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[Padawan787 Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Padawan787]

So, during my romantic getaway with my girlfriend we had a chat and she said that penetration lasting over 10mins is undesirable and can even be sore regardless of lubricant, position or arousal, her vagina starts to hurt and she eventually makes a signal for me to finish. Having sex multiple times doesn't hurt or cause any problems, it is solely longer sex that is undesirable.

Personally, I think this is great, there is no longer any pressure to last as long as a pornstar and 10mins sessions are very, very doable, it also means I can enjoy myself more without having to obsess about lasting longer

However, I have a few questions, we as men are constantly told that lasting for a long time is important, even essential, for good sex. Is my girlfriend's "10 minute limit" normal? and is it a sign that i'm doing anything wrong?

Her enjoyment doesn't seem to be a problem during sex, so I know she likes and enjoys it, i'm just surprised by her revelation that she doesn't want really long sex sessions

[NCGUY1972 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close NCGUY1972]

How long is the foreplay session? Is she reaching her climax during foreplay and ready to call it quits before intercourse starts? Is she climaxing at all? Does she enjoy the intercourse that you do have? How much experience do the 2 of you have? Or are you guys both truly done at that point? Sorry if the questions sound dumb I dont know your whole situation but I assume your looking for answers of some sort.

[Steve23 Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Steve23]

My girlfriend and I seem to enjoy oral and manual just as much as intercourse so we probably spend more time doing that, and during intercourse she after 4-5 minutes we like to change positions or she likes to go down on me or I go down on her then we continue. I think anything over 10-15 minutes tends to get boring unless your in the heat of the moment and kissing and caressing and all that during.

[Edge of Glory Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Edge of Glory]

I don't think it's too far off the normal. I remember someone asking this question on a college student site I used to visit (can't recall name). And most women said anything over 20-25 min gets dry, uncomfortable, painful, and/or boring. And these are younger women who probably lubricate better. Obviously it will vary by woman, by penis size, and by whether you use lube or not. This is far from scientific research, and you need to take everything on the Internet with a grain of salt obviously.

Quickies are fun, enjoy it.

[Batwoman Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Batwoman]

I like long bouts of sex.... but by that I mean sexual activity (touching, kissing, licking, squirming, stroking, cunnilingus, fellatio, penetrative sex, etc.). As for straight vaginal penetration in one position, yeah, probably 10 minutes or so is plenty. After that I want to either switch positions, switch activities, or have an orgasm. Just pounding away for lots more minutes brings me down from the peak, not closer to it.

[Hopeful&dedicated Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Hopeful&dedicated]

My wife is blessed with the ability to orgasm from penetration multiple times which means I can pound away for 30-40 minutes straight only slowing down briefly after an orgasm. A typical night for us is 4 or 5 positions and 30 minutes of straight sex. Foreplay before that lasts anywhere from 10 to 30 minutes. I lucked out because actual (hard) penetration is what I like most.

[thenewdude Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close thenewdude]

My wife starts getting dry about 20 minutes. One thing about the porn scenes it that they are not taken at once setting (there are breaks) and also ky gels and the such are used for lubrication (it is acting).

[BigO AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close BigO]

10 minutes is fine, most guys build up their sexual ability and the norm is actually about 7 minutes give or take. This is of course for straight I am in, going, going, going..................done sex. If a guy knows him self sure, they can last a long time. I can go as long as I like, however I only usually go as long as my wife likes. She can go for a while and is opposite from the OPs situation. She can go for a long time but for her when she has the BigO (snuck it in there) she says her muscles inside get very tight and she says sex after the BigO (he he ) hurts, every once in a blue moon we go again but since she can last a while I am usually Ok with our style. I believe that she is telling the truth about being dine because a few minutes before she is ready to have the.....................wait for it................BigO she get super tight and it is like a virgin.

[Padawan787 Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Padawan787]

To answer the questions:

Usually lots of foreplay, 15-20mins, Oral of some sort, caressing, kissing etc.

The 10mins sex isn't in one position, we change every 2-3 mins, it is usually: Missionary for entry, girl-on-top, something else, then missionary or doggy to finish

[Hopeful&dedicated Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Hopeful&dedicated]

To answer the questions:

Usually lots of foreplay, 15-20mins, Oral of some sort, caressing, kissing etc.

The 10mins sex isn't in one position, we change every 2-3 mins, it is usually: Missionary for entry, girl-on-top, something else, then missionary or doggy to finish

Curious....Is the 2-3 min per position your choice or hers Pad?

[NCGUY1972 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close NCGUY1972]

ok

[Padawan787 Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Padawan787]

Curious....Is the 2-3 min per position your choice or hers Pad?

Depends, I like to get out of missionary as quickly as possible, she doesn't last very long while on top as it is tiring and she orgasms relatively quickly (or at least she thinks she orgasms, she thinks she has "mini" orgasms, nothing mind-blowing yet though ), Then we usually move onto another position, could be anything, then she asks me to finish, usually in missionary with her legs wrapped around me

It might actually last longer than 10mins, we don't have a clock in our room, so the time we attribute is estimated and arbitrary

[imac Retired Moderator Member of the Month Nov 12PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close imac]

Depends, I like to get out of missionary as quickly as possible, she doesn't last very long while on top as it is tiring and she orgasms relatively quickly (or at least she thinks she orgasms, she thinks she has "mini" orgasms, nothing mind-blowing yet though ), Then we usually move onto another position, could be anything, then she asks me to finish, usually in missionary with her legs wrapped around me

It might actually last longer than 10mins, we don't have a clock in our room, so the time we attribute is estimated and arbitrary

Give her a vaginal orgasm by deep spot stimulation and that will soon change.

[Padawan787 Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Padawan787]

Give her a vaginal orgasm by deep spot stimulation and that will soon change.

Don't think i'm long enough, 6.9" BPEL

[imac Retired Moderator Member of the Month Nov 12PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close imac]

Don't think i'm long enough, 6.9" BPEL

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