Virgin has questions

[Thunderhorse Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Thunderhorse]

So, right to the point: I'm 21 and virgin. I'm just saving it to the right girl that I really love and want to have a special thing.
Its mostly about penis sensitivy.
The questions:
1. Is that true that we, men, lost the penis sensitivity at our 20s? So, technicly, I'm less sensible to sex than before?

2. Couples maybe should answer this with more accuracy. Is PE afecting you penis sensitivity? I mean, did you notice your penis (and maybe even your whole body) more, the same, os less sensible to sex? If so, is that a good or bad thing in general? Did your wife/gf said something about you're more or less sensible to sex before PE?

3. Porn and masturbation afects sensitivity and EQ? I'm quiting porn (I really don't want it more of it in my life) and M/O (everyday looks too much)for a while to see how my penis and arousal responds to it.
What do you think? What are your experiences?

4. What women think about virgin guys on my age? Wired? Cute? Right? Wrong? What? I mean, I know girls think me handsome and so but something in my mind says they don't like virgins in any circunstances. Something about virgns get attached to their first time? Is that true?

Very appreciated.

Sorry something about my grammar. It's not my first language.

[WalkThePlank Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close WalkThePlank]

While I think women ultimately prefer a man who's more sexually experienced, if she's actually attracted to you, it won't much matter. I've met a shocking number of good looking guys who clear 20 as virgins, and they have plenty of interested girls. They just often lose many of these particular girls because they don't move fast enough and the girl gets bored. But if you go for it, or find a girl who will make the first move, you should be fine.

As for porn, I have mixed opinions about it. I've always contended that the problem with porn is far less porn itself, and far more the extremely un-natural process of masturbating with your hands while staring at a computer screen. So I suspect the problem that some guys have with ED with real women, is because you've programmed your brain to associate sexual release with hunching over at a computer and rubbing your dick. Which bears almost no resemblance to sex on any level. So when you find yourself with a woman, your brain is like "I don't know what this is, but this isn't sex....". And so they have problems.

It can also desensitize your penis if you apply a lot of pressure, and regardless, skin to skin friction is not like vaginal sex in either case. And to what extent women play with your dick, it tends to be pretty light and gentle. I've had two girls really grab a hold of it firmly and really stroke it hard at all. I'd suggest reducing pressure at a minimum and probably trying to use a vaginal sleeve instead, when possible.

I'm really not sure about penile sensitivity. Mine is *more* sensitive than when I was in my teens(and I'm over 30 now). But I'm also circumcised. I'm not sure what the norm is. Regardless, I know for a fact you can increase your sensitivity over what it was in the past.

[proactive Senior MemberMember of the Month ? 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close proactive]

i applaud your virginity. i think it takes a lot of self control and discipline to keep your virginity these days. your future mate will thank you for it, and it could be an area of pride in marriage.

focus on how to be a good lover. stamina training, foreplay, being sensitive and caring. a big dick won't win you any medals if you can't do anything with the previous things. IMHO

well done! keep it up.

[Thunderhorse Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Thunderhorse]

WalkThePlank

While I think women ultimately prefer a man who's more sexually experienced, if she's actually attracted to you, it won't much matter. I've met a shocking number of good looking guys who clear 20 as virgins, and they have plenty of interested girls. They just often lose many of these particular girls because they don't move fast enough and the girl gets bored. But if you go for it, or find a girl who will make the first move, you should be fine.

As for porn, I have mixed opinions about it. I've always contended that the problem with porn is far less porn itself, and far more the extremely un-natural process of masturbating with your hands while staring at a computer screen. So I suspect the problem that some guys have with ED with real women, is because you've programmed your brain to associate sexual release with hunching over at a computer and rubbing your dick. Which bears almost no resemblance to sex on any level. So when you find yourself with a woman, your brain is like "I don't know what this is, but this isn't sex....". And so they have problems.

It can also desensitize your penis if you apply a lot of pressure, and regardless, skin to skin friction is not like vaginal sex in either case. And to what extent women play with your dick, it tends to be pretty light and gentle. I've had two girls really grab a hold of it firmly and really stroke it hard at all. I'd suggest reducing pressure at a minimum and probably trying to use a vaginal sleeve instead, when possible.

I'm really not sure about penile sensitivity. Mine is *more* sensitive than when I was in my teens(and I'm over 30 now). But I'm also circumcised. I'm not sure what the norm is. Regardless, I know for a fact you can increase your sensitivity over what it was in the past.

Very nice to know it, specialy about the complete different feel of a vagina in comparison with a hand stroke.
About the advice to stroke more gently, nice one. Certainly I'll remember that next time I masturbate and take easier.
I'm uncut, so I don't know if it has a big impact in my sex life. Thank you very much. Helped a lot.

proactive

i applaud your virginity. i think it takes a lot of self control and discipline to keep your virginity these days. your future mate will thank you for it, and it could be an area of pride in marriage.

focus on how to be a good lover. stamina training, foreplay, being sensitive and caring. a big dick won't win you any medals if you can't do anything with the previous things. IMHO

well done! keep it up.

Thanks for the words, proactive. And yes, I'm already with the mindset that I need to please her and giver her a good sex, make her wonderful. Everyone tells how the foreplay is important. Certainly I'll remember that. Thanks, dude.

[closed251 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed251]

Well I can't answer points 1, 2 and 3.

But in my opinion don't worry about being a virgin. 21 is still rather young and Ive known plenty of people just starting their sexual relationships around 19 - 21.

Regarding the attachment comment, I think if I was the girl you first slept with, I would worry more that you would want to see what else was out there rather than worry about you getting too attached.

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Well I can't answer points 1, 2 and 3.

But in my opinion don't worry about being a virgin. 21 is still rather young and Ive known plenty of people just starting their sexual relationships around 19 - 21.

Regarding the attachment comment, I think if I was the girl you first slept with, I would worry more that you would want to see what else was out there rather than worry about you getting too attached.

Now that was sweet.

[Thunderhorse Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Thunderhorse]

Well I can't answer points 1, 2 and 3.

But in my opinion don't worry about being a virgin. 21 is still rather young and Ive known plenty of people just starting their sexual relationships around 19 - 21.

Regarding the attachment comment, I think if I was the girl you first slept with, I would worry more that you would want to see what else was out there rather than worry about you getting too attached.

HAHAHAHA
That's interesting 'because one of my best friend's, a girl, told me something about it. Out here, she is the only person who knows I'm virgin and so and she said something like that, too.
But really thanks for the words.