Female Post-Orgasm.

[somebodyelse Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close somebodyelse]

Okay... sooo I know there's millions of threads on this site, but I want some input...

..Nay, NEED some input on this.

I'm a pleaser. I like to please and sometimes that overrides my ability to be pleased myself. I thank my ex for pointing this out for me as it's made orgasming a good bit easier for me during sex, but it still takes me a while to get comfortable and to focus.

Anyway, I've been talking to, and now dating this girl for a month now. She's about my age, but her life experiences are completely different from other women I've been with. So much so that she's never had an orgasm and subsequently, has no clue what post-orgasm feels like.

I need to know what an orgasm feels like for a woman. I pride myself on being really good at what I do, and while I can bring this girl to the precipice, and I know only SHE can push herself over, I need to know what it feels like. One time she was shaking from head to toe, her hands wouldn't stop moving, her legs were moving all over the place and she was extremely sensitive to touch on her body everywhere... She wasn't sure what she was feeling but she didn't have the "explosive" orgasm all over her body, just involuntary body movements and a heightened sensitivity.

Another time, another day, I was G-spot stimulating and she convulsed, face super red, eyes not focused on me or anything just struggling to gain her bearings, but she wasn't sure what she felt.

She has some aches and pains from a cold she has. She said they all disappeared for a few seconds, "It happened so fast that I don't know what happened, but my chest stopped hurting, I felt good, but then it was gone and I wanted more of it." I remember my first orgasm. It was like cold chills all over my body but it was so fast that I didn't know what happened.

I'm not sure if she had an orgasm so I reach out to all the female members here. What does it feel like post-orgasm? She's a pleaser too but she can't masturbate by herself because of personal trauma.

[islander Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close islander]

Hi SBE!! Nice to see you!

Because of all the glands we have inside, the clitoris and outside the clitoris is hard to tell where all the juice is coming from. Sounds like she is having an O just unable to relax to get it all in one lump. This takes TIME. Don't mention it or push for it. If she's wet she's aroused and happy. If she's dry then more foreplay etc.

You said she had a past trauma. This is major for a woman as all our stuff is mental before physical. Just enjoy her and let her learn as you go.

So happy to hear you are well and have a great girlfriend.

[BigO AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close BigO]

Sounds like had an orgasm, she showed all the signs.

[somebodyelse Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close somebodyelse]

Thanks for the replies. I was pretty confident she hit that point of orgasm but wasn't completely sure if she went over the edge.

She brought up the idea of using a toy a couple days ago, too. She wants to explore more... she wants me to use it on her. I was a little apprehensive but let her know that I was okay with whatever she wanted. I also told her that I don't want her to do anything to impress me.

Anyway, Thanks! Gonna keep working at getting her to relax. She's made huge progress, she's shaking and vibrating all the time now... I think she squirts now too... not a porn fetish kind of squirt but like when I G spot stimulate, I felt her squeeze down and get SUPER wet as she shudders. It kind of makes a sound like if you squeeze air out of your mouth through your teeth (with your tongue).

Either way, they say "enjoy the ride" and that's what I'm attempting to do

[MrsLooking4more Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Feb 2013PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close MrsLooking4more]

Islander and BigO are right on. Sounds like it is already happening she just doesn't realize and needs to relax to get more out of it. Since it looks like she is relaxing with you, just give it time. Trust is major issue in female heads specially if trauma is involved. The more she trust you the more she will relax and the stronger her sexual reactions will be. Just relax and enjoy the ride and thank you for caring about her pleasure that is HUGE. I thank God everyday for putting my husband in my life. He did what you are doing and completely changed my perception of sex, intercourse, love. Keep up the good work!

[camaro Senior Member Member of the month June 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close camaro]

HEHEHE...the first orgasm for an unprepared woman feels like a pound of hard drugs up the nose.There is the " DAMN " feeling where there is so much happening and no way to control it, they just do stupid things like roll, clench,close their legs and kick in the air, a soundless scream, and generally have a massive fit.

The look of surprise and content after it is all over is priceless.Granted, that one action on your part will give you a million % return.Be careful and let he not feel ashamed or abnormal because she was just knocked senseless by your mouth....

[somebodyelse Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close somebodyelse]

Yes, She did pull one of those maneuvers, LOL!

Oh well.

I don't want to end up chronicling the process to getting her to orgasm, so I'll stop it here LOL!

I appreciate the insight and I will continue my journey down this road as far as it leads.

[somebodyelse Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close somebodyelse]

Islander and BigO are right on. Sounds like it is already happening she just doesn't realize and needs to relax to get more out of it. Since it looks like she is relaxing with you, just give it time. Trust is major issue in female heads specially if trauma is involved. The more she trust you the more she will relax and the stronger her sexual reactions will be. Just relax and enjoy the ride and thank you for caring about her pleasure that is HUGE. I thank God everyday for putting my husband in my life. He did what you are doing and completely changed my perception of sex, intercourse, love. Keep up the good work!

It's mutual ML4m

I normally have been with women who just want to get off. I'm really good at doing that and they get what they want, so for her to be so focused on my pleasure too makes it SUPER easy for me to climax... Something completely new to me.