned me on. When no one was around him, I grabbed him and took him to the back of the house to one of the bedrooms. I locked the door and then got on my knees and unzipped his pants and gave him a blowjob. When I got through, I walked over to the bed and took my jeans and panties off. I told him watching those women fall all over him really got me excited. It didn't take him but a second to dive into my snatch, licking and sucking away.

Tony said he also had noticed some of the guys flirting with me. In just a few minutes he had regained his erection and quickly began pounding away. The sex was just incredible with all the other people so close by. When we got through we went back to the party and drank and mingled some more.

Tony can drink all night long and never get a buzz. I, though, was getting pretty drunk. One of the beautiful women who was flirting with Tony, I guess noticed I was getting pretty drunk. Kim and I know each other, and although we are very friendly to each other, we really don't hang around much together. Unknowing to either Tony or me, Kim told her ride she had a way home. She then asked Tony if we would give her a ride home since it was close to our house. He, of course, said yes. When he told me, I didn't think it was any big deal.

Just before we were going to leave the party, Kim pulled me aside and said, "Nikki, I think you and Tony are such a great looking couple. Can I ask you a big favor? Can I watch you two have sex?" I thought she was kidding but she assured me she was very serious. When I drink a lot, I do love to have sex and for some strange reason, having Kim watch us screw didn't bother me. I asked Tony about it and, of course, typical macho guy, thought that would be cool have a hot chick watch while he is banging away.

I was so horny from all I had drunk that I was squezzing Tony's cock all the way home. When we got home, we quickly got undressed and since I was so wet I told him I didn't need any foreplay. He quickly started pounding me and, I guess with Kim watching, his thrusts seemed so much more powerful. Kim was watching like a high school guy watching his first porn film. She started rubbing her pubic area and before I knew it, had taken off her jeans and panties and was fingering herself while watching Tony and me.

Drinking has two extreme effects on Tony and me. He can go on and on and on before he cums. After a little while, though, I usually pass out. Kim was gone the next morning before I had gotten up. This morning, I saw Kim and she said Tony was really great the other night. Now that I was completely sober, I started to wonder just what that meant. So, I asked, "What did you and Tony do after I passed out the other night?" She started laughing and gave me a sly look and said, "Wouldn't you like to know!!"

I confronted Tony about this and he said nothing happened. Part of me wants to believe him because he has not shown any unfaithfulness in the past. But I also know he can screw for a long time when he has been drinking and Kim has had the hots for him for a long time.

I know this is all my fault for agreeing to allow Kim to come home with us but what's in the past is in the past. So, what do you guys honestly think? Do you think Tony passed up being with this incredibly beautiful woman who would love for him to fuck her senseless? Or, did he screw her?

[JonPop Retired Sr. Administrator PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close JonPop]

He said Nothing happened. Believe him for the sake of your relationship. Don't pursue this any further Nikki, this will only lead to arguments and hurt feelings. (jP

[Dad Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dad]

It sounds like Kim likes to watch people have sex. Some people are like that. It was her fantasy and I doubt having sex with the man afterwards is part of it. If it were, she would have probably told you, since she is obviously able to drop her panties and finger herself. If she is comfortable enough to ask you to let her watch then she is sexually calibrated in a way that she is open to discuss what would have happened.

You need to relax and remember that a lot of this is in your head. It sounds like Tony really cares about you and I would not let this become a bump in the road. No matter what had happened.

I don't get the feeling that they would have had sex. I'd imagine that Tony would have probably had sex with her, only if it involved you in the experience.

Imagine: If there was a drunk guy at a party who had been flirting with you all night and complimented Tony on your relationship. He then asked Tony if he could come to your house and watch you two have sex and you two decide it's okay. While you are fucking Tony passes out and you realise there is a horny guy in a chair next to your bed holding his dick in his hands, what would you do? Probably, awkwardly as possible, tell him to put his pants on and take him home.

Dad

[burt Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close burt]

Although I don't know your husband, I would say "yes" he did. I would have, given the situation you laid out...yes, absolutely. Everyone was drinking and horny. I say if you suspect it in your gut, you are usually right about what you feel. On the other hand, you agreed to bring this woman in your bedroom. Things like that can have consequences, as you know now. If I was you, I wouldn't dwell on it and don't let it come between you and your husband. Move on, and chalk it up to a life lesson. I'm just being honest since this is what you asked for. Good luck with everything, Burt

[pe_ZEN Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close pe_ZEN]

I have to say, thats really f*cked up of your friend to say "wouldn't you like to know"...especially if its your husband. Yeah, you didn't verbally agree on groundrules beforehand as you should have. I would confront the shit out of Kim, and ask her very directly and seriously and she may tell you more. Or maybe she was just making a joke when she said that?

[Dante311 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dante311]

Alright Nikki, this is my perspective. Take it or leave it.

First of all, regardless the influence of alcohol, you put yourself in your 'bad place' given the circumstances. Instinctively we all seek some sort of sense of adventure, a sense of eros/eroticism, and a way to exonerate ourselves above the norm. No one enjoys average... despite how mundane our routine lives play out. In these given situations we, based on personality types, act or recede. I do not know you, but from browsing the forums... I might classify you as an alpha female, but a confident subtype. You're honest, loving, responsible, dress modestly - provocatively for your hubby from time to time, and people enjoy being around you. You set a great example and are or will make a great parent one day....

Eroticism is a wonderous thing... I don't know how long you've been married to your husband, but typically individuals do not make vows to one another unless there is something more miraculous between them. A sort of magic, you know? Upon pain of death.. to the grave. You seem to sound like a very happy, confident couple. Let the honesty & trust that primordially exists, an underlying foundation to your marriage and sacred bond of unity... flourish. If he tells you how it is, trust his word. And he, yours. It is normal to doubt, emote jealously, and frustration... he is YOUR man. His heart is in your hands... and yours in his. You have companionship to one another... sounds like a successful relationship to me. No matter what DID happen... you did play a role in allowing it to occur... be it these drastic images in your head and nothing more. I say, unless your husband comes crying to you about the situation or fesses up to making a mistake... in my eyes (and so to, yours) nothing happened. Go to him... give him a kiss and let him hold you in his arms. You are loved.

*sigh*

As for your "friend"... she emanates not a single quality I'd want in a friend. Radiating a void in herself by questioning you and your husband's trust (subconsciously). If you weren't in a sacred bond of marriage, I wouldn't speak this, but NO ONE has the right to encroach on someone else's better half... If a s/o flocks elsewhere is a different story. Clearly your friend is a foolhardy one and does not understand the value of a friendship. Her respone to you was vile, acrimonious, and unneccesary. I would say... give her the 'nice' treatment henceforth... but DO NOT go out of YOUR way to make her apart of your home. To me, she is nothing more than a home-wrecker and someone you and your husband could easily replace in your lives.

Be well & Happy Holidays

[5maybe Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close 5maybe]

Last weekend, my husband (Tony) and I attended a Christmas party. There were about 50 people there. A couple of really good looking women were constantly flirting with Tony. I had been drinking quite a bit and watching these beautiful women touch Tony's face, arm, chest, etc. actually really turned me on. When no one was around him, I grabbed him and took him to the back of the house to one of the bedrooms. I locked the door and then got on my knees and unzipped his pants and gave him a blowjob. When I got through, I walked over to the bed and took my jeans and panties off. I told him watching those women fall all over him really got me excited. It didn't take him but a second to dive into my snatch, licking and sucking away.

Tony said he also had noticed some of the guys flirting with me. In just a few minutes he had regained his erection and quickly began pounding away. The sex was just incredible with all the other people so close by. When we got through we went back to the party and drank and mingled some more.

Tony can drink all night long and never get a buzz. I, though, was getting pretty drunk. One of the beautiful women who was flirting with Tony, I guess noticed I was getting pretty drunk. Kim and I know each other, and although we are very friendly to each other, we really don't hang around much together. Unknowing to either Tony or me, Kim told her ride she had a way home. She then asked Tony if we would give her a ride home since it was close to our house. He, of course, said yes. When he told me, I didn't think it was any big deal.

Just before we were going to leave the party, Kim pulled me aside and said, "Nikki, I think you and Tony are such a great looking couple. Can I ask you a big favor? Can I watch you two have sex?" I thought she was kidding but she assured me she was very serious. When I drink a lot, I do love to have sex and for some strange reason, having Kim watch us screw didn't bother me. I asked Tony about it and, of course, typical macho guy, thought that would be cool have a hot chick watch while he is banging away.

I was so horny from all I had drunk that I was squezzing Tony's cock all the way home. When we got home, we quickly got undressed and since I was so wet I told him I didn't need any foreplay. He quickly started pounding me and, I guess with Kim watching, his thrusts seemed so much more powerful. Kim was watching like a high school guy watching his first porn film. She started rubbing her pubic area and before I knew it, had taken off her jeans and panties and was fingering herself while watching Tony and me.

Drinking has two extreme effects on Tony and me. He can go on and on and on before he cums. After a little while, though, I usually pass out. Kim was gone the next morning before I had gotten up. This morning, I saw Kim and she said Tony was really great the other night. Now that I was completely sober, I started to wonder just what that meant. So, I asked, "What did you and Tony do after I passed out the other night?" She started laughing and gave me a sly look and said, "Wouldn't you like to know!!"

I confronted Tony about this and he said nothing happened. Part of me wants to believe him because he has not shown any unfaithfulness in the past. But I also know he can screw for a long time when he has been drinking and Kim has had the hots for him for a long time.

I know this is all my fault for agreeing to allow Kim to come home with us but what's in the past is in the past. So, what do you guys honestly think? Do you think Tony passed up being with this incredibly beautiful woman who would love for him to fuck her senseless? Or, did he screw her?

hey niki, the truth is I don't think he did have sex with her that night especialy she is horney and she started to play with her self, in other word she may go to you and make it 3 some. that girl with her answer #wouldn't you like to know# she just want to put you in suspence, and starting to womder what really happen. my advice don't let that screw your relationship with your husband, let it go and forget about it , you had a fun that night and that's all. now I think you should learn a lesson from it.
at the end you should trust your husband.

[pe_ZEN Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close pe_ZEN]

Don't do 3-somes. Period. My best buddies marriage got fucked up because of it, just awhile ago his wife picked up and left with the baby for a week, without much contact. They have never been the same people since

[SizeMatters Member Find all posts View Profile Close SizeMatters]

OK, first of all I am sorry that you have this situation on your hands. Only those two people really know what really happened.

But lets look at things in a logical way - there are 2 beautiful drunk women and a handsome drunk guy. He has sex with you and not done with you when you pass out. She on the other hand is naked and fingering herself. Both of them are completely charged. On top of that, the fact that you gave it an OK for her to watch you have sex, he must be thinking that its OK with you if he has sex with her too. I am thinking there is a 98% chance that he did do it. I think I might have done it if I were him regardless of my relationship.

[Nikki Banned Find all posts View Profile Close Nikki]

Thanks, guys. I appreciate all of your input. All of you have made some very good points. Ever since I confronted Tony about all of this, he has been sooo nice to me and has spent quite a bit more time with me than he normally does on the weekend. Guilty conscious, maybe?

[Dante311 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dante311]

Thanks, guys. I appreciate all of your input. All of you have made some very good points. Ever since I confronted Tony about all of this, he has been sooo nice to me and has spent quite a bit more time with me than he normally does on the weekend. Guilty conscious, maybe?

Stop thinking so deep into it...

[Dad Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dad]

Thanks, guys. I appreciate all of your input. All of you have made some very good points. Ever since I confronted Tony about all of this, he has been sooo nice to me and has spent quite a bit more time with me than he normally does on the weekend. Guilty conscious, maybe?

Absolutely not. Have you ever been cheated on? LOL. I hope not, but it's usually the other way around. He would be finding things wrong with you, picking fights to justify what he had done. That is a guilty conscience. He may not tell you in that case, but he will want to feel better about.

He loves you and wants you to be happy. That is what is important to him and his actions certainly reflect that.

Dad

[baybabe Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close baybabe]

Stop thinking so deep into it...

I think quite the opposite...trust your womens intuition.

Nikki, my girl friend was just telling me about the recent ruin of her marriage because of a similar situation. They were drinking with friends and my friend invited a mutual girl friend into there bed for some late night freaky deaky. The next morning the wife jumps in the shower leaving her hubby and friend in the bed together, she gets out of the shower to find a couple of guilty looking people. They fucked each other while wifey was in the shower. At this point everyone was sober, it was the next day and the invitation was no longer offered! Not to mention its wasnt a threesome at that point! Bottom line...my friend is devastated, it ruined her friendship with the best girl friend as well as her husband. They NEED counseling now, if they dont get it it will surely fester and turn into a huge wound that will never heal. She feels like it ruined a huge portion of the warm and fuzzy feelings she had for her hubby.
Bringing people into your bed is a bad idea. My girl friend and her husband WERE the most secure and "in love" people I have ever met, I never would have thought a situation like this would turn her insecure.

[Dad Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dad]

I think quite the opposite...trust your womens intuition.

Nikki, my girl friend was just telling me about the recent ruin of her marriage because of a similar situation. They were drinking with friends and my friend invited a mutual girl friend into there bed for some late night freaky deaky. The next morning the wife jumps in the shower leaving her hubby and friend in the bed together, she gets out of the shower to find a couple of guilty looking people. They fucked each other while wifey was in the shower. At this point everyone was sober, it was the next day and the invitation was no longer offered! Not to mention its wasnt a threesome at that point! Bottom line...my friend is devastated, it ruined her friendship with the best girl friend as well as her husband. They NEED counseling now, if they dont get it it will surely fester and turn into a huge wound that will never heal. She feels like it ruined a huge portion of the warm and fuzzy feelings she had for her hubby.
Bringing people into your bed is a bad idea. My girl friend and her husband WERE the most secure and "in love" people I have ever met, I never would have thought a situation like this would turn her insecure.

That is a completely different situation. Very different. And I still feel she brought that other woman into bed and left them, wtf was she thinking? Nikki's husband took the girl home, responsibly. I think your friend was testing her husband and I question the security of that relationship. She knew they were going to have sex when she took a shower, of course they would. Duh. They were probably still naked, he woke up with wood and was like, ummm... last night was fun huh? I got wood, lets fuck.

Now they are in counseling, having someone tell them what they already know to maintain a relationship that is apparently doomed. One of them wants out, and it did not start that night.

Dad

[Dad Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dad]

trust your womens intuition.

There is a huge difference in "insecurity" and "intuition." If that was the case, every guy cheats every time he goes to work, goes to the gym, he is always on the phone with another woman, not his mom, sister, bud, it's a "whore" with a vendetta against married woman. I am exaggerating just to prove a point but nonetheless what do you think the chances are Nikki would have woken up to her moaning, or shaking the bed? Nikki did not bring a girl home for her husband to fuck; Nikki was not testing her unfaithful husband. In either case, your friend would still assume they fucked, even if they had not, because she is insecure, like most people (not just woman but men too). If they had not, and she still thought so, should she trust her intuition, or her insecurities? It's natural to be jealous, or worried about losing a loved one to another person. It is probably a thought most people consider EVERY SINGLE DAY, no matter how secure the relationship. It's life, natural, and needs to be understood to have a strong and secure relationship. That is why Tony is kissing Nikki's ass, he is not acting guilty or shady, he is loving his wife because he understands that she is feeling insecure about that night and he is reassuring her of his love.

Dad