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Originally posted by Portcitynt
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Being there are several people in the thread now, I'll give more detail on how much it actually took to make me doubt her being faithful, and alternative reasons I could come up with.
1. The past couple months she's been very unhappy and snappy with me sex also fell off a lot. (But could be due to the falling out with her mother)
2. She sent me a pic txt that day showing she "had a treat" with an ice cream cone, her face was flush and her hair messy (Possible cause, it was hot that day, and "maybe" windy)
3.The evening in question she was sitting on the couch, I bent down next to her for some reason and caught a wiff of her leg, went to smell it and said you smell like lotion,do you have on lotion? She said no and got kinda defensive and/or irritated. (Possible cause, she's been acting like that for two months anyway)
4. I was sitting in my chair as she walked by I got her to come close so I could hug her, she was reluctant to do so, and when she did she clamped her legs shut tight not how she normally stands (Possible cause, she told me the reason for that after I asked if she cheated was "she dosent like my hands in her crotch all the time")
5. While I was hugging her legs is when I smelled the condom smell even with her legs tight( possible cause she said it was a new dress that hasn't been washed)
6.she then took her shower and it way longer than normal, when I saw her hair wasn't washed I asked what took so long (she said she was enjoying the alone time, our young son will usually shower with her but didn't this time)
6. While she was in the shower I picked up her clothes as I often do, that's when I noticed the marks inside the dress, they smelled like vaginal fluid, no condom smell though ( it's pretty normal for her to get wet and sweat durring the day, as mentioned earlier she's either sitting at a desk or a leather car seat running errands all day for her boss, and it was only a few days before her period, but this seemed like more discharge than normal)
7. When I confronted her about it several days later she didn't get angry like she normally would she was very calm and helpful trying to come up with reasons for each thing , and breathing heavy, the couple times I caught her lying about little stuff in the past she had that same calm and breathing. (Possible cause, before I asked if she cheated I told her I wanted to talk about something like adults without fighting and said hopefully you respect me enough to tell the truth, so she could have just been acting how I asked her to).
As you can seen it took A LOT for me to even question her because I do trust her..but it's hard to ignore my gut.
The day after I asked if she cheated we talked again and faught a bit. She insisted she hasn't cheated and again said the reasons for her not being happy mostly her mother, and me trying to help by talking to her and asking if she's ok....she doesn't like questions or to talk about her feelings ( she's always bottled them up) she says she needs to cope with things on her own without me reminding her of it.
Since then we've been pretty good, but it is now her happy time of the month, we even had sex last night even though my eq sucked (I assume because of the blockage) and I came way too soon, but she at least she came when I did.
1. The past couple months she's been very unhappy and snappy with me sex also fell off a lot. (But could be due to the falling out with her mother)
2. She sent me a pic txt that day showing she "had a treat" with an ice cream cone, her face was flush and her hair messy (Possible cause, it was hot that day, and "maybe" windy)
3.The evening in question she was sitting on the couch, I bent down next to her for some reason and caught a wiff of her leg, went to smell it and said you smell like lotion,do you have on lotion? She said no and got kinda defensive and/or irritated. (Possible cause, she's been acting like that for two months anyway)
4. I was sitting in my chair as she walked by I got her to come close so I could hug her, she was reluctant to do so, and when she did she clamped her legs shut tight not how she normally stands (Possible cause, she told me the reason for that after I asked if she cheated was "she dosent like my hands in her crotch all the time")
5. While I was hugging her legs is when I smelled the condom smell even with her legs tight( possible cause she said it was a new dress that hasn't been washed)
6.she then took her shower and it way longer than normal, when I saw her hair wasn't washed I asked what took so long (she said she was enjoying the alone time, our young son will usually shower with her but didn't this time)
6. While she was in the shower I picked up her clothes as I often do, that's when I noticed the marks inside the dress, they smelled like vaginal fluid, no condom smell though ( it's pretty normal for her to get wet and sweat durring the day, as mentioned earlier she's either sitting at a desk or a leather car seat running errands all day for her boss, and it was only a few days before her period, but this seemed like more discharge than normal)
7. When I confronted her about it several days later she didn't get angry like she normally would she was very calm and helpful trying to come up with reasons for each thing , and breathing heavy, the couple times I caught her lying about little stuff in the past she had that same calm and breathing. (Possible cause, before I asked if she cheated I told her I wanted to talk about something like adults without fighting and said hopefully you respect me enough to tell the truth, so she could have just been acting how I asked her to).
As you can seen it took A LOT for me to even question her because I do trust her..but it's hard to ignore my gut.
The day after I asked if she cheated we talked again and faught a bit. She insisted she hasn't cheated and again said the reasons for her not being happy mostly her mother, and me trying to help by talking to her and asking if she's ok....she doesn't like questions or to talk about her feelings ( she's always bottled them up) she says she needs to cope with things on her own without me reminding her of it.
Since then we've been pretty good, but it is now her happy time of the month, we even had sex last night even though my eq sucked (I assume because of the blockage) and I came way too soon, but she at least she came when I did.
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