Why do women (in general) only prefer about 15-20 minutes of penetration?

[Rando Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Rando]

Some of the other threads about how women generally don't like it when penetration lasts too long kinda got me curious about why this is. I've heard countless times something to the effect of "Well I want penetration to last more than a couple minutes, but 30+ minutes is too much".

Would you say it is the physiological differences that account for this? The fact that the pussy is baring the brunt of the force and then tends to get sore pretty quickly? Or do women just enjoy larger peaks and valleys during sex? For example, when building towards orgasm the arousal for women can be intense, but maybe after they've cum a couple times and kinda check out mentally then they can experience lower valleys and become uninterested. I think most guys probably enjoy the sensations even during the "down" times when they aren't close to the PONR and if guys could choose exactly when they finished most would probably pick something in the 45 minute to 2 hour mark. Or maybe it's the fact that the act can become a bit monotonous, maybe the guy keeps the same tempo and thrusting depth. If the guy was good at changing tempo, using different depth, and different thrusting techniques do you think you'd be much more likely to want penetration to continue for a lot longer?

[Steve23 Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Steve23]

All the women I've been with prefer 6-12min, Mixed in with a lot of foreplay before during and after, without foreplay it's just boring. I guess mindless pumping can get sore after or boring? They can just do it with a dildo if they wanted to go that long.

[BTBrian Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close BTBrian]

It becomes tedious after too long, and they tend to get raw and run out of lubrication down there.

[Padawan787 Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Padawan787]

Friction, natural lube produced by the woman isn't infinite

Penis-burn

[BigO AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close BigO]

I agree with the replys so far,most women dont want to get banged forever. I know my wife can only handle so much before it is not feeling so good any more.

[Starbuck1776 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Starbuck1776]

Hell I've had my dick get sore after pumping away for 45 minutes or so and the lady had to rest for a couple of days because she was sore as well.

[Toadstool Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Toadstool]

I can only imagine that the high amount of nerve endings can only experience so much friction before it gets sore and less pleasurable.
Not to mention, sex takes a lot of physical work. It's often sweaty, sometimes smelly. Having someone on top of you might become uncomfortable, riding someone might become exhausting, doggy style might be painful on the wrists and knees.

To lubricate their pussy, it takes water in her system. If she's going on for a long time, she might even become dehydrated.

The pussy is often small. Having something in there stretches out the walls and can become painful.

But... it hurts soooo good

[Hopeful&dedicated Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Hopeful&dedicated]

I must be the lucky one. My wife will happily take 30+ minutes and sometimes gets disappointed if I cum after 35 minutes. There are exceptions but 30 minutes is an average session for us. My wife's awesome BTW!

EDIT: But then again... I'm not huge like many here.

[4Samson Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close 4Samson]

My fiancee asks me to come eventually although I have never timed us. I think it has more to do with her enjoying watching me cum though than her not being able to take it anymore.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Yes this can be an issue for guys who are mmo or have delayed ejaculation.

[Batwoman Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Batwoman]

It becomes tedious after too long, and they tend to get raw and run out of lubrication down there.

This is correct. HOWEVER sex only become tedious if the man just keeps pounding with no variation in what he does. I can enjoy a very long session of sex if we keep switching off on activities.... changing positions... changing rhythms.... etc.

Women experience peaks and valleys of arousal, and we can get stuck in a valley (headed downstream to the swamp of tediousness) if a guy just keeps going and going and going at the same thing.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

You might like long sessions Bw and you are not alone, you are outnumbered though, by women who prefer shorter sessions, regardless of technique.

[Batwoman Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Batwoman]

I'm not saying that I very long sessions of intercourse are my preference..... rather, that I like long sessions of sex with lots of different activities thrown in.
For example, lots of kissing and licking, followed by oral sex, followed by so some nice hard screwing with me on my back, followed by more oral sex, followed by him fingering my G-spot, followed by doggie-style sex.....
In other words, NOT just pounding away for an hour.

I think that after about 5-10 minutes of penetrative sex in one position, I generally either want an orgasm or want to change positions to feel some new sensations. I love the process of sex and all the feelings and emotions and the huge physical rush.... to keep building it up, I need changes in what we are doing to come along at fairly regular intervals. I think this is because too much of any one thing leads to a drop in arousal.... where as moving on to a different sexual activity or position pumps the arousal way back up again!

[adiavroxos Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close adiavroxos]

I'm not saying that I very long sessions of intercourse are my preference..... rather, that I like long sessions of sex with lots of different activities thrown in.
I think that after about 5-10 minutes of penetrative sex in one position, I generally either want an orgasm or want to change positions to feel some new sensations.

Very true. Women tend to reach a peak of arousal and sensation during the few first minutes or penetrating sex. At that time, they will be desperate for an orgasm to relax a bit or their arousal will start to drop.
My currect girlfriend is also like that. The first 5 minutes of sex are incredible for her. However if she cant reach climax soon, she'll eventually lose it and her arousal drops along with it. The best thing to do at that time is change position or just stop penetrating sex and switch to oral so she can have her pleasure etc.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

I'm not saying that I very long sessions of intercourse are my preference..... rather, that I like long sessions of sex with lots of different activities thrown in.
For example, lots of kissing and licking, followed by oral sex, followed by so some nice hard screwing with me on my back, followed by more oral sex, followed by him fingering my G-spot, followed by doggie-style sex.....
In other words, NOT just pounding away for an hour.

I think that after about 5-10 minutes of penetrative sex in one position, I generally either want an orgasm or want to change positions to feel some new sensations. I love the process of sex and all the feelings and emotions and the huge physical rush.... to keep building it up, I need changes in what we are doing to come along at fairly regular intervals. I think this is because too much of any one thing leads to a drop in arousal.... where as moving on to a different sexual activity or position pumps the arousal way back up again!

You might like long sessions Bw and you are not alone, you are outnumbered though, by women who prefer shorter sessions, regardless of technique.
Regardless of technique.