Im exactly in your situation, confused from the amount of information there is and dont what to do
Drummer what was your routine?
My routine was very simple.
I would do a repeated kegel (hard and quick) for 1 min. Then I would do a long hold kegel for 1 min. Every week I would go up 1 min for each. So week 2:
I would do a repeated kegel (hard and quick) for 2 min. Then I would do a long hold kegel for 2 min.
If you can't hold for 1 min then try as many times as you can within the min.
I went up to 16 min of total time for the repeated and long hold kegels.
Also, I would do the SAME EXACT THING for reverse kegels, only I would add a few more seconds than I was doing for regular kegels.
Draggin, I don't suggest jerking off and ejaculating as often as you like if you have Pre-E. Not jerking off, like you said, will make you penis work better when the time is right.