Anal advice please

[Ivor Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Ivor]

Your girth is too big.

I stopped working on girth gains when I reached a girth of 6.3", and believe it or not, I still get anal every so often when my girlfriend is in just the right mood. Did it now and then with a previous girlfriend, too. Probably not as often as I would if I hadn't made those gains, but it still happens nonetheless. And neither of them has/had any health problems associated with it, apart from some slight lingering soreness the next day, and sometimes not even that. The sphincters won't get permanently stretched if they're relaxed enough before you start and you go very gently and gradually pick up the pace.

The poor girls you've seen in porn have got that way from having anal sex very often, very roughly, for long periods of time and often by taking things other than dicks up there, such as huge toys or even fists. Doing it for five or ten minutes at a time every few weeks or months, with loads of foreplay, preparation and lube and with a sensitive and caring partner is a very different proposition - even if he does have a big girth.

I never really understood why guys like anal. Maybe if it is tighter feeling but if your girlfriend already has a tight vagina then I don't see why the need. Unless your girlfriend likes the feeling of anal sex. You can pleasure her with a small dildo.

Well the tightness is one aspect, another is that it feels hotter. Mainly it's just the thrill of doing something kinky and taboo. Believe it or not it also feels a lot more intimate than vaginal sex, perhaps because of the trust needed to give someone access to such a sensitive part of your body. (Which makes it all the more ludicrous that some young girls think they can preserve their "virginity" by having anal but not vaginal sex - sorry sweetheart, but if you've had a dick up *there* then I would say you've got less virginity left than your friends who've had vaginal but not anal sex.)

And yes, a lot of women do really enjoy both the physical sensation and the psychological turn-on. I think it's quite rare for women to be able to orgasm from the penetration alone, but with clitoral and/or vaginal stimulation at the same time a lot of women say they can have orgasms even stronger than those from vaginal sex.

All I can suggest to the OP is to read the suggested threads, ask his partner to perhaps suggest the next time she's in the mood to try it, take it really slow and gradually and stop at any time that she feels she can't cope with it - that way she'll be far more inclined to try again another time, and you might be able to go a bit further. Also, at the risk of stating the obvious, maybe stop working on your girth!

[akaTrex Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close akaTrex]

Hi, I am looking for some real life experience and stories of people who have successfully done anal. I have been in a relationship for over a year, and recently just attempted anal. I am quite big (7.8x6.1) and my girlfriend is really small. Vaginal sex can hurt her even after a year (probably down to my pe!) and she has never done or been that interested in anal. When we tried, I started off giving her a massage, then we had sex and I gave her an orgasm to help her relax. I started to play with her bum and used my mouth and a finger but after a minute she said the finger is too sore so just try now (destined to fail I know). I got about 0.5cm in and she said it was too sore. I understand its a slow process and I am not trying to rush it, but what does everyone suggest? I hadnt used my fingers before this either so do you reckon get her comfortable with that before the next attempt?

Best regards,

Gooner4life

If She says YES its YES, if she says No it means NO!

[gooner4life Member Find all posts View Profile Close gooner4life]

If She says YES its YES, if she says No it means NO!

Of course no means no? Isnt that obvious? I dont have a relationship where my girlfriend says no and I do it anyway, that is called rape.

[akaTrex Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close akaTrex]

Of course no means no? Isnt that obvious? I dont have a relationship where my girlfriend says no and I do it anyway, that is called rape.

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[Kanaka05 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Kanaka05]

When my wife and I first started having sex, we had talked about anal. After we tried it a few times, we both started to enjoy it and it became the norm. We actually used it as an alternative to birth control. I would typically have her on top of me while I played with her bum. I would use saliva and start with one finger slowly before going with two.
When we had anal sex, she would have a toy which stimulated her g-spot and clit. Her orgasms were amazing this way.

[rbi99 Retired Moderator Member of the Month Nov 2017PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close rbi99]

I'm sure your gf has a dildo or two. Let her privately used her dildo to penetrate herself. Doing this will teach her how to best do it - if she chooses to try it with you. Also, she will see some of the potential negative aspects of it also when she pulls it out and finds feces on it. A few weeks of her privately practicing will help her fully understand the act. Also, she could get herself ready for you next time by first inserting her dildo into herself so that her anus will be be better prepared for the real thing a few minutes later.