If your wife cheated on you, will take her back?

[pegaso79 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close pegaso79]

Me and my wife have problem and I think she was cheating on me, I told her to live the house but she left with a friend for one day.
She came back and she's stay at home. We have two beautiful children and they love her so much, and of course they miss her when she was gone.
She said that she never cheat on me that he was just a friend and she said that she loss connection with me, because well I used to have premature ejaculetion I was thinking on my performance instead of the the connection with our souls.
I don't know what to think I feel like I love her and what ever happened was my full too.

[popol5169 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2014 Find all posts View Profile Close popol5169]

So she stayed with a friend for one day?
Why do you think she cheated?
Do you still have premature ejaculation?
Do you think your insecurities could be dragging you away from your wife?
Don't stay with your wife for the children, stay together if you both want to and love each other.

[masturjedimike Member Find all posts View Profile Close masturjedimike]

if I thought it was something that I was or was not doing to meet her needs, yes I'd take her back. Hell, I'd take her back even if she just wanted a fuck outside of marriage.

[Toadstool Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Toadstool]

I'd take her back even if she just wanted a fuck outside of marriage.

Well... I wouldn't.

[Sir_Laid_A_Lot Banned Find all posts View Profile Close Sir_Laid_A_Lot]

If you think the both of you can make it work and you are alright with her cheating on you once then it's ok. IMO, if she cheated on you then you shouldn't take her back. By the way we don't really know if she cheated you with her friend, but it's highly likely that she did since she told you the two of you lost connection. Hope for the best .....

[pegaso79 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close pegaso79]

Thanks for the replays and well I love her and she she said that she love me, but I stop kissing her with love, and instead of saying how much I love her I was judging my self how much I last.

[mulkey Banned Find all posts View Profile Close mulkey]

If I had a dollar for every time I heard a girl say were just friends. Mine left me twice for other men. Of course she cheated before she left. We are divorced and still have sex. We don't live together. I don't totally trust her and I never will. We both had other relationships when we were split up. We have kids we are trying to raise together while living apart.

[Phoenix7672 Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Phoenix7672]

For me it would depend if there were kids in the equation, and if there were warning signs/complete lack of sex prior to it happening. Even so, whatever caused it would need to be correctable for her to get another chance. If things were good, sex was plentiful (and great) yet she still cheated, I couldn't see myself taking them back again.

[HealthyMeat Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close HealthyMeat]

From what she said I don't think she cheated but probably eventually would have. If she didn't feel connected to you she found someone who she can connect to, which simply means talking and/or sharing time, not actually cheating but if it went on long enough feelings might have arises and led to cheating. Some people do consider a social connection/chemistry as cheating but I don't. I let my wife satyr friends with her ex's but as soon as they, meaning the guy, tries to reminisce about old times I stop their friendship. Anyway, find out what can bring back that connection between you two again

If my wife cheated on me idk what I'd do. I never trust her again but I'm so in love with her it would be hard to go our ways but I think I would have to. I always think if she cheated on me id be able to go out and be a whore and screw every chick I can, but that's my Dick thinking, don't want to really do that... well, id love to screw other women but wouldnt trade it for my marriage. Communicate!

[gettingintoshape Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close gettingintoshape]

I did, and tried to make it work for two years. Never trusted her again especially after I found out she talked to him on the phone. That was enough hurt and heartache for me. It was a game she explained, the thrill. I said have fun with your game and divorced her. That was over 10 years ago, she hates to me to this day and I have no idea why.

[Jaw Breaker Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Jaw Breaker]

No, I wouldn't. Once trust is gone, it's gone. I can tolerate a lot of things in a relationship, but cheating is not one of them. That is a deplorable act.

[jackjohnson Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close jackjohnson]

Communication is key. Sit her down and TALK about it. Ask her if she cheated or is considering cheating and what you can do to solve the problem. Couples therapy.

[SuperDD Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close SuperDD]

No

[BigO AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close BigO]

There's a lot here that the OP isn't even sure of, so it would be unwise for us to make assumptions without fully understanding the situation. I'm sure it is already troubling enough.

The problem with situations like this is the breakdown of trust. If enough doubt was created (by you or her) to question whether or not she was cheating, then there will be doubt if she denies it as well.

Things to maybe think and talk about;

-Was there justifiable reason to think there was an infidelity, or was it the worry of PreE and the resulting distance it caused?
-Was the friend she stayed with the very same one whom you suspect, and was this conveyed beforehand?
-If it's true (and I mean if),was it malicious, or out of desperation and confusion? And is there enough love and substance in the relationship to seek a solution?
-Is it desired by both?

And these are not to answer for us, but for you and your relationship.

True or not, it sounds like some counseling may be wise. Even without an infidelity, there seems to be enough issues present that some guidance to figure out the problem, resulting feelings and effects, and figuring out the path forward would be helpful.

Sorry to hear of the relationship troubles Pegaso. I hope all works out well for you both.

[Toadstool Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Toadstool]

I remember a time when I said I'd never be monotonous again. Sorry, I mean monogamous. Boy, did I get a lot of backlash for that one. Threads like these do very little to shake that belief in me.