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Sexless Relationship
My partner won't come near me for the past 12 months, she's been saying she doesn't want to carry on the relationship then the next day acts as normal and says she loves me, still no intimacy though and to make it worse we are still sleeping in the same bed. I try not to masturbate because I get a pain under my balls when i ejaculate but I can't leave it for more than 3 or 4 days and have to. I come so quickly, after about 30 seconds so I can't enjoy masturbating for long and then I get the horrible sharpe pain when i ejaculate it's miserable. I've met another woman that I'm crazy about but obviously cannot commit till I've ended it with the present one but I have no where to go and have nothing to do with the house as its in her and her ex husbands name, I just moved in 7 years ago so I feel I'm just there to help with the mortgage etc. I need sex and I am desperate to get relief but as her son and girlfriend have recently moved in there is a houseful so privacy is impossible, I can't even have a pee in peace. My girl that I've been seeing on the side has been sending me pictures of herself naked when I'm at work so you can imagine the state im in after seeing them, I end up sitting there hard for ages, when I have sex with her I can only last about 30 seconds.
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You know what you need to do. End the relationship and move on. Deep down in your gut you know that you don't want to be there, and it sounds like it is just more than sex.
Do the right thing and end it before it goes any further with the side girl, its the respectable thing to do.Initial(9-1-11): BPEL: 7.25", BPSFL: 7.75", EG: 4.75", BEG: 5.25", BPFL: ~5.0", FG: ~4.0"
Current(7-1-16): BPEL: 8.375", BPSFL: 8.75", EG: 5.375", BEG: 5.875", BPFL: ~6.625", FG: ~4.75"
Realistic Goal: BPEL: 8.5", EG: 5.5"
Idealistic Goal: BPEL: 9.0", EG: 6.0", BPFL: 7.0", FL: 5.0" -
A real man never hurts a woman. The woman came out of a man’s rib, not from his feet to be walked on, and not from his head to be superior, but from his side to be equal. Under the arm to be protected, and next to the heart to be loved. - Mrs. workin_4_itComment
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Check out the premature ejaculation forum and read about unbalanced pelvic floor.Starting stats:
01.08.2013: BPEL 6,3 x 4,3 MSEG
22.06.2015: BPEL 7.6 x 5.30 MSEG(not cemented)
After a long break:
01.05.2016: BPEL 7.3 x 5.1 MSEG
16.11.2018: BPEL 7.3 x 5.0-5.1 MSEG BSEG 5.3
Are you struggling to get it up while with a girl? Look up PIED!Comment
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Hmmm, I think a part of the reason why she does not want to have sex is exactly because you last 30 seconds. If she gets all horny and excited and you cum, the only thing you can do is lick her, finger her, rub her and stick a dildo in her. She might be one of the women that are "dick hungry" (basically she gets best stimulated by a penis). You've been together for quite some time now, I advise you to just have a good and serious talk with her, discuss it. Try to improve your stamina and if it does not work then- you know what to do. But just know that with half a minute of endurance, not many women would enjoy you in bed. I am not hating in ANY way, I am a quick cummer as well and I am now trying to improve myself.
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Is the pain only when you ejaculate, have you got any other issues other than this and the pre e?
Sorry I know you're question was about the relationship, I'll let the better experienced help you there.A Game of Bones. A Stretch With Rice And Fire.
Start1/04/15:BPEL:7.1 MEG:5.2 -1/07/15:BPEL:7.2 MEG:5.4
Edging For Premature Ejaculation./
Pelvic Floor Balance./
Minute Man'snKegel Master List./ Reverse Kegels./
JP90 Routine./ Conditioning Your Wang.Comment
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Oof, 7 years? Get yourself some legal advice, married or not I have a feeling there are certain rules and rights that can apply in ending a relationship that has lasted that long, and you don't want to get stung, like if you've been making mortgage payments.
No advice on the clandestinely dicking someone else front. That's not cool, regardless of circumstance.Started 28/12/2014 BPEL - 6.5" EG - 5.5" FL ~4" FG ~4"
27/8/2015 BPEL - 7.5" BEG 5.75" MEG 5.6" FL ~5.5" FG ~4.5"
Current 26/12/2015 BPEL - 7.7" BEG 5.9" MEG 5.6" FL ~5.5" FG ~4.5"
Goals - EQ and Stamina BPEL 7.5" MEG 5.8"
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I think you need to sit her down and have an honest chat.......you have needs as does she and your needs aren't being met. Have a chat and tell her how you feel and if she isn't receptive to your needs or feelings, then cut bait and more on.Originally posted by SteveHollis View PostIt's a tough job being good looking and hung :-)Comment
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So what's stopping you from moving out?The world's still a toy if you just stay a boy!Comment
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Check to see if you live in a Common Law state. There maybe some legal ramifications but a 1/2 - 1 hr consult with a Family Law attorney will set you straight.Originally posted by elijohnson View Post
I agree with the others. Get your affairs in order and Exit stage left.“The world will not be destroyed by those who do evil, but by those who watch them without doing anything” Albert EinsteinComment
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"I just moved in 7 years ago.."
7 years is a long time ago, now end this and find someone to be happy with..Starting stats:
01.08.2013: BPEL 6,3 x 4,3 MSEG
22.06.2015: BPEL 7.6 x 5.30 MSEG(not cemented)
After a long break:
01.05.2016: BPEL 7.3 x 5.1 MSEG
16.11.2018: BPEL 7.3 x 5.0-5.1 MSEG BSEG 5.3
Are you struggling to get it up while with a girl? Look up PIED!Comment
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People have needs, sex is a need and for most, its a must in a relationship. Unless there is some kind of physical condition hindering sex or making it painfully there is no excuse to go that long without it. She straight up said she doesn't want to carry on the relationship and hasn't showed you intimacy in 12 months!! I almost left my wife when she showed me zero affection for 2 months. We talked about it and everything and we are good to go, that was the conversation that saved our marriage. Give it a shot, just one! If no workie then GOOO. You already have another girl that obviously shows you that she wants to be with you. Please don't be that guy that ignored all the advice that we give on the forums.
Just my opinion, and many others!
PS, go to the doc Get that pain in the nuts checked out!No Fap
No Porn
Starting Stats Dec 14
BPEL 6.9 x 5.4 +/- .1
NBPEL 6.0
Current Stats: Feb 15
BPEL 7.3 x 5.5 (better EQ gains)
NBPEL 6.4
Goal:
NBPEL 7.0 x 5.75 with a 10 EQ
Honestly just a healthy stronger penis. If the size comes with it i'll take it :)Comment
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