Anal questions

[beetleboy Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close beetleboy]

Ok ladies, do some women actually orgasm from anal sex? Have you? Does an anal orgasm feel different than a g spot or clitoral orgasm? How would you suggest I introduce anal sex to my wife. She already lets me rub around her anal area and I've inserted just the tip of my finger before while she was using her vibrator and she seemed to enjoy it. I guess I'm just a little hesitant about full insertion of my finger and worried she will react negatively. She has told me she doesn't like me messing around down there most of the time but her verbal and physical reactions when I do it sometimes say otherwise. Maybe she's just embarrassed by admitting it feels good.

[UYN Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close UYN]

Have you asked her about her thought on the topic of anal sex?

-UYN-

[beetleboy Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close beetleboy]

I have. Like I said, verbally, and when not actually having sex, she says she's not interested but during sex when I touch her there her physical and verbal reactions say different.

[Panther Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Panther]

First off, don't do anything without her permission first. Seems like she might like the sensations around her anus but is probably embarrassed. She may be worried or embarrassed about getting feces on your finger. Perhaps she's afraid she'll feel like taking going to the bathroom if you engage in anal play.

That is what my girl is worried about and I completely understand. I suggest taking it very slow and give her plenty of rim jobs when you do oral sex. Slowly proceed from there. Maybe suggesting a very skinny small vibrator for her ass. Use lots of lube or you'll never be invited back.

It's lots of fun for both so don't give up on her.

[TTBB Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TTBB]

if she says she is not interested then more then likely she is not interested .. just because a person enjoys having slight anal stimulation does not mean they want something large stuck in their rear entry .. like as a guy you might enjoy your woman licking, and fingering you there ,but the idea of having a girl stick a dildo or a butt plug up in it, could be a big no and holds no appeal to you ..there really is no difference... generally if a woman is interested but just apprehensive that is what they will express .. if a woman says a flat out no or i am not interested it usually means just that... and what ever you do, do not to the oops wrong hole sly move, that just breaks trust in a relationship.

[NP97 Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close NP97]

and what ever you do, do not to the oops wrong hole sly move, that just breaks trust in a relationship.

And their rectum...

[Batwoman Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Batwoman]

I happen to quite enjoy anal sex.... but it took a lot of years for me to discover that, and a partner who was very patient and concerned that I enjoy ALL parts of what we were doing.

First off, communication is key. You both have to get over any embarrassment about it, and talk about what you are doing. For me, having him invite me to explore him anally as well was a good introduction. Lots of lube (or soap in the shower) and fingertip play can go a long way toward making you both comfortable. Be sure to have a sense of humor about it -- don't get all serious or demanding, just introduce anal play as something fun to experiment with each other's bodies.

Lube, lube, lube. This is what makes anal play and anal sex fun. Nobody likes something large and unlubricated inserted anally -- it hurts. GOOD ANAL SEX IS PAIN-FREE. I cannot emphasize this enough. If it hurts at all, she is not ready enough or not lubed enough. This goes for whether or not you are inserting your finger or your cock. It takes time and lube and a lot of massaging to get the anus to relax enough for penetration (of any kind) to feel good.

Never, ever rush anything. Make sure that she knows that if she wants you to stop or back off, you will. As TTBB said, if you try some sort of "oops" routine, she will know that you cannot be trusted and that will damage both your relationship and any chance you might have had to get her to like anal sex.

If she seems to enjoy having you massage her anus and insert a fingertip during sex, I expect that she would enjoy more. But take it slowly. It may take quite a number of exploratory sessions before she is ready to even think about letting you try to insert your cock. The best thing that you can do is work on getting her to like your finger. Explore lubes, and when she is receptive slowly insert a bit more of your finger, being sure to massage around in a circle as you press inward. GO SLOWLY.

When I was learning about my ass, my guy waited until I was essentially begging for him to try sliding his cock inside. He let me take the lead, let me decide what position I was most comfortable in, let me decide when we would try more than just finger play. That meant a lot to me. It made it something that we did together, for mutual pleasure, not something that he did to me. It also ensured that I was really truly ready the first time we tried actual anal sex.

I think that is the best approach.

[TTBB Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TTBB]

Anal is like a mainstream fetish and it does not suit everyone, even though it has become more popular.. so approach the subject like you would any other fetish, you're not sure your partner would be willing to explore.(baby steps and communication)
I have no problem with anal sex, but i do have friends who will not go there... Just tread carefully, its okay to reASSess the situation ever so often. But don't make an issue or push for it, if she has verbally expressed she is not interested, I have seen many girlfriends annoyed at their boyfriends persistence over getting anal...

The feedback provided about trying slowly build up to it is solid, but just know if she really means no, there might be no pushing through that boundary a lot of woman attach too many negatives to the act.. For some its a moral thing which reflective of their character and not something that is easily changed. For others it just a hygiene yucky or pain thing...Some women are more open to trying new things, even if they are initially not sure..it depends on the woman... its better to try then to assume, but she might not see it that way

[Batwoman Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Batwoman]

I guess I really don't see anal play and anal sex as a "mainstream fetish" at all -- just an extension of intimacy and sexuality into a slightly new anatomical area. In retrospect it seems really weird to me that I was always free to touch any part of my lover's body EXCEPT this small region, which was somehow off-limits.... and vice versa. What a wonderful surprise to discover that it feels good to touch, and be touched, there! As for penetration, that takes time, preparation and, above all else, trust. Trust is key. Anal sex is definitely advanced sex -- not for beginners or for couples who are even a little unsure of their sexuality, initimacy, or trust levels. It also requires a substantial time commitment (you cannot have quicky anal sex). But you can have anal play anytime.

Now that I have discovered anal play, it is one of my favorite things. By "anal play" I mean touching and caressing the anus, together with gentle insertion of a fingertip or finger. We do this all the time as part of regular sex -- he does it with me, and I with him. He loves it when I suck his cock while playing with his ass; I love it when he massages me while stroking me, or when we are having sex doggie style (thus exposing my anus for gentle stimulation by his fingers during vaginal sex). We also enjoy playing with each other in the shower, when there is lots of slippery skin and soap suds to make it all feel great.

I also enjoy full-blown anal sex -- his hard cock in my ass. Not all the time, but sometimes it is exactly what I want. Yes, I ask for it. Why not? I see no benefits of being shy in the bedroom.

From the uninitiated female perspective, anal sex can definitely seem like something that is only for the guy -- he wants it, he pressures you for it, and if you give in, the best you can hope for is that it won't hurt and won't be messy. The reality can be far different, and a source of great pleasure for women too -- but it takes the right partner and the right time to make it so.

Have I ever had an orgasm from anal sex? No, not from that alone.... but I have had great orgasms during anal sex from using a vibrator on my clit. Does anal feel different from vaginal sex? You bet! It is deeply erotic in a different way, hard to describe. I enjoy the fullness and the stretching when he is deep inside me. It is very, very intimate and very, very erotic. It took a lot of years for us to discover it, but I think my partner would also agree that it is wonderful addition to our sexuality and sex lives.

[sotorp Member Find all posts View Profile Close sotorp]

Hmmm.My wife is a bit like that.When she is really hot a well lubed finger in the ass just near the final stages puts her over the edge.We have done anal a couple of times but with my 6,2 girth she only does it as a big favour and when a little tipsy.However, I think she has a hangup mainly with "cleanliness" and the idea that it is a "dirty" area.So it is a tug of war between not feeling comfortable with the "idea" and the actual pleasure it gives. We have to realize that probably it is not very pleasurable for all women.I know that I don't particularly like it myself so why should a woman have to like it? On the other hand if you are very intimate and trusting and ask her if she would like to slowly experiment a bit maybe she will discover something that she likes. Just be sweet and tell her at a proper moment that maybe it will connect you even more sexually and physically.

[Batwoman Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Batwoman]

Personally I suspect that almost anyone would enjoy anal play, were they not hung up on misconceptions about it.

As for anal sex, I can certainly believe that some women may never like it. That's a shame, but it really does require a lot of things to be in alignment -- the right partner (perhaps very hard to come by), a willingness to be very open-minded about sex in general (perhaps also very hard to come by), lots of time, lots of lube, lots of trust. That's a lot of things that have to go right all at the same time. If any one is missing, the lady is not going to enjoy the experience, and indeed may be scarred by it so she will never enjoy it in the future, either.

I also think that some guys are just too big for anal sex to feel good for a woman. I have no experience over about 5.0 EG, but my guess is that anything over 5.5 EG would be too much for me to enjoy anally.

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I knew I shouldn't have come here this morning! You ladies are killing me!

[Gstar14 Member Find all posts View Profile Close Gstar14]

I knew I shouldn't have come here this morning! You ladies are killing me!

lol these post do always have a certain twist to them

[Batwoman Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Batwoman]

Well, sex is -- or at least it should be -- very erotic!

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Except during Yankee playoff games!