Mental visual stimulation..

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I wonder how size affects a women mental visual stimuli. For example she's single and visualizing a dick rather she's masturbating or not does a smaller one turn her on like a bigger one. Hard to be very comprehensive with this thought..lol. Hope someone catches what i'm saying though.

[Going411x7 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Going411x7]

We need BW and TTBB to speak up here. Women are wired differently than men in this regard, methinks.

[TTBB Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TTBB]

this might give you a little insight and a bit of laugh

YouTube - Jen Kirkman Effinfunny Stand Up - Female Masturbation

The vid clip I think is pretty accurate for what female fantasy or female mental stimulus is about.

Guys tend to be more visual creatures then women, so just thinking about a nice pussy and what they want to do to it can be enough to get off on, where as most females need more then that. Its about more then visuals, it's about all senses touch, smell, taste, sound all of those things come into play when fantasizing. Cock size for me doesn't really come into it. If its a guy I am keen on and I know what his cock looks like, then it will come into play because I have a visual on it... If I don't know what the cock looks like, I wouldn't say I picture anything much bigger then average...other things also come into play like strong arms, nice ass, his smile, his eyes. Whatever part the particular girl is partial to, Its not just the nitty gritty sex parts.

[Minuteman Member of the Month March 2013. Find all posts View Profile Close Minuteman]

this might give you a little insight and a bit of laugh

YouTube - Jen Kirkman Effinfunny Stand Up - Female Masturbation

Weirdly enough i noticed that when i think about mastrubation story, if i'm not horny enough i kinda get stuck at the same points as her and drift off to sleep, but then i wake up with a morning wood and the problem solves itself.

[i need to stop butting in this subforum ]

[Leviathan Member Find all posts View Profile Close Leviathan]

Personally, & I can only speak for myself, I'm a VERY visual woman. During anything remotely sexual, I NEED to SEE it. I have to have sex with the lights on, it's WAAAAAAY more of a turn on to me, then lights off in the dark. [ tho, in the dark can be fun...with all the lights on much better tho ]

During some encounters, I'm the one who brings out the camera & video camera to take photos. I want to see who's touching / grabbing / stroking / licking / etc.

When I was single & I masturbated, I used porn. A LOT. It was hard for me to masturbate without porn & seeing actual people doing sexual stuff. When I masturbated & couldn't get to porn, I'd mentally playback the videos in my head & masturbate to that.

When I got married & finally cut the porn crap out, I masturbated to hubby & I, exactly as he is. I might throw in some costumes or bondage or something, but I pictured his cock [ & body...] exactly as it is, no bigger no smaller.

But, I'm a realist I imagine things as I see them. Bigger does not equal better to me.

Hope that helps! ~

[Minuteman Member of the Month March 2013. Find all posts View Profile Close Minuteman]

In other words female and male aren't as different as it seems to be

In the future i would like my beloved one to masturbate about me, that would probably be the ultimate turn on. Your hubby is a happy man in my eyes.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

i suggest that ttbb is more typical than leviathan though both are valid female views.

[Katie Member Find all posts View Profile Close Katie]

When I was single, I used porn more than I do now, and when I didn't, I just fantasized about some random penis of average size, neither very big or very small (and sometimes about girls too, but i guess that wasn't really your question).

Now that I am in a relationship (LDR), I guess my fantasies are more typically female. I try to remember exactly how my boyfriend looks, how his skin feels, his smell, his hands, his face, his voice, the things he likes to do with me, remembering things he says that turns me on, and of course his penis too, but it really is the whole experience of being with him that turns me on and that works for me when I'm masturbating.

I, like Leviathan, also like doing it with the lights on, then I can see my boyfriend`s face and body, and our bodies together, and I really really like that. It also makes it easier to remember how things look when I'm back home again.

[redbear52 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close redbear52]

My wife once told me that she had erotic dreams about "big dicks" or would imagine such when masturbating. I asked her something like "You mean guys you know or imagine to have big cocks" and she said no, just the detached image of a large, erect penis, which I found interesting and a little surprising.

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I can't really add much to what the ladies here have already contributed. It all pretty much matches my own experiences (except the porn part, I never used that much and certainly not when I was younger).

I've become quite visual about fantasies in recent years, and they definitely revolve around my lover. I find that playing out whole scenarios of sexual encounters are much more stimulating than just thinking about cocks or straight in-and-out style sex. I love imaging his eyes and his smile, the feel of his skin, his kiss....sometimes remembering/imagining very simple things can be a huge turn-on for me.

I would say that one breakthrough for me was when we got to the point that he would lube up and stroke himself in front of me, so I could watch his body and his face..... I have gotten a lot of mileage out of those wonderful images!

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Oh, one other thing about porn -- I always have found written porn/erotica to be a lot more fun than video.... I like using my imagination, and find the whole thing more satisfying than watching sex movies. But maybe that is just me.

[Katie Member Find all posts View Profile Close Katie]

No, it is not just you, I enjoy that too

[Leviathan Member Find all posts View Profile Close Leviathan]

Before the porn, when I was very very young, I would read erotica. [ literotica? ] But eventually, the stories weren't "enough" for me so I progressed to pictures, then videos, etc.

Now I've cut all of that out, anything that goes on masturbation wise is in my head & involves me and hubby. [ tho, admittedly, it can be hard sometimes during our "dry spells," hubby's drive is no where near as high as mine ] ~

[vulcan Retired ModeratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close vulcan]

What about when Vibration is introduced into the equation? Can that speed things up, mood wise?

[TTBB Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TTBB]

I use to watch a lot of porn, but it twisted my perception of the world and not in the big cock sense, it twisted how i viewed women and what is considered 'normal' for sexual behavior . I still watch a little on occasion but its a rare treat now, I rely on my mind more these days . If my imagination isn't in the moment I can refer back to things I have written .. I also read what others write for inspiration, though it can be hard to find things that are written for women...a mother having a three way with her daughter doesn't really do it for me ..haha