The BatLocker: Women and sex toys

[Pirate Retired AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Pirate]

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[NSF001 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close NSF001]

ok, our favourite thing is to use a chocolate fountain beside the bed with a small spoon and strawberries.

If its me receiving the licking, then the misses will maybe take a small spoonful of chocolate and pour some over my chest or neck. From there she will slowly lick, suck and bite until its all clean. This will usually progress for a few spoonfuls and finally she will put some on my dick/balls. By this time you are really horny from the teasing beforehand. She will then lick and suck until she has had enough chocolate and either finish me off by climbing on or continuing the blow job.

Then its my turn, I would start out in the same manner, putting some chocolate over her upper body in the places she likes the most. Spend the next 10-15 mins teasing the hell out of her. Then I will use strawberries to dip into the chocolate and use these to spread around her inner thighs and outer lips. Then I will let her take a bite of the strawberry before I go down on her. Again I will keep this up for 10-15 mins before really focussing on her clit and dipping my tongue as deep as possible into her. Occasionally adding more of the warm chocolate for a heat cold sensation.

By this point we are up for a hard session and some times it becomes a complete mess as it can be fast and furious with chocolate being added everywhere.

When we use toys or massage oils or some food play we always put down an old sheet on the bed or a spare duvet cover that can be washed after.

I bow to your imagination in bed.

[moxsum Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close moxsum]

Me and my girlfriend use toys quite a bit..

she likes to use a vibrator and hold it on her clit while i fuck her.. normally makes her orgasm..

but sometimes i feel like she uses it too much, almost relies on it.. then again, as long as she has an orgasm from it I suppose its a good thing!

[Batwoman Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Batwoman]

Maxsum, if you feel like she's using her vibrator too much, try to think of other things to do to get her off. Maybe use your fingers on her clit while you are fucking her (I love how that feels).... or switch positions or activities. Anyway, don't let toys come to rule your sex life.

Vibrators feel spectacular on a ladies clit, and they make it much easier for her to cum. I know that there are a number of positions that he likes (and I like) but where I am just never going to cum on my own because there is not enough stimulation to push me over the edge.... those are where I enjoy a vibrator sometimes. But we only use toys sometimes, as an enhancement to our sex play. I would not want to become reliant on them.

I really like it too when he uses a vibe on me to make me cum while he watches.... we both find that VERY sexy.

[Gspot Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Gspot]

Maxsum, if you feel like she's using her vibrator too much, try to think of other things to do to get her off. Maybe use your fingers on her clit while you are fucking her (I love how that feels).... or switch positions or activities. Anyway, don't let toys come to rule your sex life.

Vibrators feel spectacular on a ladies clit, and they make it much easier for her to cum. I know that there are a number of positions that he likes (and I like) but where I am just never going to cum on my own because there is not enough stimulation to push me over the edge.... those are where I enjoy a vibrator sometimes. But we only use toys sometimes, as an enhancement to our sex play. I would not want to become reliant on them.

I really like it too when he uses a vibe on me to make me cum while he watches.... we both find that VERY sexy.

Batwoman: you have the right attitude about sex toys. I know from some women I have chated with online (some cheating on their husbands due to poor sex) and a few in person, that many women let sex toys take over their pleasure, often without good communication with their partners. It is no wonder some women fall into this unfortunate situation using giant dildos and all sorts of vibrators. An average cock and a mediocre sex life are not as good as the many toys out there for orgasms.

Guys can get just as removed with porn. I must admit I have watched and continue to watch hours of porn most weeks, but it lacks physical contact with women and I have never thought it better than even mediocre sex--there is nothing like the feeling of being wrapped in a wet vagina!! Male sex toys are similar. Like porn, I have used a few as substitues during dead social periods (most of the time for me). A few have been pretty good. The Flesh Lights are nice and can even be used in a PE regement (I might have to order another one of those come to think of it).

As far as using toys with a partner, I have never done it. A couple of women had vibrators even laying on the bed and I was open to using them on her (seems like it would be fun to use a vibrator on her while eating her pussy) but we had great sex without touching them in those cases. I dated a girl who said she had a couple toys but I never saw them. I had great chemistry with her and she loved a good fingering and Gspot massage more than any toy--she (like many women) would flop around uncontrollably, soaking the sheets during this!

Finally, I think a great gift for a woman, you could even ask for one, is one of those molds to copy your husband/bf/lover's penis. This way, he is less likely to feel emasculated as you are using a copy of his cock and therefore lusting after him when he is away. Or, better yet, use it during sex with him, and you get 2 cocks without adding another man--although MFM 3somes are very fun if you and your partner are open to it!

PS: I am soon posting a question about PE that I hope you and the other women on here respond to.

[tahksis Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close tahksis]

I like using toys. It adds another dynamic to foreplay and sex. Vibes, rings, bondage, edible finger paints, etc. All fun. Roleplay is also great.

I have a girl who likes me tying her up and using a vibe on her while we foreplay with her tied up and blindfolded, as if she was getting it from 2 guys. Its fun.

[Pirate Retired AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Pirate]

We seem to talk about and buy a lot more toys than we ever get around to using.

[bherbigest Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close bherbigest]

While I enjoy the use of a vibrator during sex, I dont want my woman shoving a huge piece of silicone modelled after a pornstar in and out of her, with me or by herself. I know that I will get slammed for this, that size is not a factor in want women want, but why in the world are all of the top selling dildos on the huge side of the scale? I know that they make small and average size dildos, but all you ever see being purchased, or in the nightstands are the pornstar sized ones...

[Panther Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Panther]

Are we bring this one back to life?

List of toys that are great and we use:

Cock ring
Sex swing
Stimulating cream his and hers
various dildos (all my size or smaller - that' her rule)
light bondage
Sex clothes
Costumes: school girl, nurse, police officer
Prostate stimulator
Octopus vibrator (she sticks it in and leaves it)
Clitoral vibrators
Butt plugs

[diamondback Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close diamondback]

My wife and I have used all kinds of sex toys over the years and they have become an integral part of our lovemaking. What turns me on the most is a toy that can make my wife horny at just the thought of getting an opportunity to use it. All I have to do any time of the day is get out a towel and throw it on the couch and she heads for the toy drawer. Her favorites are the Hitachi Magic Wand, a Wahl vibrator and a rubber double headed dildo 12 inches long and 5.5 inches in diameter. She has thicker dildos but prefers this one and somehow uses and amazing amount of that 12 inches, makes me wonder where it goes. Any time we travel she packs one of the vibrators and that double headed dildo. Of course, into the mix I add my own 7.5X5.75 natural or 8.25X6.2 robo-tube cock and the variety and effect is exquisite! We always talk about how many times she climaxed in her lifetime in comparison to other women we know, probably no contest.

[pe_hope it works Banned Find all posts View Profile Close pe_hope it works]

While I enjoy the use of a vibrator during sex, I dont want my woman shoving a huge piece of silicone modelled after a pornstar in and out of her, with me or by herself. I know that I will get slammed for this, that size is not a factor in want women want, but why in the world are all of the top selling dildos on the huge side of the scale? I know that they make small and average size dildos, but all you ever see being purchased, or in the nightstands are the pornstar sized ones...

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I would think, that pretty much any guy who has issues with penis size, would not want his woman using a dildo that was larger than he was. I feel this would just add to his insecurities. Although, on the other hand, if he could 'rise above' his feelings of inferiority, it could, possibly add to their relationship.


I agree.

[Batwoman Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Batwoman]

While I enjoy the use of a vibrator during sex, I dont want my woman shoving a huge piece of silicone modelled after a pornstar in and out of her, with me or by herself. I know that I will get slammed for this, that size is not a factor in want women want, but why in the world are all of the top selling dildos on the huge side of the scale? I know that they make small and average size dildos, but all you ever see being purchased, or in the nightstands are the pornstar sized ones...

I think that many (perhaps most) extra large dildos are actually bought by men -- who obsess about penis size and always seem to think that larger is better -- or as gifts (some doubtless intended as jokes). I know that a lot of the big dildo market is clearly aimed at the gay and/or BDSM communities. If you shop around on some of the fairly mainstream sites for sex toys, you'll see that the best-selling dildos and vibrators are almost always in the rational size range that approximates the sizes of real men. Sure, some women buy big ones -- but I think that is mostly out of curiosity.

And if she does want a larger dildo than you are, so what? There is truly no comparison between a real cock attached to a real man, and a silicone one. Because the sensations from a dildo are much less than from a real guy, maybe some women want a bigger one to make up for that, I don't know. I do know, however, that I can buy any size dildo that I want, and the largest that I have is rabbit vibrator that is 7"x5". I don't think that is out of the ordinary for female preferences.

As for sex toys in the context of a relationship, my experiences with toys (other than solo play) have been with one very special man in an environment of exceptional mutual trust. It is hard for me to imagine anyone really enjoying sex toys if there were any insecurities in the room. Too much about toys involves giving up any semblance of restraint -- if one is emotionally insecure for any reason (about penis size, the relationship, etc.) then I think that sex toys are probably a bad idea. They may leave you too vulnerable. BUT if you have a great, trusting relationship -- wow, they can be a lot of fun!

[GTO Retired ModeratorPEGym EditorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close GTO]

Had an experience a long time ago where my lover wanted to bring a vibrator into bed with us. No big deal, I thought, until I saw what it was doing to her. The look on her face was one I'd never seen before and it certainly one that I hadn't made her have. She was much older and worlds more experienced than me, but I knew how to make her orgasm and was certain that she did (nothing like the proof of a shiny cock) ... but what this thing was doing to her was something totally different and I admit that I got a bit green about it. I was still young and had much to learn (which I did - and what a learning experience it was!).

Later that night, I asked her about it and she said the feeling from the vibrator was just completely different from with me. It was "all about the rotations" and the fact that the vibrator could move at speeds I never could. But at the same time, it was a just a different kind of stimulation and the orgasms that I brought her too were more intense. That started my education on into toys and how I could use them to my advantage and ultimately bring my lover to more pleasurable experiences. I've used toys a few times with my current gf and we have fun with them, but she always tosses it fairly on and says she prefers me

[Pirate Retired AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Pirate]

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Great thread that needs to come back.

[GTO Retired ModeratorPEGym EditorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close GTO]

hehehe ... you want a toy huh Pirate?