2 Rejections Do I Ask A 3rd Time?

[bigtimesleeper2 Member Find all posts View Profile Close bigtimesleeper2]

this was the girl im trying to break friend zone with if any of you guys saw my other thread.

Ok, soo, first she had a birthday. 1st week
2nd week we didnt talk.
3rd week we did, asked her, she wanted to said , i might have to work on a project, and eventually said yes. tried to confirm with her the day before, she said she has to work on a project.

Now she texted me again today saying i miss you,

Now should i ask her again for this week later this week like friday for sat/sunday?
Or am i being too pushy?

Cause im busy the next two following weeks.

If so what do I say.

I know she won't ask me, she is that type of girl.
I see her around everyday the same time only for a couple minutes.

So i'd have to go up to her and talk to her.

[BigO AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close BigO]

Don't text her for a while. Girls are not so easy to give up if they like a guy.

You should ignore her because she keeps blowing you off. If she wants you then she will try and get you.

Personally I say don't waste any more time.

[HealthyMeat Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close HealthyMeat]

Leave her in the friend zone and move on, JMO. Plenty of fish in the sea bud. Just enjoy her company/ hang out and stuff, and if something comes out of it take it , but i would keep looking around.

[rocket50 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close rocket50]

If she says she misses you than maybe you have something there. Ask her while in passing in those little times you see her and not over the phone.

[Dick Whammy Retired Moderator Member of the month Jan 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Dick Whammy]

Don't text her for a while. Girls are not so easy to give up if they like a guy.

You should ignore her because she keeps blowing you off. If she wants you then she will try and get you.

Personally I say don't waste any more time.

What he said ^^^^^^^^^^^^

(thanks BigO)

[BigO AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close BigO]

Your welcome big Whammy

[closed224 Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2014, Feb 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close closed224]

She might say she misses you because you are friends. Probably nothing more for now.

[Phoenix7672 Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Phoenix7672]

If you keep pushing her you'll wreck anything you have with her...forever. Ask once and get rejected fine, feel free to try again later if the opportunity comes up and it wasn't a flat out rejection. If she turns down a second time, move on, and ONLY try again if she brings things up/pushes for more in future.

If you continue to push, not only do you seem needy and low value, but you also risk being creepy or weird, which is something all girls avoid like the plague.

[Phoenix7672 Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Phoenix7672]

Honestly, best advice I've ever read for getting out of the friendzone is to essentially dial it back for a good while (weeks if not months), and make her miss what you had before as friends. When you do start giving her more attention, be sure to dial it up -- touch her, flirt with her, and don't be afraid to joke sexually to some extent (depending on her personality). Don't stay here too long, and if she is into the above, ask her out again. Also, while 'ignoring' her, be sure to work on improving yourself, becoming more confident (especially with girls), and show her, indirectly, that you are someone girls want to be with.

End of the day, it is the girl who will break you out of the friendzone by seeing you in a different way/light. Only way that happens is if you change her mental picture of you, and you do this by improving yourself and by not constantly following her/orbiting her.

Just my 2 cents.

[Zman007 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Zman007]

If you are in the friendsone and do not want to be, point blank tell her your want to be more than friends and do not want to be just friends. Be prepared, she will likely put the final nail in the friendsone coffin here. If/when she does be prepared to walk away from her and put a lot of distance between you two. It's for the best, pining sfter someone with no hope is rough. There is a small chance she will come to her senses, or you will know. It always leaves room in the future for her to chsnge her mind. Do not, do not live in the friendsone strung out on false hope. Distance is there.

When your intentions are very clear it makes things easier and more decisive.

Remember, there are always plenty of fish in the sea. Just beware the carp, beware are the catfish, and beware the crazyfish.

[KFH Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close KFH]

Ask what she misses about you, that'd be interesting.

[bigtimesleeper2 Member Find all posts View Profile Close bigtimesleeper2]

Don't text her for a while. Girls are not so easy to give up if they like a guy.

You should ignore her because she keeps blowing you off. If she wants you then she will try and get you.

Personally I say don't waste any more time.

I don't get why i wouldn't ask her just 1 more time.
1st it was her birthday.
2nd she was busy, asked me for this week.

Why wouldn't i ask for this week if she won't mention it?
Clearly she is shy to ask. But she texts me saying she misses me.

[Phoenix7672 Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Phoenix7672]

I don't get why i wouldn't ask her just 1 more time.
1st it was her birthday.
2nd she was busy, asked me for this week.

Why wouldn't i ask for this week if she won't mention it?
Clearly she is shy to ask. But she texts me saying she misses me.

If she said she was busy but asked for this week, why didn't you say sure and pick/lock down a date & time? Re-reading your original post, she still said she had to work on some project, and didn't try to lock down anything with you (not a great sign).

If you say she is shy then sure, try to set a date & time but if she still isn't free, then she isn't making time for you...which means dating you isn't a priority for her.

The missing you could just be missing you as a friend. Too hard to tell without more context. I've been down this road before, and 9 times out of 10 you are reading too much into it/things...I hate to say (at least that has been my own experience).

Truthfully as well, a lot of the time a girl will stop at nothing to go out with you if she is really interested/invested in something. If they are very flaky and not too concerned with you losing interest in them, then that means they don't really care much about going out with you.

EDIT: I should also add I hope you don't think I am being hard on you/your situation. Like I said...I've been there before a number of times, and just trying to give some perspective. I really do hope for your sake this girl likes you and things work out...but the friendzone is tricky so for your sake don't invest too much in things until you really know where you stand.

[BTBrian Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close BTBrian]

I had a girl that was really busy and wouldn't/couldn't make time for me once. It doesn't mean you're in the friend zone necessarily (I certainly wasn't). However, if you ever want to make it work and you really like her you HAVE to tell her you want to make a relationship out of it and tell her she has to make time for you if she likes you the same way.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Meh, people make time for things they want to do and people they want to be with.