Does it matter?

[iamchrno Member Find all posts View Profile Close iamchrno]

I'm kinda insecure of my height because of my first love. She actually told me to the gym and build some muscle (it's not connected to the height) , and she said grow more height so she can actually date me
I'm 157 cm = 5'1 ft , my body looks like a girl (but no curves) my wrist is so small (5 1/2 inches)

So here's my question girls does height and body of a guy actually matter when it comes to dating?
I wanna know your opinion about it, cause it looks like she just bitching out before or maybe taller guys with big muscle really matters
Sorry for my English skills and grammar

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Well it matter to some sounds like this is not the girl for you.

[Couchdog Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Couchdog]

I know how you feel brother. I'm 5'4 and I've been told before by some hot chicks, if you were taller id def go out with you. Tbh man, Idk if you can plug products in here but this is what I did and it made a huge difference. I basically got a weight gainer and ate what I always ate. (I have a high metabolism so I could eat whatever I wanted and not gain anything). Each shake was about 800 cals with skim milk, you drink 2 a day. I went all out, I got whole milk (the fattiest milk) threw a banana in the blender with it, a spoon of peanut butter and a scoop of weight gainer. It was prob almost 1k in 1 shake and I'd drink that in the morn and before sleep. I also ate burgers like crazy, triple cheeseburgers with fries about 2k cals, so 4k cals a day. I know it's bad but whatever I was 102lb 5'4. I also worked out and you should too, I hit the gym almost everyday doing easy stuff with dumbbells and bench pressing. You can do all that at home with a pair of dumbbells. So I gained about 15 lbs I believe in 1 month. In 2 months I was around 130ish and I looked great man, I would walk by the mirror and see myself and just laugh hard in disbelief of what I looked like, it was the greatest feeling in my life. I highly suggest you hit the gym and try a weight gainer, you can always get buff but you can't grow anymore height. Here's the product I used: https://www.amazon.com/Optimum-Nutri...%2Bgainer&th=1

[everydaynormalguy Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close everydaynormalguy]

Feeling so angry.It looks like this myth that men are sexists pigs that objectify women,needs to die.I am getting convinced that is the other way around.You know how many times I told girls "your boobs are too small do date me", "you are too fat" or something like that?Zero.How many times I`ve said to a girl something different then "you are beautiful,you are perfect"?Zero.It happenes to me all the time and I see story like yours here,every single day.

Now more to the point:Yes,ofc that height and body matter at some degree,but doesn`t mean everything.The truth is that all people got "ideal" image of their dream woman/man.However,life happens and things change.I like blond hair and big boobs,but then I met my ex girlfriends (not looking like that) and I loved them and totally ignored my "dream image"at the time.We all got this "dream image",but then we meet somebody that changes the rules.Life happens and people meet with each other-working together,share common friends and go out together etc.It`s more about being at the right place,at the right moment,with the right girl.Life is different then empty space of "height" , "penis size","eyes colour" etc.that you choose and click the "search botton".A lot of people that I know are short, fat or skinny and got good dates and a lot of good looking dudes (no homo) being alone.There is no rule "you are too short and you can`t date,we are sorry".We all got our weak spots...Many taller guys are going to be unhappy with their weight, penis size,being poor,acne or whatever problem.Many tall guys are going to be envy of you for something that you have and they don`t.We are not perfect and we all got insecurities.

[closed251 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed251]

I never register height but then I'm 5f 1 so nearly everyone is taller than I am.

I would date someone shorter than myself if I liked them.

[groovy Member Find all posts View Profile Close groovy]

1 million of people 1 million different opinions. Every person has different taste - some care about looks some don't. Some care about his personality, some care about how big your wallet is. Pointless to worry about such things.

[SnapperLapper Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close SnapperLapper]

If somebody can't accept you the way you are, they ain't the right person for you anyway. There are plenty of women out there that are not that superficial, and would appreciate the qualities you actually do have. At 5'6", I'm short, and I got shot down many times because I didn't meet a woman's ideal, but there were many more times where others gave me at least a chance. It was up to me what I did with that chance. Albeit, I may be short but I'm not a "little" guy. In my prime I was a very muscular 175 lbs and carried myself well. Being confident and secure in who you are is what attracts women in the first place.

All you can really do is work on yourself, make the best version of yourself possible, and be secure in who you are. The rest will follow.

[Qandisa Senior Member Member of the Month March 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Qandisa]

Whether or not it matters entirely depends on the woman, just like whether or not a woman's height or body type entirely depends on the man. Some women aren't comfortable dating a shorter guy for one reason or another, and others don't care at all. I've dated guys that were taller than me, and shorter than me. I don't really care. Some women do.

Also, for whatever it's worth, some women also really like smaller, more slender men. There's one guy here that's been placing personal ads for a few years now, I think he's mostly looking for fuckbuddies. From what he's said in his ads he's about 5'1". I've noticed that throughout the years he's gotten more and more muscular - he started out very slender and now he looks like he's about twice the size he used to be. The last time I saw a picture of him I thought a) wow that's quite a change and b) to me he looked so much more attractive before. But that's just me - the important thing is how HE feels about his body.

And that's the same thing with you. Who gives a flying fuck what some woman's opinion is - it's YOUR opinion that's important. Especially an immature woman who thinks you can just "grow taller" so that you're up to her standards. That's an absolute indication of someone who's not worth your time.

[theGOAT Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close theGOAT]

Yes, it matters of course.How old you are?Maybe you will grow more

Also do some mobility exercises for straightening the spine.If you have a straight back and good posture you will create an illusion you are a bit taller.

[watersnake Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close watersnake]

huuge cock might help..

[Kinopio77 Member Find all posts View Profile Close Kinopio77]

Yeesh, height, and to a lesser extent weight, is an area where women tend not to budge in general. That's speaking from experience. Lack of dick size--sometimes even lack of money--will not be a deal breaker to some women but height... it's a primal thing where women need to feel "safe" and "protected." Some shit like that. If you're short for a dude, that can pose difficulties. Not even a big dick will help with that one sometimes. Well, it might. My ex and I were commenting on Prince being such a ladies man at such a short height and she remarked that "he must have had a really big dick" so...who is to say? Having said that, I know some short dudes who walk around like they're the Rock and they get play from the ladies ALL THE TIME. Taller dudes look up to these guys, if you will. More than height or money, confidence seems to be the great equalizer with women. Some women will still say 'no' at the end of the day but at least it'll get you in the door. That's all you need sometimes.

[watersnake Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close watersnake]

confidence is worthless. you need to have something: money, social rank, muscles, huge dick, beast truck, girls are very shallow, at least that's the vibe I received.

[everydaynormalguy Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close everydaynormalguy]

Agree with the snake about the "vibe"...

[Kinopio77 Member Find all posts View Profile Close Kinopio77]

Based on experience, I think big penis size definitely helps but it's further down on the list of priorities for women. Height, shoulder-to-hip ratio, matter more for them when it comes to the physical. There have been studies proving this. I've seen it myself as well when women remark on and trace an outline with their fingers around my broad shoulders. Generally, money probably trumps it all, though, but mostly as women get a little older. Younger women still hold out for the entire package. But I wouldn't underestimate confidence. All bullshit aside, I know some dudes that get LAID regularly, and they're short dudes. They simply know how to talk and how to carry themselves. I doubt it's a dick thing with them too. Dick size will not rescue a shorter man. There have been studies conducted on this as well. Women like a well-proportioned man. A big penis on a tall dude will raise his value for women, but a big dick on a short dude will not move the needle up very much.

[Qandisa Senior Member Member of the Month March 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Qandisa]

You know, it's discussions like this that really make me angry sometimes.

confidence is worthless. you need to have something: money, social rank, muscles, huge dick, beast truck, girls are very shallow, at least that's the vibe I received.

Generally, money probably trumps it all, though, but mostly as women get a little older. Younger women still hold out for the entire package.

Wow. Just... wow. So little understanding.

1) Confidence is KEY. You can be a muscle-bound billionaire with a huge dick but if you don't have self-confidence then the only women that are going to be interested in you are the shallow ones who are interested in what you can do for them rather than who/what you are.

2) Money does not trump everything, far from it. Money is nice, or more to the point not having to worry about whether or not you can pay the bills this month is nice. And my experience is that it's the YOUNGER ones who are shallower and look more a superficial things like money. When a woman is older it's not about oh hey this guy has a lot of money, or choosing the one that makes more. It's about whether or not a man can actually take care of himself. Does he have a secure enough job that he can actually make it on his own, or is he looking to be an overgrown teenager spending most of his days playing video games while someone else pays all the bills? Older women are looking for men who are equals, and who know how to "adult".

If money and looks were the most important things to a woman then all the good looking women would only be dating good looking men. And yet you so often hear guys so surprised that "the hot chick" is dating a totally bland, average-looking guy. Why is that? Because it's the person inside that matters more than the wrapping. Shallow women will go for the hot, muscular, rich jerk because of how they think it makes them look and what he can buy for them. An actual emotionally-mature woman will go for the man that she can wake up beside every morning and smile because their relationship makes her happy. Money and muscles can't accomplish that.

But I wouldn't underestimate confidence.

No, absolutely don't underestimate confidence.

Have you ever had the experience of chatting with women, and for some reason you're just drawn to one of them? She's not the best looking of the group, but man there's just something about her. Maybe it's her smile or laugh or you're not quite sure what. A lot of "it" is confidence. It's a vibe and an energy that she's confident and comfortable with herself. And I'll tell you that in my experience a confident person is a better lover, because they're not as held back by doubts and insecurities.

Okay, I've ranted on this thread and that's the last I'm going to even look at it because it just pisses me off too much. If you guys want to continue thinking that EXTERNAL influences like status, money, cars, etc are that dictate success then that's what's going to continue to hold you back. It's the INTERNAL influences that make all the difference.