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This was a reply on another forum where someone had posted "What women really want- GIRTH"
Here was my response that I thought I'd share here
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What women really want- someone that gives a shit about their needs and knows his way around a woman's body. It's about more than size.
And since porn has been mentioned, porn also causes guys to think all they need is a big dick to satisfy a woman. "let me just stick it in and pound away baby, you'll thank me for this"
Not so. Lot's of interviews with women that NEVER want a larger than normal penis inside them again because the person it was attached to thought that was all he needed.
Some advice guys. If you want to be big, then become an expert at foreplay, gradual penetration, going slow at first until she's relaxed and well lubed. You may want to shove it in and make her yell in pain, but VERY few women want that. None of this you'll see in a porn movie.
I was right at average (5.5) until I hit my late forties and shrinkage started. So I started exercises. Thing was, before that I had no issues. I dated and slept with women that told me they had orgasms maybe half the time. Then they found out they were multi-orgasmic every time. Even had one girl friend that told me she didn't have orgasms, well she found out she could. NONE of this had anything to do with size.
See, I'm a nerd n the fact that I research anything I'm interested in so I can be fairly knowledgeable at it when I'm doing it. Same went for sex. Read books, interviews with women and experts. Came to realize "wham bam, thank you mam" was the single biggest problem women had with not having orgasms. Realized how much was also mental for women and how to work in that area. Physically, learned the right way to finger, where the erogenous zones were (and not just in the vaginal area), learned the best way to do cunnilingus (Nina Hartley made a great video on this). Learned how to give a decent massage (you really want to turn a woman on, try that).
Make a woman cum a couple of times before intercourse and that will blow her mind more than your size. Did you know some women can have orgasms from kissing, and some from playing with their breasts, but there are VERY specific methods to these approaches.
The old cliche about it's not the size, but how you use it has a lot of truth to it. But here's the part not mentioned. You learn how to please a woman first and then as you grow, learn how to use your size to please her and then size does make a difference. My wife likes the increased size, and yes it has made her orgasms more intense.( Mine is now 6-7/8 by 5-1/2)
Size helps, right up until it's so big it's painful. For example my wife has already let me know her girth limit.
Then a new challenge came up. Post menopause and reduce vaginal lubrication. With the onset of reduced lubrication I again had to learn how to deal with it from my end as well as her understanding what she needed to do. She was not wanting to have sex as it was getting too painful, whereas it had been fine before that. So I had to change how I did things a bit. We had to use more lube and go slower at first. now she's back to enjoying it. Once again, it fell back on learning what she needed.
So in truth, what women want boils down to this- a man who's knowledgeable about lovemaking, is willing to take time to please her, and one that is willing to learn her individual body, not treat every woman as a clone with buttons you push for a predetermined response. So put some of your spare time into learning more about women. Research how to please a woman more than you study PE techniques. Then you'll truly become a stud, not a well hung jack ass.
Here was my response that I thought I'd share here
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What women really want- someone that gives a shit about their needs and knows his way around a woman's body. It's about more than size.
And since porn has been mentioned, porn also causes guys to think all they need is a big dick to satisfy a woman. "let me just stick it in and pound away baby, you'll thank me for this"
Not so. Lot's of interviews with women that NEVER want a larger than normal penis inside them again because the person it was attached to thought that was all he needed.
Some advice guys. If you want to be big, then become an expert at foreplay, gradual penetration, going slow at first until she's relaxed and well lubed. You may want to shove it in and make her yell in pain, but VERY few women want that. None of this you'll see in a porn movie.
I was right at average (5.5) until I hit my late forties and shrinkage started. So I started exercises. Thing was, before that I had no issues. I dated and slept with women that told me they had orgasms maybe half the time. Then they found out they were multi-orgasmic every time. Even had one girl friend that told me she didn't have orgasms, well she found out she could. NONE of this had anything to do with size.
See, I'm a nerd n the fact that I research anything I'm interested in so I can be fairly knowledgeable at it when I'm doing it. Same went for sex. Read books, interviews with women and experts. Came to realize "wham bam, thank you mam" was the single biggest problem women had with not having orgasms. Realized how much was also mental for women and how to work in that area. Physically, learned the right way to finger, where the erogenous zones were (and not just in the vaginal area), learned the best way to do cunnilingus (Nina Hartley made a great video on this). Learned how to give a decent massage (you really want to turn a woman on, try that).
Make a woman cum a couple of times before intercourse and that will blow her mind more than your size. Did you know some women can have orgasms from kissing, and some from playing with their breasts, but there are VERY specific methods to these approaches.
The old cliche about it's not the size, but how you use it has a lot of truth to it. But here's the part not mentioned. You learn how to please a woman first and then as you grow, learn how to use your size to please her and then size does make a difference. My wife likes the increased size, and yes it has made her orgasms more intense.( Mine is now 6-7/8 by 5-1/2)
Size helps, right up until it's so big it's painful. For example my wife has already let me know her girth limit.
Then a new challenge came up. Post menopause and reduce vaginal lubrication. With the onset of reduced lubrication I again had to learn how to deal with it from my end as well as her understanding what she needed to do. She was not wanting to have sex as it was getting too painful, whereas it had been fine before that. So I had to change how I did things a bit. We had to use more lube and go slower at first. now she's back to enjoying it. Once again, it fell back on learning what she needed.
So in truth, what women want boils down to this- a man who's knowledgeable about lovemaking, is willing to take time to please her, and one that is willing to learn her individual body, not treat every woman as a clone with buttons you push for a predetermined response. So put some of your spare time into learning more about women. Research how to please a woman more than you study PE techniques. Then you'll truly become a stud, not a well hung jack ass.
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