are fordyce spots a turn off for women? please help

[Tropicalpalmtree Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Tropicalpalmtree]

i know internet reading says they are common but i have lot of fordyce spots, its gone so far ruining my self esteem that i have resorted to radiosurgically getting them removed and im currently undergoing this course of treatment which will make them less noticeable, i have them all across the bottom of my dick and they have recently appeared on the top (they were never here for years, i suspect the serious anxiety has caused this if anything) even the doctor said i had a severe case and i really dont think i can get into a serious relationship because of what girls may think of them. ive only had sex twice in the last year with a girl who really digs me but on both occasions its been in low lit conditions and i really feel the fordyce spots are stopping me from taking if any further as much as i want to. so for any women on here (or blokes that can relate) do you think i should be worrying about this as much as i am? and would you be turned off, or known a guy who had them and were turned off? i find myself constantly telling myself that its just a harmless skin condition, but next minute i feel its the be all and end all of who i am as a person and its ruining my life. please help or info, it means a lot

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

I really don't think they look that closely do you?

[Big Al AdministratorPEGym EditorMale Enhancement Coach Rep.PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Big Al]

You're likely needlessly worrying yourself.

What form of treatment are you getting for them?

[Tropicalpalmtree Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Tropicalpalmtree]

You're likely needlessly worrying yourself.

What form of treatment are you getting for them?

maybe i am but this anxiety is fuelling it man, and i cant mentally help the way i feel about them hence ive gone to such drastic measures, and im having electrodessication/radiosurgery done which is known as the most effective and safest method

[Tropicalpalmtree Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Tropicalpalmtree]

i do man, hence i feel this way, i genuinely think that they'll see them and ditch me for it, this shit has put me off relationships for a couple years now

[Big Al AdministratorPEGym EditorMale Enhancement Coach Rep.PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Big Al]

maybe i am but this anxiety is fuelling it man, and i cant mentally help the way i feel about them hence ive gone to such drastic measures, and im having electrodessication/radiosurgery done which is known as the most effective and safest method

You don't have to be a slave to your anxieties, though. You're also doing what you can to resolve the issue. Don't make the mistake of seeing yourself as helpless in this scenario.

[closed251 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed251]

I'll be honest and tell you I had to google fordyce penis spots as I didn't know what you were talking about.

But from the pictures I've seen, I thought all men had these on their shaft and some men on the end of their penis'.

When I've seen them, I've just thought they were kinda blocked pores like you get on your face. All skin moisturises itself and pores get blocked from sebum. A bit like how babies get 'milk spots'.

They never put me off a man and they don't look unsightly at all. Try your best to keep them in perspective. It's really easy to focus on one small body area and blow it flaws into something huge.

[dmizzle Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dmizzle]

I don't have them but from my Google search they didn't seem to be a big deal. Unless you have a severe case, I wouldn't think twice about it.

Most women do not care about stuff like that, or even look that closely. If you want to miss out on life because of some spots, thats on you. But being a good man, hard working, staying in shape, and being confident are are more important attributes then fordyce spots.

[Tropicalpalmtree Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Tropicalpalmtree]

thats good to know, the bottom of my shaft looks like the google images but ive them on the top aswell in parts, and id like to think they dont care but i hate them so i think logically that girls will feel the same, im only 21 so pressure being the perfect man is too much to let a condition like this slide without worrying about it, and dmizzle thats my problem, even the bloke giving me the treatment told me it was severe hence i need an opionion from other women, but yeah i do have a lot of attributes that help me a long, without sounding big headed i could get so many women if i wanted to but this shit makes me shy away from it all unfortunately

[akaTrex Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close akaTrex]

Most women do not care about stuff like that, or even look that closely. If you want to miss out on life because of some spots, that's on you. But being a good man, hard working, staying in shape, and being confident are are more important attributes then fordyce spots.

Well Said . . .

[WIItard Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close WIItard]

Had to google what was going on here. Just have sex in dark rooms and no problem I can see.

[alan020 Member of the Month Jan 13 Find all posts View Profile Close alan020]

I have loads of these too, used to bother me when I was younger. I havent come across any woman who noticed them until I pointed it out and when I did, they did not care. If you are going into a woman bare, it will actually feel better for her.

[7inchgirth71 Member Find all posts View Profile Close 7inchgirth71]

I didn't know what that was I had to google it. I have them around the rim of my glans. I noticed it when I was 14 I thought I had a disease but I realised I was a virgin lol and never thought of them since. Now to his issue he should just tell the ladies its not a std, show her some articles on it. I could see someone being Leary thinking its a std