One-itis

[Dontrike Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dontrike]

I recently read a dating advice article that was partially about this topic. It has really stuck with me and thought that it might be a good conversation piece as I bet many of us have experienced, are experiencing, or know someone that is/has been going through One-itis or more commonly known as "The One".

I am pretty sure we all know what "The One" means. This means that you, or whoever, is so enthralled with one particular person that they are incapable of letting that person go in their mind that they are the only one that could potentially make them happy in some future relationship that they continue to dream about. Now this could easily be because there was something there, perhaps a relationship at one point in time or just some constant light flirting, or one thinks that there might be.

Is it really as unhealthy as the article makes it out to be? Can't something be said for one's persistence in trying to keep that hope alive?

[not2big Senior Super ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close not2big]

I believe it's called stalking.

[Phoenix7672 Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Phoenix7672]

You can always let the 'one' go...some just take longer than others. I've been in that situation a few times in life, and given enough time, you do move on and they don't matter anymore.

[Italianboy Member Find all posts View Profile Close Italianboy]

"If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, its yours forever. If it doesn’t, then it was never meant to be."...i know what you are talking about;I broke up 5 months ago with my "One" after 4 years of true and deep love...Just let the time does its work!

[akaTrex Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close akaTrex]

Given enough time there will be Many of the ONES!

I let my first true love go and married another.

Let her go too and now I been happily married to my Bride for 15+ years.

[Phoenix7672 Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Phoenix7672]

That said, you never do truly forget them...granted you don't think about them day to day, but you do when topics like these are brought up.

[closed224 Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2014, Feb 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close closed224]

Or take the good with the bad and continue to make it work with the ONE. I am doing my best with this choice.

[Italianboy Member Find all posts View Profile Close Italianboy]

That said, you never do truly forget them...granted you don't think about them day to day, but you do when topics like these are brought up.

After 5 months i still think about her everyday,i really love her.We broke up also because of my Pre-e and because of my behaviours because of that.That's why we are here,penis enlargment or not,to be better men and to find the other ONES

[islander Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close islander]

There are many The Ones. As time goes on is when one realizes that.
The hardest thing sometimes is to let go of the want in your mind.

[burtybasset Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close burtybasset]

There are many The Ones. As time goes on is when one realizes that.
The hardest thing sometimes is to let go of the want in your mind.

What if the one is one? Or rather oneself, then you already have it! But letting go of this isn't a bad idea either!!!

[Qandisa Senior Member Member of the Month March 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Qandisa]

I believe it's called stalking.

Having been on the receiving end of obsessive "persistence" - yes, stalking is accurate.

[akaTrex Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close akaTrex]

That said, you never do truly forget them...granted you don't think about them day to day, but you do when topics like these are brought up.

First One Yes, Second One I jokingly hoped she ran into Sammy the Bull Gravano and was never seen again.

[Dontrike Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dontrike]

Having been on the receiving end of obsessive "persistence" - yes, stalking is accurate.

Some do take it far, but having One-itis doesn't necessarily mean you are following someone around and watching them cook chicken from a tree. I am talking about those ones that are not mentally off kilter.

[Dontrike Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dontrike]

I guess another question would be what makes One-itis so bad? What would you say to that person that would, hopefully, break them out of it, or even possibly keep thinking that way?

[bigborer Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close bigborer]

one itis= PUA bullshit.

It's very simple, you like one, and:
a- she likes you back and she's available= you won, go for it
b- she does not like you back or likes you back but she's not available= bad luck, go to the next one

And the cure for getting a woman out of your head, if you're at point b, is.... yes, a new, different woman .