"My ex was bigger". Even confident men can't handle it!

[begreat Member Find all posts View Profile Close begreat]

Here's a post on reddit from a woman: https://www.reddit.com/r/smalldickpr...nd_because_of/

"First of all, I've been reading a few posts in this subreddit before posting... I want to make clear with this statement as a a woman, WE DON'T CARE ABOUT SIZE, it really IS the motion of the ocean. I mean, at least the majority of us, the average girl really dont mind about your size, sure there'll be some size queens out there claiming the opposite, but hey, everybody has some special fetiche in sex so we really can't blame anybody. Now let's get to what I came to talk about... Im seeing this guy for almost 5 months and we're entering in the boyfriend/girlfriend zone... we've been having sex a couple of times and it was great the first times... but it's been a month now since is not the same, and there's a reason because of this. Someone told him that my ex had a big dick, and he really does (was almost 8 inches), yet he doesnt wanna tell me who told him. He is 4.5-5'' which I guess society tells him he is small (To me, he's absolutely not, he's perfect), and I really can't blame him, why should he be confident with this fucked up society bombing him everyday with messages regarding penis size ? As I was saying, I was having great sex with him (not better or worse than my ex, it was just as great) but since this, he got depressed, libido went down, he can't get full hard or last enough. I told him multiple times about his size, that my ex's wasnt a big deal, that he's as good as him in bed, even told him he's better. Nothing seems to work... I feel really bad for him because I can see in his eyes what he's going through... Also, we're talking about a super confident guy, one of the most confident I've ever known, so it really shocks me that he is falling in this belief of the big D things... What should I do ? I really need some sort of advice"

[theGOAT Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close theGOAT]

Its all about the cock ! This guy is screwed.He better start growing his penis.

[MisterBator Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close MisterBator]

Pretty douche move of whoever told him about the ex. He just gotta realize she likes him for him and is obviously not concerned about the X with a big one. Looks like another one bites the dust.

[closed299 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close closed299]

Society has fucked men up regarding penis size hence the reason this forum exists. Men feel less adequate with a smaller penis its ridiculous.

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Men have allowed themselves to get screwed up. You see men are society aren't they; just like women. You as a person get screwed up because you allow it. It's easy to blame society.

[Cavalier Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Feb 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Cavalier]

Men have allowed themselves to get screwed up. You see men are society aren't they; just like women. You as a person get screwed up because you allow it. It's easy to blame society.

Exactly!

It's that unfortunate in today's internet and information world that guys are really screwed up over this. Back in my day I never, or any other guys I knew of, had a problem with having sex with an average dick. Why should it be so different now?

[dodgy Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dodgy]

I personally don't care what size dick a woman's been with previously, and I think a lit of guys feel the same, the guy from the original post was probably faking confidence with his girl, pretty common to put on a false front for the world.

[TheZZMan Moderator Member of the Month Sept 2018PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZMan]

Always going to be somebody bigger, somebody thicker, somebody with more money, somebody with nicer "toys", etc. The advice I would give to this person if the question was actually asked on this forum and not another website is to remind them that they are with you now and there is a reason you are not with your "Ex" anymore. It involves the whole package of a person, not just his member/unit. Life is too short to be bothered with these things. Enjoy the person you are with, the time you have together and the intimacy she brings to the table - for you - because you are you.

OP, what does reddit offer that we don't here in the Gym?

[TomFoolery Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TomFoolery]

The Internet and the free flow of 'information' has helped our insecurities grow disporportionately.

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

If she says her EX was bigger stick it somewhere else.



I have a dickie-do. My belly sticks out further than my dickie-do.

[Party Senior Member Member of the Month August 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Party]

Exactly!

It's that unfortunate in today's internet and information world that guys are really screwed up over this. Back in my day I never, or any other guys I knew of, had a problem with having sex with an average dick. Why should it be so different now?

Back in our days Cav, before Al Gore invented the internet, we didn’t know what average size is. Be fore PE I was that guy in the OP’s Post. Sucks but true, and just like that example, dispite my gain to 6.5, I’ll always be that 4.4-5 inch little dick I still see in my mind and ten year old pics. It still effects me in the bedroom today even after all the support I’ve gotten here.

[iiimegamaniii Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close iiimegamaniii]

Back in our days Cav, before Al Gore invented the internet, we didn’t know what average size is...

+1

Because 1.) I never saw another man with an erection and 2.) was too busy getting together with girls IRL. (Playboy mags only had women.) Later, when I was old enough to rent Adult VCR tapes, even though Ron Jeremy is bigger than me, I fantasized about doing the girls--not paying attention to his cock.

It seems in today's world, the hardest thing for a guy to overcome is in one's head / insecurities / expectations.

- Mega

[Party Senior Member Member of the Month August 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Party]

Agreed Mega. I’m glad I’m 56 and didn’t know my short comings when I was a horny hound dog, I’d a never got laid. Let alone married with kids. Interesting though, I showered a lot with other guys, at the Y or in the guys community shower on our dorm floor, never felt that much smaller. A few showers were there but I was making my girl happy so who cared.

[iiimegamaniii Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close iiimegamaniii]

LOL (Party)

I'll never forget 7th grade and seeing my first "show-er" along with my wrestling team when we did our weigh-in with one of our opponents. EVERY single guy on my school's team was fixed on this elephant trunk of a dick and asking one another if he had a hard-on or something. Made us all question things as all of us were "growers".

We shrugged it off once we suited-up and switched our attention to the cheerleaders when we entered the gym. Fun times being ignorant--one has to wonder if today is truly better for us guys with information & communication at our finger tips? Certainly creates a lot of doubts and head games we play with ourselves which wasn't an issue in decades prior.

- Mega (who went to school walking five miles through the snow uphill both ways)

[closed299 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close closed299]

Men have allowed themselves to get screwed up. You see men are society aren't they; just like women. You as a person get screwed up because you allow it. It's easy to blame society.

Very true!