What is the ideal penis size that most women prefer???

[Johnny D ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Johnny D]

It's always funny to me how guys (and I assume it's the younger, less experienced) are hell bent on convincing themselves and everyone else that size is such a priority to women, despite what women say and what men (those of us who may be decades older with much more experience) report back with. Look, if women are pressed to answer the question, "ALL else being equal, what's the ideal size", they'll select from the larger end of the scale (though certainly not WAY beyond the mean). But it's still such a low priority for them. If you assume that the guy is right (personality, appearance, attentiveness, etc.) they're always gonna start with skill. I think that too many young guys probably just assume they have that part covered so move on. My guess is that 95% of guys do not. If you can be in the 5% group, only then should you even consider the other factors. From there, they will all tell you that firmness is crucial above all else. And then when it gets to size, girth matters more (FAR more) and length matters perhaps a bit. But, again, those don't even come close to the guy, himself, and his skill. It's just that so many guys don't realize they're in the 95% group so end up spending a bunch of energy on size. They're looking at it through their own lens and having a really hard time seeing that women don't have the same perspective, and working hard to convince themselves that they know the truth about it.

[Ultimate Burrito Moderator Member of the Month Oct 2017PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Ultimate Burrito]

It's really down to the personality and interests of the lady. To some girls a guy with a nice ride gets them all wet, others it's how they dress, some area all about dick size, others about the tats or facial hair. The girl I was with was indifferent about size. When I told her about PE and how I increased my size she said, "You sure are proud of your dick aren't you? I'm sure you would have been just fine at your natural size."

As a guy my thoughts are "better to have and not need than need and not have"

[RickBhmcsb PEGym HERO Find all posts View Profile Close RickBhmcsb]

The bottom line to all of this is...Women are primarily looking for a man who is confident in who he is and where he is going in life and career. Sex and intimacy is all part of the relationship building process. Bedroom issues should be handled jointly with understanding and patience. A guy who is well endowed and eager to please his partner is icing on the cake.

[Ultimate Burrito Moderator Member of the Month Oct 2017PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Ultimate Burrito]

The bottom line to all of this is...Women are primarily looking for a man who is confident in who he is and where he is going in life and career. Sex and intimacy is all part of the relationship building process. Bedroom issues should be handled jointly with understanding and patience. A guy who is well endowed and eager to please his partner is icing on the cake.

Unless they just want a hookup then they want the big "D"

[RickBhmcsb PEGym HERO Find all posts View Profile Close RickBhmcsb]

That's true...!

Unless they just want a hookup then they want the big "D"

[Physdoc Retired Moderator Member of the Month July 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close Physdoc]

Unless they just want a hookup then they want the big "D"

Yup, again. Around our nudist friends (most of whom are also swingers), I've heard women say something like, "I'd like to try that" speaking of some new dude at the resort sporting a big one. I'm not guessing they were thinking about a sweet, intimate love-making experience with a wonderful husband-material guy!

[softee Member Find all posts View Profile Close softee]

They aren't wrong, just not specific enough most of the time. All else being equal, the larger penis IS better, until it's not.

Didn’t understand that last part. “Better until its not”.

[softee Member Find all posts View Profile Close softee]

It's always funny to me how guys (and I assume it's the younger, less experienced) are hell bent on convincing themselves and everyone else that size is such a priority to women, despite what women say and what men (those of us who may be decades older with much more experience) report back with. Look, if women are pressed to answer the question, "ALL else being equal, what's the ideal size", they'll select from the larger end of the scale (though certainly not WAY beyond the mean). But it's still such a low priority for them. If you assume that the guy is right (personality, appearance, attentiveness, etc.) they're always gonna start with skill. I think that too many young guys probably just assume they have that part covered so move on. My guess is that 95% of guys do not. If you can be in the 5% group, only then should you even consider the other factors. From there, they will all tell you that firmness is crucial above all else. And then when it gets to size, girth matters more (FAR more) and length matters perhaps a bit. But, again, those don't even come close to the guy, himself, and his skill. It's just that so many guys don't realize they're in the 95% group so end up spending a bunch of energy on size. They're looking at it through their own lens and having a really hard time seeing that women don't have the same perspective, and working hard to convince themselves that they know the truth about it.

I have been told that I have “big dick energy” based on my personality and I hate that modern slang lingo. That insinuates that a confident or funny guy with a good personality automatically has a large penis. That is essentially objectifying men and associating masculinity with having a large member. These are women 25-40 so you can forget about the “young and inexperienced” refute. I in fact do not have a large penis by any means. Lacking in girth at roughly 4.75 meg

[JustALilMore Senior Member Member of the Month August 2020 Find all posts View Profile Close JustALilMore]

Didn’t understand that last part. “Better until its not”.

Until it is physically too big, meaning it causes more issues than it solves for both partners. Overly large penises are typically limited to PIV. Yes, they may be nice to look at and hold, but what's the point if it has limited use? It's like having a Ferrari, but you need to haul 4x8 sheets.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

I have been told that I have “big dick energy” based on my personality and I hate that modern slang lingo. That insinuates that a confident or funny guy with a good personality automatically has a large penis. That is essentially objectifying men and associating masculinity with having a large member. These are women 25-40 so you can forget about the “young and inexperienced” refute. I in fact do not have a large penis by any means. Lacking in girth at roughly 4.75 meg

Actualy big dick energy seems to be associated with none nice guy behaviour . Great incentive to not act like a nice guy regardless of actual penis size .

[softee Member Find all posts View Profile Close softee]

Actualy big dick energy seems to be associated with none nice guy behaviour . Great incentive to not act like a nice guy regardless of actual penis size .

I wouldn’t say I act like a nice guy, but i’m definitely easy to talk to. Some of the more aggressive and assertive types of women don’t like me because I have witty and challenging comebacks when they try to take a shot at me. The ones that suggest this so called “big dick energy” are more civil and lady like surprisingly. It could be my humor and overall goofy demeanor that intrigues them.

None of what I said is self proclaimed may I add. All that is based on what female and male friends/acquaintances have stated about me. So the 5-8 females that said I have this so called “energy” were all treated respectfully with a nice guy attitude.

[incogneeetoe Moderator Member of the Month Sept 2017*Special Appreciated Moderator Nov. 2021* PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close incogneeetoe]

If I can jump in...

I far too often see guys ranting or moaning or complaining about their size. I empathize with a lot of it, but at the same time I also feel that it is really immature. There is this mistaken belief that a certain size is the goldicocks size or that all women want a guy who is 8 inches, minimum.

We are all different. Some are taller and more rugged, while other guys are smaller and thin. Some are conventionally handsome, while others are more conventionally ugly. We deal with what we have.

What gets me are these guys who lament that they can never have a woman because their dick is too small. Recently I’ve seen a few of these types ranting in other forums about larger guys not understanding or not being allowed to comment on life with a smaller dick. They do not want “pity”, or whatever. There is this burgeoning opinion that a man who happens to have a larger erection should just be happy and keep quiet in places where average or small dick men conglomerate. A large dick guy could never understand how difficult it is for the small guys. They can’t get girls, can’t have sex, and so on.

As if that were the only difference between us. Like somehow I have only had any success with women because I am "hung". In their mind I walk up and whip I out, and girls swoon and fall all over my erection.

The thing is dick size has very little to do with the mating experience. The only effect that a large erection has had on my success with women is that a few have said no. I have never had a woman nail me just because of my size.

There is no ideal size. There isn't. Just like there is no ideal breast size or hair color. Or height or weight or foot size.

[Physdoc Retired Moderator Member of the Month July 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close Physdoc]

As if that were the only difference between us. Like somehow I have only had any success with women because I am "hung". In their mind I walk up and whip I out, and girls swoon and fall all over my erection.

The thing is dick size has very little to do with the mating experience. The only effect that a large erection has had on my success with women is that a few have said no. I have never had a woman nail me just because of my size.

There is no ideal size. There isn't. Just like there is no ideal breast size or hair color. Or height or weight or foot size.

Well said! I'd guess that often when a woman decides she wants to pursue a relationship that she thinks will likely to lead to sex with a particular guy, that she doesn't yet know how big he is.

"Ideal size" that you see published is simply an average of what a bunch of women have said, with the average likely far from what one or another particular woman in the survey prefers. Many women prefer a smaller or larger size than whatever the average came out to.

[Ultimate Burrito Moderator Member of the Month Oct 2017PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Ultimate Burrito]

*Spoiler alert*

The burrito is the perfect size .

Nah, based on the general consensus of all the dick tuggers here; just believe in your mind that you are the perfect size for her and follow through with actions and the confidence and delivery will sweep her off her feet and there is nothing to worry about. Just be sure to include charm, wittiness, humor, hygiene, etc.

[CBateman Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close CBateman]

I think there is definitely a perfect size if you define perfect as "best for highest percentage of women".
However, it is big but not too big.
NBPEL I would say between 6.5 and 7 inches length and 5.5-5.8 inches girth is perfect by the definition above.
My personal goal is a bit higher at the moment, but when I am at 7 inches NBPEL I will reevaluate my thoughts.