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[sidneycrosby Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close sidneycrosby]

She thinks that I'm hiding her. That I'm using her as my toy. That I won't want anything more from her than what I'm getting, that I'll just keep fucking her without giving her the title.
But I kiss her in public. I kissed this girl, the grade 9 ex-bestfriend of my ex-girlfriend, in front of my ex-girlfriends grade 12 ex-bestfriend, who I also hooked up with. Read that a couple times if you need. I'm fooling around with her so much because I like her a lot. I'm trying to figure out what she likes and how to give her that first orgasm she's ever had, that wasn't from a hot tub jet. She said I'm perfectly able to. But stops me when I'm about to, and stopping herself mentally, she's scared of it. I only let her blow me so much because SHE WANTS TO. If she hadn't been so persistent with wanting to practice on my +avg cock she wouldn't have had to (she's the best I've had already after two days of practicing).
She's amazing. She's been hurt though. She's scared because of what that asshole did. That fuckboy. She's scared I'll think she's a slut because of her past. I've only been talking to her for a week and a bit. We've only been seeing each other for a week. But I really like her. I want "us" to be something meaningful.
I can see it someday being more than what it is because she's great in every aspect. The only thing that really gets under my skin about her is her past endeavors. My coping mechanism is that I'm the biggest, and by far the best. But it's only been a little bit of time. Is it stupid that I don't want to be titled as "hers" yet? I would like it. Just not right now, not right away. I don't know her well enough yet? Am I seeing this as an idiot or is it reasonable not to be her boyfriend right at this moment?
I'm not going to go ask her to be my girl regardless of what advice you give me, don't hold back. I just want opinions.

[NCGUY1972 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close NCGUY1972]

either forget her past (because it cant be changed ever) and move into the future with her and a clean slate or move on to the next girl that may have a past you can deal with. Hey if you don't want to be titled as "Hers" that's your choice your not ready to commit to her hell you've only been seeing her a week!

[sidneycrosby Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close sidneycrosby]

either forget her past (because it cant be changed ever) and move into the future with her and a clean slate or move on to the next girl that may have a past you can deal with. Hey if you don't want to be titled as "Hers" that's your choice your not ready to commit to her hell you've only been seeing her a week!

Her past doesn't bother me too much to be perfectly honest. It's just the one thing I could think of that I don't like. But I don't think forgetting it would do much for me, I'd want to understand it. And it would be really good for her to talk to me about it because it still bugs her, a lot.

[Straw Bat Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Straw Bat]

If you give in you lose all of your power in the relationship.

If you don't give in, you risk losing her.

Best way is to play the middle ground, you're really enjoying getting to know her, and you'd love to get to know her better before making any hard and fast decisions, how you're a little disappointed in her for trying to push her agenda while everything is going so well.

The longer you can keep this going, the better really. I won't commit until 6 months have passed. At no point can you tell her you're definitely not going to make a commitment to her long term - it has to be kept ambiguous.

And don't say anything about not wanting to be 'hers.' That won't end well. I'd cut texting by about 75% aswell.. after 1 week, you are in WAY too deep homie lol.

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[NCGUY1972 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close NCGUY1972]

just go slow and get to know her then, Have fun if your not your doing it wrong

[Nocturnal1 Member Find all posts View Profile Close Nocturnal1]

If she feels used as a toy that to me suggests you need to do more things that aren't sexual too like go out for a meal, road trip or whatever floats your boat. Relationship involves much more than sex and if that's all you want then you need to be clear to her rather than leading her along into thinking it's a serious relationship because you will end up breaking her heart.

Op is confusing me tbh, maybe I'm reading it wrong lol. What's the business with her ex got to do with stuff? You both just need to make sure you're on the same page or wanting the same things. Or wing it but you both need to be okay with that.

[akaTrex Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close akaTrex]

I've only been talking to her for a week and a bit. We've only been seeing each other for a week. But I really like her. I want "us" to be something meaningful.

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[Closed054 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Closed054]

Agree slow down get to know each other take her out have nonsexual fun or tell her you just want to be a FWB. Be honest.

[Mrs. workin_4_it Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Mrs. workin_4_it]

You don't want to be another person that uses her do you? It sounds like that's all she's been to them in the past. If she is scared to orgasm, it's because at sometime she was told that would make her a slut (or something to that affect). Once she feels more comfortable with you, there is a better chance of it happening.

Get to know her outside of the bedroom. Show her that you like her for her and not for what she can do for or to you.