Woman Perspective on penis size

[noahundewhere Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close noahundewhere]

Yeah but it's more of what I've heard from a lot of people that make me think like it and that I get the paranoia that whoever I decide to have sex with etc may tell other people that I have a 'small penis' and most of the girls I like have had sex with black guys so that's even worse for me lol hopefully I'll get over these stuff soon lol

"...had sex with black guys...," Are you sure a black penis is any different from yours? Have you actually stood side by side with one and wept? It's an optical illusion of shadow; It's rubbish. I have known plenty of girls and we would get on the subject; they don't want a tool that's going to tear them apart...they're actually afraid of monster cocks.

Forget what other people say. God made us all in his image. It could be that some of us have a delusional, deflated self image...meaning we THINK we should be this or that. For instance, a lot of women watch soap operas, have you ever seen a truly ugly guy (or girl) in those? How about eating at the local breakfast pharmacy, take a look at the romance novels...is there an imperfect man on the cover? Is it that media presents "perfection" and makes you feel less than adequate? Do you listen to the critics on a movie, or would you rather form your own opinion by seeing the movie anyway?

My point is, that marketing has a tendency to create a false negative self image in those of us who are less fit or otherwise challenged. We think, "I know that's what the women want." so that's what we want to be. Bee yourself and be open to experience new things.
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As far as PE, do a manual release before going on a date, and don't be trigger happy while on the date. The build up of sexual tension can be pleasurable. And, if I am understanding your thread correctly, you are a virgin...this is NOT a dirty word, and nothing to be ashamed of. In this case, some PE probably should be expected. It's an old book, but read "The Joy of Sex". And above all, don't look for a porn star type experience, sex is about making an intimate and emotional connection with another person. Make her feel appreciated.

[streetbob Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close streetbob]

"sex is about making an intimate and emotional connection with another person. Make her feel appreciated."

Well said noahundewhere!

[someone_like_u Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close someone_like_u]

"...had sex with black guys...," Are you sure a black penis is any different from yours? Have you actually stood side by side with one and wept? It's an optical illusion of shadow; It's rubbish. I have known plenty of girls and we would get on the subject; they don't want a tool that's going to tear them apart...they're actually afraid of monster cocks.

Forget what other people say. God made us all in his image. It could be that some of us have a delusional, deflated self image...meaning we THINK we should be this or that. For instance, a lot of women watch soap operas, have you ever seen a truly ugly guy (or girl) in those? How about eating at the local breakfast pharmacy, take a look at the romance novels...is there an imperfect man on the cover? Is it that media presents "perfection" and makes you feel less than adequate? Do you listen to the critics on a movie, or would you rather form your own opinion by seeing the movie anyway?

My point is, that marketing has a tendency to create a false negative self image in those of us who are less fit or otherwise challenged. We think, "I know that's what the women want." so that's what we want to be. Bee yourself and be open to experience new things.
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As far as PE, do a manual release before going on a date, and don't be trigger happy while on the date. The build up of sexual tension can be pleasurable. And, if I am understanding your thread correctly, you are a virgin...this is NOT a dirty word, and nothing to be ashamed of. In this case, some PE probably should be expected. It's an old book, but read "The Joy of Sex". And above all, don't look for a porn star type experience, sex is about making an intimate and emotional connection with another person. Make her feel appreciated.

Great post

[Sttunnner Member Find all posts View Profile Close Sttunnner]

I can really visualize girth. I've never measured a partners girth so I dot have anything to compare that number too. But I have been with one person who was like 4-5 inches. That's a little small for me. It's wasn't the best but if I like the guy I can deal.

[SuperDuper12 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close SuperDuper12]

Just to ask anyone out there, will a durex regular size condom fit my size? i was meant to start the jp90 routine ages ago but didn't have the time so hopefully will now

[Trotsky slaying thedragon Banned Find all posts View Profile Close Trotsky slaying thedragon]

Most condoms fit most penises. Buy a pack and put it on. If it won't stay at least partially on your penis then you might need to go to a lower size. My guess is that your penis would be generally safe with a normal sized condom and the smaller ones might be too tight. Regardless you can check it out for yourself when you want too.

1. Stop worrying about everything. Women won't fuck a man with a 10 inch dick or a 2 inch dick if he's worrying all the time. Put negative thoughts out of your head and positive, constructive thoughts in there by violence. When you worry, "Am I big enough?" Force the thought, "I will give pleasure." I use the word "violence" because you may have to force yourself to lie to yourself and this will be an internal struggle. I am against self esteem and narcissism, but I am for self confidence and positivity. Thinking this way was crucial to the successes in my life, and I'm happily ignorant if in actuality constructive thinking played no part in those successes.

2. Don't seek validation from people telling you size doesn't matter. Don't seek resentment from people telling you size is all that matters. Don't search the internet for issues relating to penis problems from any type of perspective, only seek solutions to the problems you know you have. If you worry about ED, not only will girls not want to fuck you because you worry about your virility and you worry, but you don't even know if you have such a problem in the first place. So you could be turning off girls by worrying about something you don't have which wastes your time in seeking solutions to problems you do have.

3. Take problems step by step. Part of sexual performance is energy which requires diet and exercise. Another part is cleanliness which requires grooming and doing chores. Another part is physicality which requires technique and practice. Another part is education which requires reading. Another part is social. The key to getting great sex might be as simple as picking up your socks off the floor. It might be also be the case that you need to do a lot of work. Regardless, taking each issue that you know you have to improve and breaking it down to small steps and goals is the only way to get anything done.

4. Worry about your sexual pleasure first. This may sound selfish, but if you manage to lay (or pay and lay) a girl who doesn't inspire some sort of love or excitement in you then you'll continue the cycle of worrying that will prevent you from accomplishing great pleasure.

5. Go after girls who are interested in you and in longer term relationships. Such girls are unlikely to leave due to size as they are looking for other things besides a quick fuck. If you prematurely ejaculate or have sex issues you need to work on she won't leave and report details to her friends she'll likely look for opportunities to improve with you together. Even if you prematurely ejaculate inside a size queen who reports to the world how terrible you are, roll with the punch and keep going.

6. Stay away from politics, philosophy, theory, and other nonsense. Focus on practical things and day to day life. This may sound random, but worrying about those things will translate back to a negative feedback loop with stuff that actually matters to you.

I'm partly hypocritical here as some of what I preach I don't practice all the time. However, speaking from my experience I can tell you that the above is the most honest advice I can give you. The questions you ask are always asked, and behind them is an honest insecurity but that insecurity is largely rooted in fear of failure. Fear cannot be exorcised from the human experience, but action in the face of fear can give you what need if you earn it.

[DaddyDick Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close DaddyDick]

I believe that men miss out on some important points about vaginas. Vaginas are made to accommodate more than one sexual partner and I don't mean DPs. I am talking about evolution. If women only had good sex with their first partner or with whomever was the largest, humans may not be at the top of the food chain. Evolution designed women to be able to have good sex with multiple partners. These partners will be small, medium, or large and as a result 'Mother Nature' put the sweet spot only three inches in, so everyone could reach it. 'Mother Nature' also installed a clit, which is also installed where everyone can reach it.

Everything is right there within reach. The only hard part is creating the emotional connection.