Pressure/pain

[4herpleasure Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close 4herpleasure]

I am just under 7x5 and my gf is telling me lately it's really painful lately. She says and I quote "it feels like I have to shit and puke at the same time" even after we are done she has to run and sit on the toilet in agony for sometimes 10 minutes. I explain to her I want her to be sore from my penis but in the stretching way ... not like this! My theory is that I am too thin and I'm poking hurting her... shes had much bigger penises than mine 9x6 + and this has never been an issue ... she says the sex is great and comes all the time... but I am getting worried its because of my penis size stabbing her and not thick enough to be more pleasurable to her cervix.
Anyone have shared experiences or advice.

[closed251 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed251]

I doubt she's had bigger, she'll be remembering the size incorrectly.

May be penetrate more shallow to stop this bad reaction.

[4herpleasure Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close 4herpleasure]

Well, perhaps she is mistaken.. but
A- we used a BIG toy and I grabbed around 9x6 and she embarrassingly admitted "yes, but you're still the best"
B- shortly after we used the toy and she took exactly that much and easily.. definitely a blow to my ego at the time.. wondering how I could be the best after penises like that! I digress.. but perhaps I will just avoid the deep end and see if things go better... she also wants it deep so it's a double edged sword...
If there's a way to avoid this I'll find it.

[Portcitynt Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Portcitynt]

Make sure the dildo is 9" insertable, a lot of them are listed as over all length.
Have you not been with her long? With time you should learn by feel and her body language just how deep and hard to fuck her. If you've been with her a while and still can't read those ques, work on that, you'll be a much better lover for it, no matter what your dick size is.

[Portcitynt Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Portcitynt]

Also...if this is a sudden change she could have something wrong medically and should get checked out by a doctor. Could be a simple inflammation or uti....or something serious.

[Ellford Senior Member Member of the Month Sept 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close Ellford]

Or there could be something else inside and she should definitely get a check up by a physician.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Get a medical check.

[4herpleasure Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close 4herpleasure]

She literally got checked at the doctor last week. All good from the gyno.

Also I have been with her for just over a year and also this is an issue more as of the past 2 months. Which in parallel I have made some new gains and definitely getting deeper than ever before.
As far as the toy goes it was 12x7.5
Huge toy I measured just how I measured my own penis. So to be specific she took the girth and about 7inches deep. More than half of the 12x7 toy and barely flinched...
Which is why I thrust deep thinking it is what she used to....
She went to college and "had fun"
25 or more guys in 4 years ...so why is my average length and below average penis killing her.... maybe the doctor missed something.
Thanks for advice so far. Google just tells me its because I'm "well endowed"
Thanks Google 😑

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Oh boy the below average thing just makes me think there is some issue in your head you arn;t telling the full story or some such.

If she took a toy the size you claim she quite eaisly could have torn something.

[4herpleasure Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close 4herpleasure]

Well, that was pretty condescending...but I'll still explain, I was speaking specifically about my girth and being below average under 5"
What would me being in my head about issues and me leaving something out have any benefit of what I'm trying to achieve?
Trust me she didn't tear anything,
She just points to her stomach below her belly button after we are done and says it feels like your stabbing my guts!
Another side note, I have a toy we call my twin. Just 7x5 exactly. And I've used that on her quite hard and deep....no issue there..
Which leads me to believe its because I'm just too thin when I get that deep.
Having a thicker head wouldn't "poke" so much.... I'm being 100% honest because how else should I expect to get the answers. Sex shouldn't be like this...im starting to feel bad and losing erections being afraid to hurt her again.

[closed251 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed251]

Could it be angles?

[USGainEx Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close USGainEx]

Could it be angles?

This is most likely. If you're hitting her cervix, or more specifically right below it and stabbing into it, it's probably not comfortable at all. Angle it a little more toward her spine and slide right past her cervix into the posterior fornix. It'll feel a lot better for both of you, and won't make her naseus. I've hit the wrong angle doggy style on accident; no fun.

[Dance Sucka Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Dance Sucka]

I agree. Your present technique is probably incompatible with her body (i.e., maybe pulverizing her cervix). You could be stabbing her in the wrong spots, at the wrong angle, and with the wrong speed/intensity. You'll have to experiment and PAY ATTENTION. I'm guessing you have a lot of rough sex, so try toning that down with some slow sex and see if she reacts differently.

[Chris 8" x 5" Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Chris 8" x 5"]

Some excellent replies here. Firstly, 7 x 5 is above average length, and 5" girth is slightly above average too.
If she can enjoy a larger toy than you, then yeah it sounds like it's your technique. As others have suggested, it sounds like your angles are not good. Also, if she clearly likes it deep, try slowing down your stroke as you get deeper. Just hold it there deep inside her and just 'nudge' her gently, rather than pounding her back wall. Aim it upwards or downwards rather than just straight inside. You gotta mix up your technique, and ask her what feels good when using the toy and what feels good when you fuck her. Watch the way she uses her toy and try to do the same with your penis. Explain to her that you are willing to do whatever it takes to make sex as pleasurable as possible for her, and experiment to see what the secret is. Try fucking her and have her tell you all the way through exactly what feels better or worse from different angles and positions.

communication, communication, communication...

With some good communication, you'll both turn things around I'm sure.

[4herpleasure Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close 4herpleasure]

Some very helpful information and I appreciate it. Learning how to adjust to my gains is what sounds like needs to happen. I've never been able to hit these spots before so now I need to be more aware..
Need to go apply the information.
We had sex last night and even after I was "going easy" she was still on the toilet.. actually made her poop this time for real.... she told me she farted because she came so hard and thought she may have shit herself.... a lot of sexual firsts in this relationship.
Thanks guys/girls!